The overall shape is not really that important. It's as circular as it can be because that's the shape of the pressure vessel, which is that shape largely because it's more area/volume efficient than a square. And because it can handle higher stresses than a square, I suppose.
ESBWR core layout. Rods are always arranged at the center of a four-assembly square. There are that many because more would be unnecessary from a neutronics standpoint. When control rods inserted, it is easy to see that neutrons would be heavily shielded from traveling outside their little four-assembly box, which sufficiently stops fission.
There are several things you don't see. First of all, each assembly has hundreds of fuel pins in it. These pins are filled with fuel, water (for moderation), or burnable neutron poisons. The other thing you don't see is the varying enrichment of each assembly, due to both intentional enrichment loading differences and enrichment loss from being burned. A quarter to a third of the fuel is replaced each cycle (18-24 months), meaning that that are varying degrees of "freshness" and thus enrichment in the fuel. The arrangement is carefully planned for flux shaping purposes, both axially and radially. Varying degrees of insertion of different control rods also allows for flux shaping.
I have no idea if I answered any of your question.