Note to self: Don't let your "friends" sell you out.

[Need4Speed]

Originally posted by: yowolabi

Originally posted by: Need4Speed

Originally posted by: Bryophyte

Originally posted by: Need4Speed

Originally posted by: So
I'd stop being friends w/ him over it, and make him know why. Then I'd leave the bank.

I bet you have alot of friends. I'm assuming you practice what you preach and dump all your "friends" each time they do something stupid or you don't agree with...

If a friend of mine pulled a stunt like that, I would cut off contact with them. It is the least they deserve.

Well I am quite happy that none of you are friends of mine then. It certainly wouldn't occur to me to ruin a friendship over 80 bucks...the right approach would be to talk to him about it, let him now how you feel, work it out, and then forget about it...sheeesh.

I have a small group of people who I call friends. None of them would ever think about doing something like this, because their trustworthiness was part of the reason I made them a friend. If you think that enlarging your circle of friends by including those who will abuse your trust and steal from you is worthwhile, that's your choice. Not a smart choice, though.

re-read what I typed and you will see it's the opposite...but I'll spell it out since you nailed it on the head...

The OP said his "friend" took him to the cleaners. My argument is that if it is a "friend" he's allowed a pass, because everyone's entitled to at least one fvckup.

If on the other hand the OP had stated "a peep that I know" or an "acquaintance" then I would agree with what everyone else is saying.

To say that real "friends" don't do this sort of thing is lunacy, because even the best of friends sometimes have a lapse in judgment.

Hopefully that clears it up.

 

[kotss]

Originally posted by: Need4Speed

Originally posted by: yowolabi

Originally posted by: Need4Speed

Originally posted by: Bryophyte

Originally posted by: Need4Speed

Originally posted by: So
I'd stop being friends w/ him over it, and make him know why. Then I'd leave the bank.

I bet you have alot of friends. I'm assuming you practice what you preach and dump all your "friends" each time they do something stupid or you don't agree with...

If a friend of mine pulled a stunt like that, I would cut off contact with them. It is the least they deserve.

Well I am quite happy that none of you are friends of mine then. It certainly wouldn't occur to me to ruin a friendship over 80 bucks...the right approach would be to talk to him about it, let him now how you feel, work it out, and then forget about it...sheeesh.

I have a small group of people who I call friends. None of them would ever think about doing something like this, because their trustworthiness was part of the reason I made them a friend. If you think that enlarging your circle of friends by including those who will abuse your trust and steal from you is worthwhile, that's your choice. Not a smart choice, though.

re-read what I typed and you will see it's the opposite...but I'll spell it out since you nailed it on the head...

The OP said his "friend" took him to the cleaners. My argument is that if it is a "friend" he's allowed a pass, because everyone's entitled to at least one fvckup.

If on the other hand the OP had stated "a peep that I know" or an "acquaintance" then I would agree with what everyone else is saying.

To say that real "friends" don't do this sort of thing is lunacy, because even the best of friends sometimes have a lapse in judgment.

Hopefully that clears it up.

There is a difference between a lapse in judgment and intentionally betraying trust. (If that is what happened.) Friends are people you can trust, because they have earned it. When they betray your trust they are no longer "friends". I do not see how signing someone up for something they did not explicitly ask for could be considered a lapse of judgment. That is outright and blatant abuse of trust and a complete lack of ethics and is criminal in this situation.

 

[TreyRandom]

Originally posted by: Need4Speed
re-read what I typed and you will see it's the opposite...but I'll spell it out since you nailed it on the head...

The OP said his "friend" took him to the cleaners. My argument is that if it is a "friend" he's allowed a pass, because everyone's entitled to at least one fvckup.

If on the other hand the OP had stated "a peep that I know" or an "acquaintance" then I would agree with what everyone else is saying.

To say that real "friends" don't do this sort of thing is lunacy, because even the best of friends sometimes have a lapse in judgment.

Hopefully that clears it up.

When my friends have a "lapse in judgement", they miss a lunch date with me, or they forget to return something that they borrowed, or they invite someone else to a hockey game that they promised they'd take me to, or they forget to call me on my birthday. Minor crap. But there are certain things that my friends never do, and lines that they simply do not cross:

- They do not steal from me (signing me up for credit card offers and promotions is stealing from me).
- They do not hit on/flirt with my girlfriend/wife.
- They do not betray a trust we have established.
- They do not cause injury to me or any member of my family.
- They do not intentionally damage my possessions.

I'm sure there are more, but these are the most basic things that my friends simply wouldn't consider doing to me. For me, there's no "I'll give you another chance" after crossing these lines.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: LivinLaVivaPollo
A friend of mine is a "personal banker" at a large national bank. He calls me a few months ago while I was still looking for work, and was trying to get me to switch from the bank I was with at the time.

I was poor at the time, and didn't want to screw around with what little money I had. So I told him, just wait until I land my job and then I'll make the switch. Few weeks go by, I get my job, he calls me again and pitches his bank again. I say fine, let's switch, I just want a good checking account (free checks, free money orders, etc.)

He signs me up for checking, savings, visa card, master card, and a personal line of credit (which he tells me is "like a plastic credit card without the plastic"). I hated this. I didn't ask for ANY of this. I just wanted a checking account.

That's not all. So now, everytime I go to my new bank, because I have so many accounts open with them now, they keep pestering me about their rewards program. I say I don't need it, because I don't plan on using those cards.

Few weeks ago, I get a brochure from my banker friend and it's about the rewards program. I think to myself, uh.. I guess he just wants me to have more information.

Fast forward to today, on my new Visa card, I have charges of 30 dollars for the rewards program, and 50 dollars for a credit protection program.

Um... I did not authorize any of these charges. He signed me up for them without my authorization and then charged me for them and he probably gets a fat commission for them.

This angers me beyond belief, but I'm a nice guy, I don't want to get him into trouble. I'll find some way out of these self-renewing programs and try not to get him in trouble.

But I mean, why would you do that to your friends? I work in the networking industry... I'm not trying to sell fiber transceivers to my friends.. why do you have to sell out your friends man?

Cliffs:
Helped a friend out by switching to his bank.
He signed me up for all these BS services that I didn't ask for, and charged me for them.

EDIT:
Some more background.

Yeah, he's a really good friend of mine. Known him since high school, so about 9 years of friendship.

The money doesn't bother me, but it's the principle of it. The fact that he knows that if he did this to a stranger, he would get severely reprimanded, but if he did it to a friend, that it would be OK, because friends help eachother.

I mean, this isn't the only case. He was running some open a new account promo, and he called me at work more than a couple of times, pretending to say what's up and trying to catch up, but then the conversation would inevitably end up trying to get me to refer other people I knew to open an account.

I always attributed this to his character. But never figured it would get to this.

You think that's bad, try having a friend who's in the Insurance Business.

 

[So]

Originally posted by: TreyRandom

Originally posted by: Need4Speed
re-read what I typed and you will see it's the opposite...but I'll spell it out since you nailed it on the head...

The OP said his "friend" took him to the cleaners. My argument is that if it is a "friend" he's allowed a pass, because everyone's entitled to at least one fvckup.

If on the other hand the OP had stated "a peep that I know" or an "acquaintance" then I would agree with what everyone else is saying.

To say that real "friends" don't do this sort of thing is lunacy, because even the best of friends sometimes have a lapse in judgment.

Hopefully that clears it up.

When my friends have a "lapse in judgement", they miss a lunch date with me, or they forget to return something that they borrowed, or they invite someone else to a hockey game that they promised they'd take me to, or they forget to call me on my birthday. Minor crap. But there are certain things that my friends never do, and lines that they simply do not cross:

- They do not steal from me (signing me up for credit card offers and promotions is stealing from me).
- They do not hit on/flirt with my girlfriend/wife.
- They do not betray a trust we have established.
- They do not cause injury to me or any member of my family.
- They do not intentionally damage my possessions.

I'm sure there are more, but these are the most basic things that my friends simply wouldn't consider doing to me. For me, there's no "I'll give you another chance" after crossing these lines.

Exactly.

 

[Tuktuk]

Stop being a pushover. Much of the world is made of unbelievably selfish people and personally, when I recognize that trait I lose all respect for them and make it a point not to be taken advantage of. You know the kind of person who asks for a favor.. and then another.. and another.. and when you are in need they are suddenly busy. And they only call you when they need something. That's what kind of person the OP's friend is. Really worthless individuals, it is because of them that people aren't as giving.