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not keeping in touch with most people, am I in the norm?

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Dear Summer

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In high school, I graduated and went to college. I probably keep in touch with a total of TWO people from h.s.

In college, I guess this is where the bulk is, but after I graduated I have no kept in touch with more than 3.

As I work and move from here and there, I rarely keep in touch with any co-worker. Sometimes I just don't feel like it when I can move anywhere in the country and meet similar people and have the same type of acquaintance. I wasn't close to them in any special way anyway so I can meet someone new today and it'll be the same thing. Maybe I'll die alone but I just don't give a crap

 
Sounds like you're probably a sociopath. You might as well start looking for a place to bury bodies now.
 
When you get older, computers, video games, movies, tv, and anything else you might be interested in right now will lose their appeal, you will get really bored and won't have anyone to hang out with.

What kind of personality disorder(s) do you have?
 
I haven't kept in touch with anyone from high school or college. I'm an Air Force brat and haven't kept in touch with any of the friends I've made in the many different places I've lived.
 
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
OP:
People are highly over rated. So no.
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99.9% of people aren't worth keeping in touch with.
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We should exchange contact info and talk about this again in 10 years.

 
yeah this definitely applies to me too. I have absolutely no problem socializing and interacting with folks, but relationships for me boil down to "out of sight, out of mind." It's not even intentional, just the way I'm wired. For what it's worth, I do tend to find socializing/people somewhat exhausting and I don't usually look forward to interacting however I usually enjoy myself once I finally break down and do so.
 
Same here. I just don't feel like maintaining these relationships. Though I can definitely see practical advantages in doing so.
 
I don't keep in touch with many people from HS now that I'm in college but I'm not sure if that's a bad thing.
 
It's kind of a bad attitude to have about relationships in general.

If you don't give yourself the chance to become better friends with people of course you will not have many close friends.

That said, I try to keep in contact with as many people as possible, as long as I remembered I liked them. I enjoy traveling to visit people and whatnot as well.

But I'm the type of person who will not put effort into people who are slack with communication. I've had to let go of a couple of really good friends because of this factor, it's sad but if someone isn't willing to put the effort into staying in contact with me, then I don't want to put the effort back.
 
Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
OP:
People are highly over rated. So no.
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99.9% of people aren't worth keeping in touch with.
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Truth.

I have kept up with none of my high school friends and only a couple of Navy friends.

The most important people in your life are the ones you interact with on a daily basis.
 
did you have friends that you just didn't keep in touch with, or did you just not have (m)any friends to begin with?

my "core" group of friends in high school was about 12 people -- my real friends, not the periphery friends/associates that I'd chat with outside of class or hang out with in the cafeteria, or say hello to at a party. I'm less than 3 months away from my 10 year HS anniversary and 6 of those 12 still make up my core group of friends (of the 6 who aren't, I lost 4 when my BF and I broke up and a war over who got which mutual friend ensued, 1 was the BF himself, and the last just kinda fell by the wayside when he moved out to the west coast; we keep in touch, but I wouldn't really call us friends anymore, just associates).

staying friends with your college buddies is a little bit harder as you graduate and scatter over the country (as opposed to my HS friends, who were all from the same general area to begin with and almost all moved back there after college graduation)... but of core group of 9 friends from college, I really make an effort to keep in touch with 7 of them (one of the lost ones had major psychological issues and kinda dropped off the grid (and he's got a super common name so I can't even e-stalk him) and the other I just lost touch with). we don't hang out all the time or anything since we all live far away, but between email and blogs and instant messenger, I'd still consider us all to be friends.

it takes an effort, but I think it's an effort worth taking... as you get older, friends become harder to come by, and I'm from a pretty small family. growing up, my mom's friends were like my surrogate aunts and uncles since they were all she had as her family. if I have a kid someday, I'd really want them to grow up in an environment like that since my friends are pretty much the bulk of my family as well.
 
I very rarely see my old friends anymore. They don't call me, so I don't bother either... if that makes sense.
 
As long as you're happy one way or the other it doesn't matter how many, or how little friends you keep in touch with - despite the bevy of articles or TV shows that suggest you might have a personality issue, giving it a list of possible labels, official looking docs with white coats suggesting meds. The norm is what you make it, and if you're happy with it that's all that matters IMO.
 
I don't talk to anyone from high school and I don't want to. When I hear about people hanging out in the same old crowds I tend to think it's a little strange. I moved on, traveled a lot, lived in different places and met different people. I don't need to hear about gossip from high school days.

I have a small group of close friends and family that I can call on for anything and know they'll be there. That's all I need.
 
I kept in touch with one friend from HS. I have kept in touch with two friends from college. *Shrugs*

I keep in close touch with all three of my siblings though.
 
Originally posted by: Dear Summer
In high school, I graduated and went to college. I probably keep in touch with a total of TWO people from h.s.

In college, I guess this is where the bulk is, but after I graduated I have no kept in touch with more than 3.

As I work and move from here and there, I rarely keep in touch with any co-worker. Sometimes I just don't feel like it when I can move anywhere in the country and meet similar people and have the same type of acquaintance. I wasn't close to them in any special way anyway so I can meet someone new today and it'll be the same thing. Maybe I'll die alone but I just don't give a crap
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i do this too.


i have never kept in touch with any co-worker.

go somewhere new, make new friends, who needs the old ones? Like someone else, said, out of sight, out of mind.
 
Most of my high school friends were kind of losers, but I keep in touch with my college friends. I see them at least twice a year. Once at our annual summer golf tournament, and again at homecoming.
 
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