Nicest way to tell a coworker I am engaged?

[Medicine Bear]

Does this involve bar bathroom sex in any way shape or form?

 

[Psyber]

Originally posted by: Juice Box

Originally posted by: Nebor
How the hell do you end up with an extra ticket for a movie? Accidentally said you want to buy 2 instead of one?

I can name one guy who will be crying alone through a crappy movie tonight.

haha I was thinking the same thing

Maybe his other date ditched him? 😕

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Juice Box
dont do the whole "mentioning your fiance" thing...that feels terible to hear. In all honesty next time he asks just be honest "Id love to go, but you DO know im enganged right?" or something like that....that you like him as a friend but he needs to know. But i am not a fan of someone just talking about their fiancee around the person interested in them...hoping they get the idea

Why does it feel terrible to hear? 🙁

I could say what you suggested, as well. It might be kinda weird though, because if he asked me out to a movie and then I told him "Yes btw I'm engaged," he would have to backpeddle and un-ask. 😵

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: FoBoT
you wear an engagement ring?

he must be stupid. just tell him you are getting married and you'll invite him to the wedding if he brings a nice present and a date

Yes, I have a ring on my left finger. I didn't want to hold it up and say, "Ring, b!tch." 😛 I think most guys don't notice engagement rings/jewelry, though?

I know some of us definitely look for them.
Some don't care though, or look at it as more of a challenge.

 

[fbrdphreak]

Next time you're talking, pretend your cell is on vibrate or something and pick it up like ur talking to ur fiance

Or when he's nearby talk to someone else about your fiance

etc etc etc

 

[hevnsnt]

Originally posted by: Tomato
A very nice IT guy came by my cube yesterday looking for my coworker, who was not in. He asked what our division does, and we chatted for a little bit. I have a mini-shrine of pictures of my fiance on my cubicle wall, but wasn't sure he saw it.

The next day, he called and asked what I was doing after work. Apparently he had "an extra ticket to see Fantastic Four" and was wondering if I would like to join him.

I told him I had to volunteer that night (which I did), and he said, "Maybe some other time."

I'm assuming he was asking me out on a date v. "I want to get to know you better as a friend," and don't want things to get awkward. What would be the most polite/non-awkward way of letting him know that I am not available?

I was thinking I could shoot him a quick e-mail asking him if he'd like to hang out with my fiance and I sometime, but if that's not the best idea I'm open to suggestions.

I didnt read any replys, but I would say something like:

Do you happen to have 2 extra tickets, so my fiance can go with us?

 

[theGlove]

don't let a silly thing like an engangement stop you from having a good time 🙂

 

[Juice Box]

you just KINDA put it in a wierd situation...not mentioning it right away....as of now he thinks he has a chance......(i dont know WHY he didnt ask around the office first if he didnt know you that well 😛)

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: jumpr
Why don't you just tell him you're engaged? If it were me, I wouldn't take it as an insult; it's just fact.

True, it's good to know you wouldn't be offended/insulted. I'm not sure how to just bring it up, though - "Hi, want to go see a movie?" "Sorry, I'm engaged."

Does that flow okay?

"Look, you are a super nice guy and I'd like to get to know you better, but I'm getting married in April and I'm just not available. But I'd like to keep you as a friend."

I like this one too. :thumbsup:

Thanks for the suggestions, they've been extremely helpful. 🙂

 

[pclstyle]

accept, and then when he comes to pick you up, show him what a psychotic melodramatic b!tch you are. start shrieking insanities as soon as you open the door, then start bawling randomly. "DO I LOOK PRETTY? FVCKING LOOK AT ME? WHY CAN'T YOU LOOK AT ME? [hysterics]" will work pretty well at critical moments.

tape a used condom to your dress as well.

 

[NickelTitanium]

Tell him when he come over again.

 

[hypn0tik]

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
If he asks again, just say "Sorry, I have plans with my fiance tonight. I can't make it."

I like that one a lot! 🙂 Thanks hypn0tik, if anything like it happens again I'll say that.

Haha. No worries. Girls have said that to me before. Replace 'fiance' with 'boyfriend'.

 

Originally posted by: hevnsnt

Originally posted by: Tomato
A very nice IT guy came by my cube yesterday looking for my coworker, who was not in. He asked what our division does, and we chatted for a little bit. I have a mini-shrine of pictures of my fiance on my cubicle wall, but wasn't sure he saw it.

The next day, he called and asked what I was doing after work. Apparently he had "an extra ticket to see Fantastic Four" and was wondering if I would like to join him.

I told him I had to volunteer that night (which I did), and he said, "Maybe some other time."

I'm assuming he was asking me out on a date v. "I want to get to know you better as a friend," and don't want things to get awkward. What would be the most polite/non-awkward way of letting him know that I am not available?

I was thinking I could shoot him a quick e-mail asking him if he'd like to hang out with my fiance and I sometime, but if that's not the best idea I'm open to suggestions.

I didnt read any replys, but I would say something like:

Do you happen to have 2 extra tickets, so my fiance can go with us?

Teh LOSAR. That's a surefire way to make the guy feel like a HUGE chump.

 

[UNCjigga]

Wear the effing ring.

 

[GTaudiophile]

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: FoBoT
you wear an engagement ring?

he must be stupid. just tell him you are getting married and you'll invite him to the wedding if he brings a nice present and a date

Yes, I have a ring on my left finger. I didn't want to hold it up and say, "Ring, b!tch." 😛 I think most guys don't notice engagement rings/jewelry, though?

I personally do look for a diamond ring. If she has one, she's off limits.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: iroast
what you should have said was, 'oh, i'm supposed to see that w/my fiance later this week'. heh

Heh... unfortunately, I was not quick-thinking enough to come up with that on the spot. 😛

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Tomato
A very nice IT guy came by my cube yesterday looking for my coworker, who was not in. He asked what our division does, and we chatted for a little bit. I have a mini-shrine of pictures of my fiance on my cubicle wall, but wasn't sure he saw it.

The next day, he called and asked what I was doing after work. Apparently he had "an extra ticket to see Fantastic Four" and was wondering if I would like to join him.

I told him I had to volunteer that night (which I did), and he said, "Maybe some other time."

I'm assuming he was asking me out on a date v. "I want to get to know you better as a friend," and don't want things to get awkward. What would be the most polite/non-awkward way of letting him know that I am not available?

I was thinking I could shoot him a quick e-mail asking him if he'd like to hang out with my fiance and I sometime, but if that's not the best idea I'm open to suggestions.

Best way to be broken the news: "I'm currently engaged, but are you up for a threesome?"

 

[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: Juice Box
dont do the whole "mentioning your fiance" thing...that feels terible to hear. In all honesty next time he asks just be honest "Id love to go, but you DO know im enganged right?" or something like that....that you like him as a friend but he needs to know. But i am not a fan of someone just talking about their fiancee around the person interested in them...hoping they get the idea

Why does it feel terrible to hear? 🙁

I could say what you suggested, as well. It might be kinda weird though, because if he asked me out to a movie and then I told him "Yes btw I'm engaged," he would have to backpeddle and un-ask. 😵

I suppose....just kinda seems like you are trying to avoid telling him directly if you just go around talking about 'ohhh my fiance" (seinfeld)...and i think itd mean more to him if you just told him...but make it clear you want to be friends

Seinfeld - "Oh...I cannot find my Fiance...where is my fiance?!

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: mugs
An "extra ticket" for a movie? What a dork. Punch him in the eye with your diamond ring, he'll figure it out. 😛

Funny, but mean. 😛

It's hard to ask someone out... I asked my fiance out initially and was terribly nervous/tongue-tied when I did. Much respect to those who make the first move, it definitely takes balls!!

 

[Mo0o]

"Fantastic 4? Oh I already saw that with my fiancee"

problem solved

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: Tomato

The next day, he called and asked what I was doing after work. Apparently he had "an extra ticket to see Fantastic Four" and was wondering if I would like to join him.

I told him I had to volunteer that night (which I did), and he said, "Maybe some other time."

I'm assuming he was asking me out on a date v. "I want to get to know you better as a friend,".

My god you're a sharp one!

 

[torpid]

Wow, a computer geek asking a girl out to see a comic book movie with jessica alba. That's a smooth move. The next date movie might be a Travis Bickle date movie.

But yeah, I think the most sensitive thing to do would be to bring up your fiance outside of the context of a date. Maybe you could be proactive about it, something like, out of the blue ask if he liked fantastic four, because you and your fiance saw it and thought it was fun.

 

[hevnsnt]

Originally posted by: jumpr

Originally posted by: hevnsnt

Originally posted by: Tomato
A very nice IT guy came by my cube yesterday looking for my coworker, who was not in. He asked what our division does, and we chatted for a little bit. I have a mini-shrine of pictures of my fiance on my cubicle wall, but wasn't sure he saw it.

The next day, he called and asked what I was doing after work. Apparently he had "an extra ticket to see Fantastic Four" and was wondering if I would like to join him.

I told him I had to volunteer that night (which I did), and he said, "Maybe some other time."

I'm assuming he was asking me out on a date v. "I want to get to know you better as a friend," and don't want things to get awkward. What would be the most polite/non-awkward way of letting him know that I am not available?

I was thinking I could shoot him a quick e-mail asking him if he'd like to hang out with my fiance and I sometime, but if that's not the best idea I'm open to suggestions.

I didnt read any replys, but I would say something like:

Do you happen to have 2 extra tickets, so my fiance can go with us?

Teh LOSAR. That's a surefire way to make the guy feel like a HUGE chump.

Um.. Yeah, that was the point. If she is wearing a RING, he deserves to be chump'd

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Juice Box
you just KINDA put it in a wierd situation...not mentioning it right away....as of now he thinks he has a chance......(i dont know WHY he didnt ask around the office first if he didnt know you that well 😛)

🙁

I wish he had asked, his coworkers all know...!

 

[Juice Box]

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: Juice Box
you just KINDA put it in a wierd situation...not mentioning it right away....as of now he thinks he has a chance......(i dont know WHY he didnt ask around the office first if he didnt know you that well 😛)

🙁

I wish he had asked, his coworkers all know...!

haha yeah....and like...now he knows you know he's interested too :shocked: