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Need some serious advice ***UPDATE 24 Jan 2006**
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Schfifty Five
Lifer
Your sister is 51 yet she relies on mom/dad's credit card? WTF is up with that? Let me guess, she's a deadbeat with no job, no house, no car, no husband, no future...am I right?
If you've got power of attorney you can do whatever you decide with her accounts. My sister tried to pull the same kind of crap w/our mom. I had all her cards cancelled, changed her bank accounts, and had all her bills and bank statements sent to me. Yes, it's a massive pain in the ass, but it sounds like it's the only way to protect your mom.
I have a similar situation going on.
My grandma died in 2004, and left everything to my brother (age 37 now) and me
She had roughly 100k in cash and CD's, and her house with a little over an acre.
I wrote him a check for over 40k last October. As of about 6 months ago, he has not one penny left. He's living in her house, and has no phone, or power.
Now he's accumulated several non-licensed cars (you're allowed one in your driveway), all sorts of trash and scrap, hasn't mowed the lawn.
Since we technically co-own the land, any fines or judgements he incurs from the city affect me, too. So far, he's racked up over 7k in fines.
And they are on us again about all the junk in the yard.
My grandma would be turning over in her grave if she could see what is happening.
I am in process of finding someone to buy the place....I hate to sell it to a developer, but it is prime real estate, and I can't be tied to him anymore.
My mom is worried that he'll blow the proceeds and end up sponging off her....and she's probably right. But I don't care, I just want any financial ties to him gone.
My grandma died in 2004, and left everything to my brother (age 37 now) and me
She had roughly 100k in cash and CD's, and her house with a little over an acre.
I wrote him a check for over 40k last October. As of about 6 months ago, he has not one penny left. He's living in her house, and has no phone, or power.
Now he's accumulated several non-licensed cars (you're allowed one in your driveway), all sorts of trash and scrap, hasn't mowed the lawn.
Since we technically co-own the land, any fines or judgements he incurs from the city affect me, too. So far, he's racked up over 7k in fines.
And they are on us again about all the junk in the yard.
My grandma would be turning over in her grave if she could see what is happening.
I am in process of finding someone to buy the place....I hate to sell it to a developer, but it is prime real estate, and I can't be tied to him anymore.
My mom is worried that he'll blow the proceeds and end up sponging off her....and she's probably right. But I don't care, I just want any financial ties to him gone.
are you sure your mom's health precludes her moving from texas to colorado? I mean.. one little trip, weighed against the sketchy care she's bound to be getting there... if it was me, I'd move. 🙂
my parents get their monthly precriptions by mail at a much lower cost than they would get at the pharmacy.. I do n't know the details of that but it shouldn't be too hard to find out, she must get medicare, right?
I'd move her. there's bound to be some way to do it, that is safe for her.. safer than staying where she is.. and once she's out of your sister's house, then you don't have to worry about the sister anymore.
anno
my parents get their monthly precriptions by mail at a much lower cost than they would get at the pharmacy.. I do n't know the details of that but it shouldn't be too hard to find out, she must get medicare, right?
I'd move her. there's bound to be some way to do it, that is safe for her.. safer than staying where she is.. and once she's out of your sister's house, then you don't have to worry about the sister anymore.
anno
OutHouse
Lifer
pretty much, she ran away when she was 16 and eloped with her POS husband and has NEVER held a job other than squirting out 4 kids (iam 37 and my oldest nephew is 35). only one of her kids has graduated High School, her POS husband got injured on the job about 15 years ago and has not worked since and has been on methadone for pain managment for his back ever since.
5 years ago my parents had to buy my sisters house and pay the back taxes or the county was going to take it. Just before my dad died 2 years ago he gave my dumbass sister the deed to the house. damn i wish i had that right now.
Philippine Mango
Diamond Member
I'm sorry this is all happening to her, sounds like shes a real moron. Shows how children with in a family can differ so greatly. I wish the best of luck to you in dealing with this situation. The thing I'd do is do everything you can to get your mother to live with you because it's clear that your sister doesn't care. Your sister reminds me of my mother's sister who sounds almost exactly like her (sister lives in a trailer).
When my grandmother died, my mother's sister didn't do jack ******, she didn't even bother to come to the funeral and claimed that since my mom was taking care of grandma, "it was her problem". Dumb bitch....
xgsound
Golden Member
It sounds to me as if the biggest problem here is that your mother needs care and won't get it from her.
There are ambulance services that transport people long distances with a nurse or doctor at hand as necessary. They can be land based or by air. I'm sure they're not cheap if you have the money, but there are also volunteer services. I've seen several TV specials that showed many volunteer pilots, aircraft owners, nurses, and doctors involved in this, but I can't remember the name of the group. Check with your local hospitals for more definative local information.
Jim
There are ambulance services that transport people long distances with a nurse or doctor at hand as necessary. They can be land based or by air. I'm sure they're not cheap if you have the money, but there are also volunteer services. I've seen several TV specials that showed many volunteer pilots, aircraft owners, nurses, and doctors involved in this, but I can't remember the name of the group. Check with your local hospitals for more definative local information.
Jim
imported_Mike
Lifer
wow, that is just one all around bad situation
your sister is a raging biznatch. I cannot believe that your mother allows herself/you allow your mother to stay with her! Your sister shouldn't even have access to the tools necessary to take advantage of your mother! (ie the credit card, keys to the house, INFORMATION!) I hope you nail her ace in court.
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