Need some girl help,, made an a-hole of myself last night

[pX]

i gotta call soon. she told me she was getting uo to go shoping this mornig,, so i may not even be able to catch her.. i am going to a concert tonight,, leaving after lunch so i couldnt later.. and i dont want to leave this unresolved.
skoorb goood idea!!!! heh

 

[Maverick2002]

Well, good luck. Just don't say anything stupid. And if she sounds like she's getting upset, be the better person and tell her you'll talk to her later. Then call her tomorrow.

 

[pX]

ok,, im going to take a 20 min break from work and go out to my car and do this.. cross your fingers,, thanks for the words of wisdom guys,,, it has really helped me with some real perspective onthis deal... i was goign to call an just make a joke of it ,, but now i see this is serious sh!t,... thanks guys..

 

[no0b]

I'm just wondering,, why does your text have so many,, coma's?

 

[Pepsei]

Originally posted by: Cattlegod
its too late man. you blew it, if she does anything with you from this point on, it will be just to humor you because she is to nice to say "no".

yea, you're screwed

 

[jjones]

Don't be a bigger idiot than you were last night. Call her up when it's reasonable; make it short and sweet that you just want to sincerely apologize for behaving like a drunken idiot. If the conversation goes any further, fine; play it by ear and try to leave off on a good note.

Then immediately after hanging up, buy her the most expensive floral arrangement you can afford and have it sent to her with a little card. Don't say you're sorry on the card just say something to the effect of "Thinking of you and hoping you have a very nice day". Something positive rather than negative or apologetic.

Leave it at that. She'll either call you or she won't.

Of course, I'm only giving you this advice if you give a sh!t about her, which it sounds as if you do.

 

[Maverick2002]

oh boy ...

 

[pX]

ok yeah... damn. i dont know how to read this.
i called her on her cell. she acted really wierd. wierd like in a "I'm out with another guy" wierd. she said she couldn't talk, i said, "ok I'm sorry, and I'm sorry about last night. I have been worrying all morning about this, and really wanted to just apologize",, she just sorta giggles,, then she says something about calling someone in a low voice,, im like "whats going on",, shes like "nothing",, but she isnt saying anything,,, then all the sudden she is like "gotta go gotta go gotta go", and i say, "sorry" and hang up.
so i guess its safe to say its over. i am pretty sure this prick who I was going off on,, an ex,, took her "shoping" this morning. I shouldn't even start thinking about that,, thats what got me in trouble before. i need to forget this girl,, now that i am hated,, i really do.

should i try the flowers,,, or does that come off too psycho....

 

[StageLeft]

Originally posted by: pX
ok yeah... damn. i dont know how to read this.
i called her on her cell. she acted really wierd. wierd like in a "I'm out with another guy" wierd. she said she couldn't talk, i said, "ok I'm sorry, and I'm sorry about last night. I have been worrying all morning about this, and really wanted to just apologize",, she just sorta giggles,, then she says something about calling someone in a low voice,, im like "whats going on",, shes like "nothing",, but she isnt saying anything,,, then all the sudden she is like "gotta go gotta go gotta go", and i say, "sorry" and hang up.
so i guess its safe to say its over. i am pretty sure this prick who I was going off on,, an ex,, took her "shoping" this morning. I shouldn't even start thinking about that,, thats what got me in trouble before. i need to forget this girl,, now that i am hated,, i really do.

should i try the flowers,,, or does that come off too psycho....

No, at this point don't waste money on her. This is in total ruin now - you're best just to forget it and I think you know that. You can't ressurect what you had. THe "gotta go gotta go gotta go" TRUST ME - do not call her or try to do anything with her again because it will just waste your time and give you false hope. It's over. I don't want to come off harsh but you do not want to waste time on her either.

 

[Cattlegod]

cut your losses!! pronto!!

it is done dude.

the only hope you have left is using her as a booty call, but if she ain't like that then forget it, don't waste any more time.

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
No, at this point don't waste money on her. This is in total ruin now - you're best just to forget it and I think you know that. You can't ressurect what you had. THe "gotta go gotta go gotta go" TRUST ME - do not call her or try to do anything with her again because it will just waste your time and give you false hope. It's over. I don't want to come off harsh but you do not want to waste time on her either.

i wish i met you 6 months ago.

-=bmacd=-

 

[jjones]

Originally posted by: Skoorb

Originally posted by: pX
ok yeah... damn. i dont know how to read this.
i called her on her cell. she acted really wierd. wierd like in a "I'm out with another guy" wierd. she said she couldn't talk, i said, "ok I'm sorry, and I'm sorry about last night. I have been worrying all morning about this, and really wanted to just apologize",, she just sorta giggles,, then she says something about calling someone in a low voice,, im like "whats going on",, shes like "nothing",, but she isnt saying anything,,, then all the sudden she is like "gotta go gotta go gotta go", and i say, "sorry" and hang up.
so i guess its safe to say its over. i am pretty sure this prick who I was going off on,, an ex,, took her "shoping" this morning. I shouldn't even start thinking about that,, thats what got me in trouble before. i need to forget this girl,, now that i am hated,, i really do.

should i try the flowers,,, or does that come off too psycho....

No, at this point don't waste money on her. This is in total ruin now - you're best just to forget it and I think you know that. You can't ressurect what you had. THe "gotta go gotta go gotta go" TRUST ME - do not call her or try to do anything with her again because it will just waste your time and give you false hope. It's over. I don't want to come off harsh but you do not want to waste time on her either.

I have to agree; this one's pretty much history. Don't waste anymore time on it but don't completely write it off either. Time passes and you may run into her again and start up fresh. Who knows? Things like this have happened to me (not being an idiot drunk but having a disagreement about something) where we went our separate ways only to start up again at a later date. I never burned any bridges because I always looked out for my future, but I never thought twice about any girl when ever I thought that things were not happening at the moment. Just move on and see what the future holds.

 

[pX]

OK,, i am actually going to take you alls advice this time.. arghh, headache coming on,, hangover city now. i am not going to make contact with her ever again, if she wants to call, she can. there are plenty of fish in the sea,,, ummm, right?

 

[bmacd]

let her call you. You'll get over her...eventually...


-=bmacd=-

 

[Shelly21]

Skoorb is right on this.

That guy may be a prick to you, he's probably still her bf. Which may explain why she got mad at you.

If you send her flower, couldn't you picture her showing it to him while laughing at you?

Don't waste money at this point. Do something else constructive.

 

[p0ntif]

yep, plenty of fish in the sea. Oh and some helpful advice. Don't drink again . . .EVER.

 

[pX]

man this sucks.. just yesterday evening we were talking about getting more serious,, like being a package as they say. i had a couple other girl "leads", as I like to call them,, and I kinda forgot about them because of our talk earlier yesterday...
maybe all is not lost, she acts wierd sometimes, who knows what was goign on. nevertheless, I will not call or IM her,, she had talk to me if she wants,,, but,, I guess I doubt it. oh well, no more drinking,, this is the first time I have ever been drunk out in public,, walking downtown baltimore,,, fuckin a,, i hugged some homeless guy and gave him some money,, he was saying some stuff about "im your brothers keeper",, he was drunk as balls. man,, im an idiot.

 

[smp]

hey, can you talk right now for a couple minutes.

look, i am really sorry about last night, i was a total asshole. i rarely get drunk, and last night i just wasnt thinking. i thought it would loosen me up so maybe i wasnt so nervous around you and it back fired. i said a lot of stupid things, that i really regret. i couldnt stop thinking about you this morning so i had to call. i care a lot about you, i have never met anyone like you, and i dont want this to f-ck it all up. if we do keep going out, or even if we dont, i will never get like that again. im sorry.

Ummm ... I guess it's too late now, but sounding like a wuss isn't gonna help either.

On a side note, if you want to try something with her I have a nice ring that you might be interested in 🙂
Sorry about the harsh situation. This is a learning experience though. Drink more and learn how to ride it. Talk less when you're with girls, do a lot of listening.

edit: I meant; Drink more in the company of friends and not women, until you are a hardened boozer, at which point drinking will actually make you more charming. You just gotta know your limits.

Oh and the homeless thing, that is a bad move dude .. I love smelly homeless dudes too, but I never hug them infront of girls.

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: smp

Ummm ... I guess it's too late now, but sounding like a wuss isn't gonna help either.

=www.disobey.ca/ring]ring that you might be interested in 🙂

Talk less when you're with girls, do a lot of listening.

So you know...these are generalizations...not every girl is the same (duh!). I tried the "let her talk...be a good listener...speak only when you have to" thing and it completely backfired in my face. She said she got tired of talking and was afraid i didn't like her b/c me not talking=no interest to her.

-=bmacd=-

 

[Alex]

she had sex with some dirty guy like 15 times a couple weeks

either you were very drunk and misinterpreted what she said or DAMN!! either way 15 is quite impressive 😀

 

[smp]

So you know...these are generalizations...not every girl is the same (duh!). I tried the "let her talk...be a good listener...speak only when you have to" thing and it completely backfired in my face. She said she got tired of talking and was afraid i didn't like her b/c me not talking=no interest to her.

I said 'talk less' .. not 'be a mute' .. 🙂
If you talk a lot, it's like supply and demand .. you raise the supply of your words and the meaning decreases .. just bust out a few gems every now and then. It's all about balance.

Dude if she had sex with 15 guys last week and you think she is 'the one' then you have a lot to learn. Not only that but she sounds fvckin mean if you ask me.

 

[Alex]

dude youve got the right idea... dont call her or IM or anything. if she calls thats ok but dont go chasin after her cuz it gets a lil pathetic no offence...

 

[pX]

Originally posted by: Shelly21
Skoorb is right on this.

That guy may be a prick to you, he's probably still her bf. Which may explain why she got mad at you.

If you send her flower, couldn't you picture her showing it to him while laughing at you?

Don't waste money at this point. Do something else constructive.

that is exactly what I was thinking, theyd be laughing. but last night, she was talking about how he wanted to go back out with her and she told him she was interested in someone else (refering to me),, this is while i was drunk too. and she also explained how he is a washed up loser,,, 26,, no job, lives with parents.. which i retorted with explaining how smart she was and that she needed to do something with her life (at this point she has no aspirations whatsoever, and one of the themes of our convserations was being happy in the future),, i gave example after example of how clever she was and what i thought she should do,, she was really happy,, laid over on me smiling, i held her. 5 minutes later I asked "give me the chronological order bacwards of your past sexual experiences",,,, guys,, not a good question!
ok,, now im rambling,, need to do work..

 

[smp]

cuz it gets a lil pathetic no offence...
True that .... nothing is more pathetic than a guy who doesn't know when to quit.

she was really happy,, laid over on me smiling, i held her. 5 minutes later I asked "give me the chronological order bacwards of your past sexual experiences

BLAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA .. dude you are too funny!
There is nothing wrong with being 26, unemployed and living with your parents ... you got a problem with that? :|

 

[pX]

it was a legitimate question man.. and she gave them back to me. but there was one surprise that she hadn't told me about before,, which caused me to get mad,, which is probably why she is mad now. oh well.