drinkmorejava
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- Jun 24, 2004
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I hate to be the one to tell you but from what I've read here, are you ready for this,
You are just a Pu$$y.
He walks all over you because you let him. End of story.
You are just a Pu$$y.
He walks all over you because you let him. End of story.
There are only 6 weks left in the semester, let it ride out and then things will resolve themselves when you leave.
His behaviour strikes me to be more then odd. Has he always been this way? It sounds like either he's just super immature or there may be a deeper issue here. I'm not one to subscribe to all sorts of pyschobabble, but this sounds like someone who is bi-polar or even schitzo.
Or he's just an asshole.
Either way, stand up for yourself.
Or he's just an asshole.
Either way, stand up for yourself.
1) beat his ass...
2) beat his ass some more
3) give him a nice talking too (with ur knee in his throat) about how his life isnt that bad and he should take things for granted
4) tell him to get a job
5) tell him if he touches your ****** again...you will beat his ass all over...
6) beat his ass more...
7) repeat...
i had the same situation as u (except i am the younger by 2yrs) and my brother was constantly pissing me off...i usually just locked my door (and kept it locked while i was gone) and put some loud music on to drown out his bitching...
edit:
to everyone who says cut him off. you people are PUSSIES...just beat the living ****** out of him...if he calls you an asshole, beat him more. furthermore, why the hell do you care if he is calling you names or making u look bad...you KNOW you arent that way, so if he and/or other people think that, fvck them, who cares?
just beat him and get it over with...the more he whines or bitches...the more you beat...it worked for me...when iwas younger and stupider...my brother beat the ****** out of me...i learned my place...but be wearry...i got bigger than both of them so now i do the beating (my brother is getting his ass whopped when he gets home...let my dog outside >(!!!! )
2) beat his ass some more
3) give him a nice talking too (with ur knee in his throat) about how his life isnt that bad and he should take things for granted
4) tell him to get a job
5) tell him if he touches your ****** again...you will beat his ass all over...
6) beat his ass more...
7) repeat...
i had the same situation as u (except i am the younger by 2yrs) and my brother was constantly pissing me off...i usually just locked my door (and kept it locked while i was gone) and put some loud music on to drown out his bitching...
edit:
to everyone who says cut him off. you people are PUSSIES...just beat the living ****** out of him...if he calls you an asshole, beat him more. furthermore, why the hell do you care if he is calling you names or making u look bad...you KNOW you arent that way, so if he and/or other people think that, fvck them, who cares?
just beat him and get it over with...the more he whines or bitches...the more you beat...it worked for me...when iwas younger and stupider...my brother beat the ****** out of me...i learned my place...but be wearry...i got bigger than both of them so now i do the beating (my brother is getting his ass whopped when he gets home...let my dog outside >(!!!! )
soydios
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If you have the steel in you to do this, it's what I do when my sister starts giving me an excess of attitude (she's 2 years my younger):
First step: lay it all out in very clear terms. Remind them that they are the source of the problem. Then, tell them what you will do if they don't clean up their act (see second step).
Second step: if they don't quit their bitchin', start firing right back at them whenever they badmouth you in public. Humiliate them in front of their friends, and set the record straight that you're the one being the saint.
Example:
My sister was being excruciatingly sarcastic to me in front of my cousins when we were on a vacation. Normally, I would be the saintly older brother, take the high road, and shrug it off. This time, unfortunately for her, she'd been giving me an attitude for the previous month, so I was mercilessly sarcastic right back at her. 4 days later, she broke down into tears. I felt horrible, but I proved my point, and her attitude disappeared (sadly, only temporarily; but she's a younger sister, it's what they do).
First step: lay it all out in very clear terms. Remind them that they are the source of the problem. Then, tell them what you will do if they don't clean up their act (see second step).
Second step: if they don't quit their bitchin', start firing right back at them whenever they badmouth you in public. Humiliate them in front of their friends, and set the record straight that you're the one being the saint.
Example:
My sister was being excruciatingly sarcastic to me in front of my cousins when we were on a vacation. Normally, I would be the saintly older brother, take the high road, and shrug it off. This time, unfortunately for her, she'd been giving me an attitude for the previous month, so I was mercilessly sarcastic right back at her. 4 days later, she broke down into tears. I felt horrible, but I proved my point, and her attitude disappeared (sadly, only temporarily; but she's a younger sister, it's what they do).
HamburgerBoy
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- Apr 12, 2004
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As for your brother. You've identified clearly that he is spoiled, is sort of a family baby, and disrepects you and to some extent, your belongings in the manner of not borrowing them responsibly, in fact, stealing from you from the sounds of it.
This is not a time to view someone as the older or younger brother, since both of you are adults, but the fact remains you are older, however cannot be an ultimate factor in find a more probable solution.
You need to sit down and have a talk with him. Let him know his flaws, and tell him that he can't keep doing the things he does towards you and others in regards of not offering respect. Then not out of anger, you gotta tell 'em how you feel and that it isn't making a good brotherhood relationship. Of course it's always good to let him borrow things, but not when you really need them.
Help him find a job.
Don't play nice all the time with him, but don't play Mr. Angry with him either. Be the boss of yourself. It will take energy to be strong, but don't let it run on your bad side. Good character comes from the art of dicipline and when to act upon certain things. It's kind of like taking your manager seriously at work, or trying to get involved in a team that doesn't like you because of your differences. But you have to make an effort, because if you don't, it will make you weaker and weaker if you keep letting things like this pass up. Like a family, you try your very best to help a sibling because you care about them. Of course it will be hard, but it is better than not trying in the first place.
Get him involved in things where high standard people are involved. Not high maintenance people, but people who are willing to correct him if he does anything wrongful or can offer feedback without being scared of offending him. Usually it's people he won't know that he may listen to more, tender or harsh, though everything must be tempered accordingly.
It's direct and indirect communication you are facing. Don't play games with your brother, be more direct and decisive when time requires. Your focus is to avoid being indirect, don't confuse him with goodplay, give him a taste of his own weapon in a different delight for offering him a chance to grow, and not condemning anyone. Obviously none of this is any more achievable than the examples you set day to day. So if you're surfing porn or something, he's really not going to take you seriously, for example. So list all your habbits, and make sure you are on top of things. Otherwise, you are just going to play recycle with him, and all your days will be the same until you do not have him in your life anymore. From the sounds of it also, I don't think he's going to change any time soon, even if he gets a girl friend - boys and girls 'usually' match up with similar ideals, I don't see a girlfriend helping in the picture, if that's what comes to mind. But if you disagree why so called "hot" girls fall for the bad boy, PM me that you've made a thread, and we'll take it from there.
Anyway, you can't avoid your brother, he's already your room mate. All you can do is teach him how to grow up like a man, and hope that he absorbs it all in time when certain aspects of reality hit him, and by all means, if those winds crush his walls, we'll know he had an ear only to let lessons go out the other, and a mindset for too much indulgence without credibility, sacrifice without reason and effort without thought. Poor brother, hopefully he loosens up his bad behavior and learns something, I'd hate to watch him get beat up by a bunch of guys with an attitude as bad as his own.
This is not a time to view someone as the older or younger brother, since both of you are adults, but the fact remains you are older, however cannot be an ultimate factor in find a more probable solution.
You need to sit down and have a talk with him. Let him know his flaws, and tell him that he can't keep doing the things he does towards you and others in regards of not offering respect. Then not out of anger, you gotta tell 'em how you feel and that it isn't making a good brotherhood relationship. Of course it's always good to let him borrow things, but not when you really need them.
Help him find a job.
Don't play nice all the time with him, but don't play Mr. Angry with him either. Be the boss of yourself. It will take energy to be strong, but don't let it run on your bad side. Good character comes from the art of dicipline and when to act upon certain things. It's kind of like taking your manager seriously at work, or trying to get involved in a team that doesn't like you because of your differences. But you have to make an effort, because if you don't, it will make you weaker and weaker if you keep letting things like this pass up. Like a family, you try your very best to help a sibling because you care about them. Of course it will be hard, but it is better than not trying in the first place.
Get him involved in things where high standard people are involved. Not high maintenance people, but people who are willing to correct him if he does anything wrongful or can offer feedback without being scared of offending him. Usually it's people he won't know that he may listen to more, tender or harsh, though everything must be tempered accordingly.
It's direct and indirect communication you are facing. Don't play games with your brother, be more direct and decisive when time requires. Your focus is to avoid being indirect, don't confuse him with goodplay, give him a taste of his own weapon in a different delight for offering him a chance to grow, and not condemning anyone. Obviously none of this is any more achievable than the examples you set day to day. So if you're surfing porn or something, he's really not going to take you seriously, for example. So list all your habbits, and make sure you are on top of things. Otherwise, you are just going to play recycle with him, and all your days will be the same until you do not have him in your life anymore. From the sounds of it also, I don't think he's going to change any time soon, even if he gets a girl friend - boys and girls 'usually' match up with similar ideals, I don't see a girlfriend helping in the picture, if that's what comes to mind. But if you disagree why so called "hot" girls fall for the bad boy, PM me that you've made a thread, and we'll take it from there.
Anyway, you can't avoid your brother, he's already your room mate. All you can do is teach him how to grow up like a man, and hope that he absorbs it all in time when certain aspects of reality hit him, and by all means, if those winds crush his walls, we'll know he had an ear only to let lessons go out the other, and a mindset for too much indulgence without credibility, sacrifice without reason and effort without thought. Poor brother, hopefully he loosens up his bad behavior and learns something, I'd hate to watch him get beat up by a bunch of guys with an attitude as bad as his own.
wow, Fire, thanks for that. You really hit all the bases, and I think your method the best, its along the lines of what I wanted to do, and I have been, but you layed it all out. The calling him out, I've done a lot more lately, and the response tends to keep him down.
Thanks again, this is great stuff, I will most likely update when things go on.
An example of his stubborness, another fun fact- he got an eyebrow piercing, my dad offered him 100 dollars if he got rid of it- now keep in mind, my bro has no job, no money, and he turned it down....
Thanks again, this is great stuff, I will most likely update when things go on.
An example of his stubborness, another fun fact- he got an eyebrow piercing, my dad offered him 100 dollars if he got rid of it- now keep in mind, my bro has no job, no money, and he turned it down....
Yeah he is back up to his old ways, things appeared alright but then , all of a sudden, he began to be a total piece of sht as usual.
So now he is completely detached from my life. I have about 3 weeks left, I don't need him anymore as brother in college, he is done.
So now he is completely detached from my life. I have about 3 weeks left, I don't need him anymore as brother in college, he is done.
novasatori
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- Feb 27, 2003
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if its your younger brother maybe its time you showed him who's the bitch...hehehe
seriously i would never put up with that kinda shiat
Well basically last night, i came back from going out with a friend of mine, we're playing some Mortal Kombat on the ps2, and I realize in the basement, (unfinished basement) he managed to take everything i had in the washing machine and just toss it on the floor-so he can dry his stuff. did it all why i was gone. when i called him out- basically he proceeded to continually cut me down-and i had enough so when i wouldnt leave until he said sorry and explained why he would do that-he got all up in my face and i defintiely threw him across the room- and then he ran away to go back to the dorms cause he was "too scared".
I went back to playing mortal kombat.
I went back to playing mortal kombat.
drinkmorejava
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