Just got some info from a painter about this last week. He finished some commercial doors that had oak veneer on them. They came out beautifully, and he didn't put too much time into them. First, a sanding sealer was applied with a short nap roller. Within a couple hours, he sanded them with what I would call a sanding sponge, with fine grit. After that (I assume he wiped 'em with a tack cloth, but didn't see him do that), he applied varnish, not polyurethane, with the roller again. The finish was perfect! I suppose you would apply stain after the sanding sealer, then the varnish.
I applied almost the same finish to our porch ceiling 17 years ago. I just shot
this picture, and
this close up of the ceiling. Damn! With the bright light of the flash, I notice I missed some spots! never saw that before
😱
Anyway, I used Minwax products to do it while the lumber was still on the ground. I did each board individually, which allowed the finish to get in the tongue and grooves thoroughly. I used a sealer, but didn't sand it. That allows it to take the stain evenly. Then I applied the stain within 20 minutes or so. After that dried, I applied Spar Varnish. The guy who sold it to me said that's what they use on boats, so it should be fine for the ceiling. Seems to be holding up OK.
The point is, do use a sealer. The painter last week, told me that it raised the grain, which would be sanded down, and not rise again after the varnish was applied. Believe me, these oak doors ended up furniture grade perfect!