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Need some advice from the guys

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KillyKillall

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Hey guys,

So, recently a few of my friends have become single/divorced and are now going out quite often; drinking, partying, having fun...that kind of stuff. I'm still with my g/f of 2 years and have no intention on breaking that off, I love her very much.

However, I do find myself jealous because they get to go out together a few nights a week and drink and what not. Any advice on how to deal with it so that I don't get super jealous and resent being in a relationship?
 
Originally posted by: pyonir
go out with them once a week.
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That was what I was thinking, but then I thought about...how do I talk my g/f into the fact that I'm going to hang out with 2 guys that both recently became single and have blatently been telling her how they're going out and talking to chicks and what not? (sorry if you're offended by "chicks," using their language) I have a feeling she'll think I'm going to pick up women as well...guess I'll have to figure that one out.
 
Originally posted by: KillyKillall
Originally posted by: pyonir
go out with them once a week.
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That was what I was thinking, but then I thought about...how do I talk my g/f into the fact that I'm going to hang out with 2 guys that both recently became single and have blatently been telling her how they're going out and talking to chicks and what not? (sorry if you're offended by "chicks," using their language) I have a feeling she'll think I'm going to pick up women as well...guess I'll have to figure that one out.
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She never has a girl's night out with single friends?
 
If you're girlfriend doesn't trust you, she either:

A) has a reason not to trust you
B) is insecure

If your gf equals a or b, you might want to reevaluate your relationship.
 
Originally posted by: Strang
Originally posted by: KillyKillall
Originally posted by: pyonir
go out with them once a week.
Click to expand...

That was what I was thinking, but then I thought about...how do I talk my g/f into the fact that I'm going to hang out with 2 guys that both recently became single and have blatently been telling her how they're going out and talking to chicks and what not? (sorry if you're offended by "chicks," using their language) I have a feeling she'll think I'm going to pick up women as well...guess I'll have to figure that one out.
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She never has a girl's night out with single friends?
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She probably has, but maintains a double standard, justifying it with "because he's a guy". My ex g/f did that, and that's one of the reasons why she'll forever remain my ex.
 
Originally posted by: pyonir
If you're girlfriend doesn't trust you, she either:

A) has a reason not to trust you
B) is insecure

If your gf equals a or b, you might want to reevaluate your relationship.
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A) not the case
B) bingo!!!!

btw...the acronym was FUBAR that he was referring to.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: Strang
Originally posted by: KillyKillall
Originally posted by: pyonir
go out with them once a week.
Click to expand...

That was what I was thinking, but then I thought about...how do I talk my g/f into the fact that I'm going to hang out with 2 guys that both recently became single and have blatently been telling her how they're going out and talking to chicks and what not? (sorry if you're offended by "chicks," using their language) I have a feeling she'll think I'm going to pick up women as well...guess I'll have to figure that one out.
Click to expand...

She never has a girl's night out with single friends?
Click to expand...

She probably has, but maintains a double standard, justifying it with "because he's a guy". My ex g/f did that, and that's one of the reasons why she'll forever remain my ex.
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so one of the reasons your relationship with your ex deteriorated was because she did the same thing your current g/f is doing?

ok...
 
Originally posted by: PoPPeR
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: Strang
Originally posted by: KillyKillall
Originally posted by: pyonir
go out with them once a week.
Click to expand...

That was what I was thinking, but then I thought about...how do I talk my g/f into the fact that I'm going to hang out with 2 guys that both recently became single and have blatently been telling her how they're going out and talking to chicks and what not? (sorry if you're offended by "chicks," using their language) I have a feeling she'll think I'm going to pick up women as well...guess I'll have to figure that one out.
Click to expand...

She never has a girl's night out with single friends?
Click to expand...

She probably has, but maintains a double standard, justifying it with "because he's a guy". My ex g/f did that, and that's one of the reasons why she'll forever remain my ex.
Click to expand...
so one of the reasons your relationship with your ex deteriorated was because she did the same thing your current g/f is doing?

ok...
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He's not the OP. 😛
 
Dang man, you better get it figured out right away. Tell her you want to go out 3 nights a week with the fellas to hang out and have some fun, mention that you definitely not going to pick up any women even though your buddies might be trying. She'll say, "hell no, not 3 nights a week, your lucky to get 1". Then say you insist on 2 nights a week. At this point she'll complain more and you guys bicker back and forth about not whether or not you get to go out but instead your are arguing over how many times you get to go out. Finally you say that b/c you really love her you will tell they guys you only want to go out once a week. Now she is happy and thinks she won the argument and you made her feel secure. Meanwhile you got exactly what you wanted.

Women and so easy.....
 
i dont think its the going out with your single friends but going out with your single friends while they pick up chicks and go to strip bars she would most likely be upset about.

can you do something with them that doesnt involve things you KNOW your gf wouldnt like?
 
Originally posted by: eakers
i dont think its the going out with your single friends but going out with your single friends while they pick up chicks and go to strip bars she would most likely be upset about.

can you do something with them that doesnt involve things you KNOW your gf wouldnt like?
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I didn't see anything about him going to strip bars.
 
Originally posted by: eakers
i dont think its the going out with your single friends but going out with your single friends while they pick up chicks and go to strip bars she would most likely be upset about.

can you do something with them that doesnt involve things you KNOW your gf wouldnt like?
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Yeah, if you can just go shoot pool and have some beers with them or something of that sort, it would be easier.

Obviously strip clubs would be a harder sell. 😉
 
Originally posted by: weezergirl
dont you have friends that are in relationships you can all hang out with together?
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We did..but we're 23/24...so most of the people that got married younger that were our friends are all getting divorced now or splitting up or moving away...so we're stuff with the solo friends we had or 1/2 of the couples that we hung out with before.
 
Originally posted by: pyonir
Originally posted by: eakers
i dont think its the going out with your single friends but going out with your single friends while they pick up chicks and go to strip bars she would most likely be upset about.

can you do something with them that doesnt involve things you KNOW your gf wouldnt like?
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I didn't see anything about him going to strip bars.
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Yeah, no strip clubs. Actually, haven't been to one since I was about 18. Don't like them. Depressing to me. Not writing in full sentences again...doh!

My outlet before was my band practice. She wouldn't want to go because it would be 3-4 hours of playing music and nothing for her to do but sit there, so I could hang with the guys, have beers, play music etc... I think I've found the answer between everybody's comments..

A) Talk to her to see what she thinks about it
B) Try to ensure that she knows that I'm not going out while the guys are picking up chicks
C) Remind her that I love her often (that one I threw in)
D) Bargain!!!!!
E) Recommend a girl's night out
F) Wait until after today to talk about this...<smile> it's her birthday today.
 
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