seriously though, what you can do is. Whenever she does anything she enjoys, make her spend time with you (I know it'll suck, but she'll give up in the end
).If you can't play MMOs, then she can't...uh...do whatever the hell she does without you
seriously though, what you can do is. Whenever she does anything she enjoys, make her spend time with you (I know it'll suck, but she'll give up in the end
).If you can't play MMOs, then she can't...uh...do whatever the hell she does without you
Originally posted by: Vinfinite
seriously though, what you can do is. Whenever she does anything she enjoys, make her spend time with you (I know it'll suck, but she'll give up in the end
If you can't play MMOs, then she can't...uh...do whatever the hell she does without you
Well, I would love to do that.. except she can literally waste an entire day staring at the ceiling if needed.. She doesn't have any hobbies and can't entertain herself.. So that makes entertaining her my problem.
OP, you need to understand that "quality time" doesn't mean that you two are physically together, it means that you two are engaging each other, stimulating each other, whether it be physical, emotional, or even spiritual. Just because you sit on the couch watching Will and Grace together doewn't mean you've spent time together. make it a point to do something with her where you are engaging her. It doesn't even ahve to be for a long period of time. even 10 minutes will do. It needs to be just you and her.
Sure.. and again, this is why I said there needs to be a clear division between time together (where we focus on each other) and our own time..
The only difference since moving in together is that she can't tell the difference. Before we were phyiscally apart and that was our personal time. Now we are together every day and she expects that to be together time.. and because it's not, she sees it as going out on a very lame date every single day..
I can't fix her logic.. growl
Originally posted by: voodoodrul
Originally posted by: Vinfinite
seriously though, what you can do is. Whenever she does anything she enjoys, make her spend time with you (I know it'll suck, but she'll give up in the end
If you can't play MMOs, then she can't...uh...do whatever the hell she does without you
Well, I would love to do that.. except she can literally waste an entire day staring at the ceiling if needed.. She doesn't have any hobbies and can't entertain herself.. So that makes entertaining her my problem.
damn that sucks
Dude you gave in, but seriously myself and every friend I've had who plays PC, console etc.. games has dealt with girlfriends who complain about it. there is nothing you can say that will make them happy but the best way I've found to deal with it is to say look I've been playing video games fo years and I like to blow a few hours a day/week playing. It's who I am and has nothing to do with our relationship so you will have to deal with it.
I also used to give the woman 50-100 to go out shopping or get the nails done or whatever so I could have the whole afternoon free to geek out.
Yeah, I've been here before and the game vs. girlfriend battle rages on. There is no fix for it really. I would hand her money 'cept for the fact that I'm broke as hell these days. The economy here is laughable. Literally, $13/hour is a dream job for this town in the middle of nowhere Montana and I'm a tech person.. good luck finding a real job. Any other state and I could make over $80k/year easy with my background.. I have $1200/mo in bills (not too bad) but I also don't take home much more than that due to a lot of factors.. And for a lot of reasons, leaving this town is simply not an option.
ya, i had a gf in the past that wouldn't even let me sit down and read a book when she was around.
it was tough.
edmundoab
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Women.. can't live with them and can't live without em.
So its really your shot, if you're able to give and take, then good.
Otherwise.. well it either gonna go one way or the other
So its really your shot, if you're able to give and take, then good.
Otherwise.. well it either gonna go one way or the other
It is better that you learn about it now, than later... she is wacky...
I am 24 and married to a 23 year old.. we spend time together and spend time doing our own things.. and we respect each other's hobbies.
You cancelled your mmo for your girlfriend? See how much control she has over your life? Do you want it to be like this for your entire life? If not, leave now... Why are so many people so weak? Get up and leave.. she is psycho...
My wife and I spend plenty of time together and plenty of time doing our own things... she never criticizes me when I play videogames.. I would not put up with it for a second.. I have a right to play games when I want... Just like she has a right to do her hobbies. If you think your situation is "normal", then, by all means, enjoy hell. If you aretoo foolish to leave, I have ZERO pity for your situation.
Originally posted by: Nikamichi
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Girl first, MMO later (as in, when she's not around. In the "other room" doesn't count).
Eck, this is bad advice, everyone has to have something that they like to do on their own. You can't be around someone 24/7, you'll drive each other crazy. Does she have any hobbies/interests other than hanging out with you? I mean I'm not saying that you should put an MMO in front of other things, but she's got to have things that she does without you, and likewise accept the fact that you have things that you like to do occasionally that don't include her. BTW, I'm not saying that you should play WoW 8+ hours a day, but I don't see 2 hours as a problem. Look at all of the guys who play golf, thats 4 hours on the course away from the mrs.
QFT.... If she doesn't understand that you need some YOU time without her in it- and without her telling you what you can and can't do, run like hell and don't look back. It's only gonna get worse.
Speaking from experience....
Originally posted by: DaiShan
Originally posted by: Nikamichi
:thumbsup:
Girl first, MMO later (as in, when she's not around. In the "other room" doesn't count).
Eck, this is bad advice, everyone has to have something that they like to do on their own. You can't be around someone 24/7, you'll drive each other crazy. Does she have any hobbies/interests other than hanging out with you? I mean I'm not saying that you should put an MMO in front of other things, but she's got to have things that she does without you, and likewise accept the fact that you have things that you like to do occasionally that don't include her. BTW, I'm not saying that you should play WoW 8+ hours a day, but I don't see 2 hours as a problem. Look at all of the guys who play golf, thats 4 hours on the course away from the mrs.
with all due respect, whenever you hear something like "she wants me to spend all my free time with her" or "she doesn't want me to have my own personal time", it's usually not the case. it's easy, when you're pissed off at someone else, to attribute unreasonable demands and motives to the other side.
people who say to run because it's only going to get worse, they say they speak from experience, but not really. maybe it got worse and there was nothing they could do about it. or maybe it got worse and they just didn't know how to fix it.
And here's the best part.. She's a teacher and gets the summer off. I told her from the beginning, computer/hobby or not, this summer she will be bored out of her mind and that means LOTS of problems for us.
She needs a hobby... now..
She needs a hobby... now..
it's not going to work, she doens't understand that people have things to do other than with those they live with. when she lived with her fam she did sit with her parents/siblings all day and do thigns with them? no she prob spent a lot of her time in her room watching tv, listening to music, talking on the phone, etc. Same thign applies now just cuz ur her gf doesn't mean you have to entertain her. some days you 2 will ending up doing everythign together, other days you guys might be home but see each other for 5 mins. that is life.
she could watch tv, go on her own comp, talk on the phone, invite other friends, go out, cook, clean, sleep, pretty muchanythign else while you do yoru own thing. if you want a movie on tv she doesn't need to join you just like you don't need to join her!
time together is greatbut it is the time apart that not only keeps you sane but makes you appreciate the time together. I hang out with a girl and i love her, recently we spent 3 weeks together pretty much, then went to vegas for 3 days, then big bear for 2 days, GREAT times but i want my alone time too, have been playing WoW, watching tv, working, haven't seen herin 2 weeks now but she has work too, school, her finals are here, etc. we miss each other but you know what, it's life.
she could watch tv, go on her own comp, talk on the phone, invite other friends, go out, cook, clean, sleep, pretty muchanythign else while you do yoru own thing. if you want a movie on tv she doesn't need to join you just like you don't need to join her!
time together is greatbut it is the time apart that not only keeps you sane but makes you appreciate the time together. I hang out with a girl and i love her, recently we spent 3 weeks together pretty much, then went to vegas for 3 days, then big bear for 2 days, GREAT times but i want my alone time too, have been playing WoW, watching tv, working, haven't seen herin 2 weeks now but she has work too, school, her finals are here, etc. we miss each other but you know what, it's life.
spend more time with the girl. its a compromise. no one wants to be in a relationship who surfs online all day.
I feel you on the money thing, I took a decent paycut to switch jobs and cities recently. Right now I wish I actually wish I had a girl around the house to fuss at me. It's been a little while and I'm getting kinda bored by myself.
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Originally posted by: voodoodrul
Originally posted by: Koing
That situation sucks.
When was the last time you massaged her? Do that next time then have some sex then you can go game after or just relax or fall asleep
Koing
lol.. If I do that, I'll be kicked right the hell out the door.. No, no.. Falling asleep is just bad form and playing a game afterwards would mean I should remove all sharp objects from her reach..
No it's not. Make sure she has lots of fun then she shouldn't care what you do afterwards. Falling asleep isn't bad form, it is usually the case afterwards at night anyway
So when did you last do something for her like so? Surely she'd appreciate it and wouldn't hassle you so much when you do your own things?
Tell her to get a part time job? Help out at a local charity?
I wouldn't be with such a demanding person. I need my time to train!
Koing
ok, having a good heart to heart is good, but what if the girl says, "oh, so you have had your times with me and now you want to do your own things. I thought you would always want to be with me because you love me" or "it feels like you're saying that you're done with me for the day and you're leaving me."
My room mate as the same sort of girlfriend as you do. If he tried to spend time with his friends she guilt trips him. A lot of girls are able ot hang out with their boyfriends while doing stuff with other people, but she is too selfish and needy to be that way.
Does she still do sweet things for you? Those selfish girls always seem to get colder.
Does she still do sweet things for you? Those selfish girls always seem to get colder.
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