Need help mingling in to dorms

[Gunther]

Simple solution is to just look for people in your class and socialize with them. It doesn't really matter if you don't know your suitemates well because they might not be your type. You should have a commons in your dorm, just go there and hang out/study, you will be bound to meet a lot of different people. When I was living in the dorms at my school I didn't know my dormmates well, but I did know my friends dorm mates well.
Also don't be scared to strike up conversations with people, yes people do start forming their own clics(?sp), but that doesn't mean that you can't join them. College is a lot different then high school, I have found people to be much more open and friendly.
If you really want to make new relationships you have to be active about it. Don't just sit in your room and sulk, go outside in the halls and talk to people. Strike conversations with your neighbors in class. In college it is never to late to make new friends, I am a 3-4th year in my school and I am still creating relationships with new people. Also don't forget that making one friend can lead to making tons of friends because you get introduced into that group. So go out and TALK to people, good luck.

 

[udonoogen]

i see you're still having problems. i posted the last one in your last thread. hope everything goes well man. since its a christian college and all perhaps you should start with prayer. then find an accountability partner at your church (if you're christian and all). that helps growth in your walk and in getting a close friend. also don't look for a gf, especially your first year. just 2 cents.

 

[crisp82]

:beer:Tm <--- All the help you'll ever need socialising, and will help you come to conclusions about life, Garuanteed!!!

 

[PatboyX]

my dorm sucked freshman year. but that dont mean you cant make friends. just go find people.

 

[Winchester]

Originally posted by: upsciLLion
I suggest that you hang out in your dorm room with the door open. When you see people in the hall, start saying sup or whatever. Then after a while say something like, "I'm sorry, but I never caught your name. I'm (insert your name here)." It's all about progression and graduated exposure.

ups

I agree, I also went to a Christian College, and I kept my door open except when I was sleeping. I always walked up and down the halls and just walked into other peoples rooms who had their doors open to and just started talking. On weekends, or when you have no homework etc, open your door, and start playing some console game, (xbox, n64, ps2,etc) if you have it, people will surely be attracted to the noise and sooner or later you will have a tournament going on. The best job you can get at college, especially a small one, is a post office worker. You get to know everyone that way. Our school had about 800ish living on campus, and I knew 790 of them, and can still tell you the box #s of most of them as well. Always say "Hi, how are you doing?" etc to everyone, it sends off a "you mean no harm" feel. If you are not in your room or studying, spend time in the lobbies or student area. The girls dorm had a nice TV so I spent all my time over there, my parents even called the girls lobby phone to get a hold of me ( we had a campus cafe) that has pool tables or whatever, good way to get to know people as well as sitting next to people you dont know in the cafeteria.

Now if you want to get everyones attention, take your mattress, especially if it one of those plastic based ones, run down the hall jump and slide, it makes enough noise so that everyone comes out, then they all want to do it. I can think of some other stuff, but one involved wearing only a sock and knocking on peoples door asking them if they had seen your sock .

Remember, that these people are only temporary, most friends last a semester to a year, before they or you move on. Some will even knife (OMG, cant use st@b) you in the back to get ahead of you, but just shrug it off. So dont get hurt by that fact.


I hope this helps some.

 

[Chaotic42]

How do people bond in college?

Leave your door open, crank up your speakers, and play whatever the hot new game is. People will come in. At that point you would (legally, of course) share pornography and any other various media files on your system.

 

[StageLeft]

And well, the last 6-7 weeks I made a mistake, and spent a lot of time out on walks philosophizing about life (like at least 2-3 hours a day, seriously) outside of that I also have some tough classes, and I also am working a little bit.

Anybody reading this I can't stress enough the importance, when getting to school for the first time, of not doing something like this. You have to jump in or else you'll never get out of the social shallow end.

I'd say your last hope now is getting heavily involved in alcohol and parties to make up for 6-7 weeks of being a total recluse.

Everyone is right about the open door policy. You keep it closed people are going to start wondering about you (well obviously you want it closed sometimes).

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: mugsywwiii
Use the force, young skywalker.

You called?

 

[virtueixi]

I don't care if my door is open,if someone walks into my room they are an intruder and all bets are off. So you better be careful whose room you enter.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: virtueixi
I don't care if my door is open,if someone walks into my room they are an intruder and all bets are off. So you better be careful whose room you enter.

Originally posted by: dtyn
Your life sucks, and you're destined to die alone, never to have known the touch of a female save your mother.

- M4H

 

[cloude27]

Originally posted by: spp
beers for the whole floor?

i would go with a bottle of ol' JD, easier to hide if the RA comes knocking.

 

[Apathetic]

Invite people over for a movie night.

Dave

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
the last 6-7 weeks I made a mistake, and spent a lot of time out on walks philosophizing about life (like at least 2-3 hours a day, seriously)

dude you're that crazy walking guy on campus?

damn out of the loop at a Christian school....good thing you didn't end up at UF....

Now technically this will be a good test of the Christian spirit...they should accept you for who you are and the women should be happy to serve their man.

You do have girls there right? If not I'd say it's time to tell you parents you're a man and start paying your own way if you have to.

Don't want to be 40 one day and look back and realize everything you missed being a good son.