TV does NOT work, the last thing you want her to be going back with is memories of crappy american programming designed to act as a temporary babysitter. I mean even the chinese children programs are better and If youve seen Chinese childrens programming, you would wince at imagining anything worse.
Spend as much time with her as you can, let her make some friends, If she has email, all the better, just make sure your mails can get around the great (fire)wall of china. If not, snail mail works as well, get all her frieds she makes to make a big poster or something like that to mail back to her once in a while. and DONT forget chinese new year, Its the only time you can be put on hold repeated for half an hour before finally being connected and realising that theve gone to a friends place to celebrate and youve just wasted $50+
Spend as much time with her as you can, let her make some friends, If she has email, all the better, just make sure your mails can get around the great (fire)wall of china. If not, snail mail works as well, get all her frieds she makes to make a big poster or something like that to mail back to her once in a while. and DONT forget chinese new year, Its the only time you can be put on hold repeated for half an hour before finally being connected and realising that theve gone to a friends place to celebrate and youve just wasted $50+
I think it will be easier for her to learn english rather than you learn chinese.
And the best way to learn a language (especially when you are young) is to live with someone how can speak the language (you).
That is also important if she will be attnding school in America.
It will be best for her if you speak normal enaligh to her, and I bet she will be having conversation with u in 1-2 years of time. Just my humble op
And the best way to learn a language (especially when you are young) is to live with someone how can speak the language (you).
That is also important if she will be attnding school in America.
It will be best for her if you speak normal enaligh to her, and I bet she will be having conversation with u in 1-2 years of time. Just my humble op
Isla, it's really important to remember that language is just a "thing" and that cultural differences are often not that vast. Underneath everything she's a 13 year old girl, and her wants/needs/fears/joys are all the same as any 13 year old that wants to fit in. I've traveled quite a bit on business, and spent time in South Korea and Singapore. I learned that the people I worked with had the same concerns I had - how can I provide for my family, do my job, make my company successful? If I kept that in mind, the rest would follow along.
As other have indicated, you should expect to learn at least as much as she will. She will understand you are there to help - that's communicated via expression, not words.
Keep us posted! You can find encouragement here.
As other have indicated, you should expect to learn at least as much as she will. She will understand you are there to help - that's communicated via expression, not words.
Keep us posted! You can find encouragement here.
here are some tips to aid the cultural transition:
1. Whenever you are in the presence of Mr isla, always keep your head lowered, speak only when spoken too and when his attention is not focused on you, find a nice quiet corner to stand into to await his bidding.
2. Do not be threatened if Mr isla decides to take some concubines, This is mearly to "extend our understanding of the culture of foriegn people". You should be rejoicing over the fact that Mr isla is so open minded about the whole thing. And dont worry, Since you are the only wife, When he dies, all the property will be transferred to you.
3. try to get some of those little shoe things, they make you seem more dainty.
4. you are expected to do ALL the housework/cooking/cleaning, A man must do a mans buisness, a woman, a womans buisness.
thats about all, hope you finally get to experinec how rich and fufilling a womans life can be in modern china
1. Whenever you are in the presence of Mr isla, always keep your head lowered, speak only when spoken too and when his attention is not focused on you, find a nice quiet corner to stand into to await his bidding.
2. Do not be threatened if Mr isla decides to take some concubines, This is mearly to "extend our understanding of the culture of foriegn people". You should be rejoicing over the fact that Mr isla is so open minded about the whole thing. And dont worry, Since you are the only wife, When he dies, all the property will be transferred to you.
3. try to get some of those little shoe things, they make you seem more dainty.
4. you are expected to do ALL the housework/cooking/cleaning, A man must do a mans buisness, a woman, a womans buisness.
thats about all, hope you finally get to experinec how rich and fufilling a womans life can be in modern china
Shal... you forgot
walk 3 steps behind in public
meet him at the door on your knees with his slippers
always defer to his judgment /wish
always speak in a soft voice
walk 3 steps behind in public
meet him at the door on your knees with his slippers
always defer to his judgment /wish
always speak in a soft voice
and also:
when he wants it, he gets it, headache or not
If he blames you for sometihng, dont argue, just accept it
when he wants it, he gets it, headache or not
If he blames you for sometihng, dont argue, just accept it
Call your local school & school board and ask to talk to an ESL teacher, or a student-teacher trainee for advice/helps.
Try to find out what she like to do, and use that as a base to teach her english.
Ask her a bout her home, friends & what she misses most from China, and how are they different to our society...this will lead her to communicate with you, and you can use that as a bridge/guide to teach her. At a latter date, you could ask her to write down what she feel and think in English.
Try not to use slang, and be concise (speak clearly & grammatically correct...and maybe a little slower).
And, remember to have lots of patient.
Hope this helps...from a Canadian imigrant.
Try to find out what she like to do, and use that as a base to teach her english.
Ask her a bout her home, friends & what she misses most from China, and how are they different to our society...this will lead her to communicate with you, and you can use that as a bridge/guide to teach her. At a latter date, you could ask her to write down what she feel and think in English.
Try not to use slang, and be concise (speak clearly & grammatically correct...and maybe a little slower).
And, remember to have lots of patient.
Hope this helps...from a Canadian imigrant.
Thank you, Plantanthera, I will take your advice.
I talked to her aunt today, and she is helping me to pronounce things correctly.
I look forward to working with this girl!
I talked to her aunt today, and she is helping me to pronounce things correctly.
I look forward to working with this girl!
Gathering information locally is a good idea. To make her feel more comfortable you can have it become a mutual learning experience. I would start with household items, teaching each other the word and pronunication. Just my $.02
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