Need advice

[GoDaddy]

Not sure how im taking this, am I in shock or what?

My girlfriend told me, about 1 hour ago, that she had a miscarriage on thursday and she just drummed up the courage to tell me tonight. I am not mad at her, im feeling rather emotion-less right now or something. Am I in shock or just perhaps it doesn't bother me, or what?

Edit: She is rather distraught about it and she wasn't hiding anything from me I don't think.

Honest opinion and advice welcome.

Thanks.

 

[imported_Tick]

Run.

 

[IAteYourMother]

was it your kid?

 

[Sphexi]

Did she tell you how along she was, or did you notice that she hadn't had her period in a while? Are you ready for kids, because it seems like she is, but doesn't think that you are perhaps if she didn't tell you she might be pregnant.

Either way that sucks.

 

[MoPHo]

advice = talk to her about it...she might be in a very awkward state of mind right now.

opinion = kinda odd how she didn't tell you about it...

 

[GoDaddy]

Originally posted by: IAteYourMother
was it your kid?

Yeah, it was.

 

[GoDaddy]

Originally posted by: Sphexi
Did she tell you how along she was, or did you notice that she hadn't had her period in a while? Are you ready for kids, because it seems like she is, but doesn't think that you are perhaps if she didn't tell you she might be pregnant.

Either way that sucks.

It wasn't for very long and she was on birth control. Ironically, we had talked about having children but she did not stop taking it.

 

[GoDaddy]

Originally posted by: MoPHo
advice = talk to her about it...she might be in a very awkward state of mind right now.

opinion = kinda odd how she didn't tell you about it...

We did talk for a bit, i'm feeling oddly more emotion-less than usual about it.
I wondered too, I have a feeling she was in shock or something.

 

[MX2]

Keep in mind that this was most likely very, very devastating for her.

 

[krunchykrome]

3/10

 

[GoDaddy]

Originally posted by: MX2times
Keep in mind that this was most likely very, very devastating for her.

It's forthright in my mind, just unsure of what to feel really, is that weird?

 

[MX2]

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times
Keep in mind that this was most likely very, very devastating for her.

It's forthright in my mind, just unsure of what to feel really, is that weird?

No its not strange to feel emotionless at the onset of a difficult situation like this.

 

[GoDaddy]

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times
Keep in mind that this was most likely very, very devastating for her.

It's forthright in my mind, just unsure of what to feel really, is that weird?

No its not strange to feel emotionless at the onset of a difficult situation like this.

Any advice you have about what to say or think about would be welcome, this is definately a first for me. Thank you.

 

[FallenHero]

you actually might wanna re-think your contraceptives

 

[MX2]

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times
Keep in mind that this was most likely very, very devastating for her.

It's forthright in my mind, just unsure of what to feel really, is that weird?

No its not strange to feel emotionless at the onset of a difficult situation like this.

Any advice you have about what to say or think about would be welcome, this is definately a first for me. Thank you.

Sometimes the less words being said the better. Of course just let her know you are by her side and there for her.

 

[GoDaddy]

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times
Keep in mind that this was most likely very, very devastating for her.

It's forthright in my mind, just unsure of what to feel really, is that weird?

No its not strange to feel emotionless at the onset of a difficult situation like this.

Any advice you have about what to say or think about would be welcome, this is definately a first for me. Thank you.

Sometimes the less words being said the better. Of course just let her know you are by her side and there for her.

Thank you. Hopefully I am able to sleep ok tonight. I just got off the phone with her about 30 minutes ago and told her to try and sleep. :moon:

 

[NTB]

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times
Keep in mind that this was most likely very, very devastating for her.

It's forthright in my mind, just unsure of what to feel really, is that weird?

No its not strange to feel emotionless at the onset of a difficult situation like this.

Any advice you have about what to say or think about would be welcome, this is definately a first for me. Thank you.

Sometimes the less words being said the better. Of course just let her know you are by her side and there for her.

I was thinking the same thing. There are times when words fail even the best of us, and the only thing you can do is just be there. Knowing that she has a shoulder to lean on and someone to talk to may be the most important thing.

Nate

 

[GoDaddy]

Originally posted by: NTB

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: GoDaddy

Originally posted by: MX2times
Keep in mind that this was most likely very, very devastating for her.

It's forthright in my mind, just unsure of what to feel really, is that weird?

No its not strange to feel emotionless at the onset of a difficult situation like this.

Any advice you have about what to say or think about would be welcome, this is definately a first for me. Thank you.

Sometimes the less words being said the better. Of course just let her know you are by her side and there for her.

I was thinking the same thing. There are times when words fail even the best of us, and the only thing you can do is just be there. Knowing that she has a shoulder to lean on and someone to talk to may be the most important thing.

Nate

Thnx Nate and MX2

 

[NTB]

Originally posted by: GoDaddy
[Thnx Nate and MX2

No problem. While I can't really say that I know what you're going through, I do know the feeling. a good, long-time friend of mine was shot and killed a number of years ago, and I felt the same way for quite a while. Just kinda...blank, for lack of a better way to put it.

Nate

 

[MX2]

Originally posted by: GoDaddy
Thnx Nate and MX2

 

[GoDaddy]

Originally posted by: NTB

Originally posted by: GoDaddy
[Thnx Nate and MX2

No problem. While I can't really say that I know what you're going through, I do know the feeling. a good, long-time friend of mine was shot and killed a number of years ago, and I felt the same way for quite a while. Just kinda...blank, for lack of a better way to put it.

Nate

Yeah, feel pretty ummm. openly numb and thoughtless right now. Sorry to hear about friend. :beer:

 

[PHiuR]

when in doubt...

 

[Yossarian]

An ironic user name you have there.

 

[Theguynextdoor]

lol First thing I saw was your user name.

 

[Mo0o]

I'm not sure if anyone has mentioned this but could this be a lie and she really got an abortion? Obviously you're both going through a very tough time regardless, but I think this isn't out of the realm of possibility. Unless of course you've spoken to her doctor.

Either way, I can't imagine what you're going through. Best of luck to you.