My son called my wife a .....

[Vich]

I knew two languages growing up and if i swore in russian it was ok aslong as it wasnt directed at a parent... i would just claim i didnt know what it meant. 😛

 

[nageov3t]

sorry for the bump, but I just found this thread 🙂

I don't see the big deal. I've cursed in front of my parents since junior high. They always taught me that words are only words, and the only power they have is the power you give them.

 

[venk]

Originally posted by: Vich
Im in a child dev psych class and i was once a very hard advocate of spanking for discipline, but really the best way is to sit him down, and tell him if he says things like that he wont be loved. Saying something like that will get the point across without physical punishment.

No it will only scar him for life by teaching him that his family will only love him as long as he is perfect.

 

[SagaLore]

What is funny is that the only way to ever discipline this out of our culture is to discipline adults for saying such words as well. However that's never going to happen...

 

[nageov3t]

Originally posted by: SagaLore
What is funny is that the only way to ever discipline this out of our culture is to discipline adults for saying such words as well. However that's never going to happen...

fvck that sh!t 🙂

 

[fitzm]

My son, 13, is scared sh!tless to even come close to a swear word in front of me. Not even words like
sh!t or ass. It's really cute when he is trying to explain or quote something that requires a swear word and he substitutes the word with a variation that's not even in the english language.

My sister (a psychologist) always seems to put issues such as these in perspective just right though, she says, "It isn't really a swear word unless an adult hears it". The kids love it, especially the kid who is
sh!tting bricks when the tattletail of the day comes running up to one of us to tell on their sibling or a cousin for swearing.

 

[Toasthead]

Originally posted by: CraigRT
the guy i work with, his 3 or 4 year old son (not sure exact age) said

"aww for f*ck sakes" once, when his dad told him No.

hahah that's awesome. 🙂

 

[yhelothar]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
Unfortunately, my son isn't a normal kid. He was slow on his speech so we had him evaluated. He was diagnosed with slight autism. His vocabulary is still limited, but he can pick up things very quickly. Knows the ABCs, can count to 20+ and can spell or memorize times, dates (like his birthday or age) and places (like his home address) very quickly.

But his problem is that his social skills are not up to par and he has a very high tolerance to pain.

With that said, when the kids at school pushes him or hits him during recess, he gets the idea that that's acceptable behavior. When they call him names, he thinks that's acceptable behavior too. Its hard to untrain him. You can see where this will lead.

Also, beating him would not work because of his high tolarance to pain. As punishment, we placed him in the corner and ignored him. Left him to cry for about 30 mins. Then I took him to bed and lectured him. I'm not sure how much of it he understood, but he cried alot more when I told him I was angry and mommy was very angry and that's why he's feeling sad amongst other things.

So it sounds like he's being bullied at school. Well that surely won't help him build his social skills. Are you sure something is being done to the people that hits and pushes around your son? Unfortunately, I don't think there is much that could be done about bullying, but keeping him in school will only make him worse.

 

[captains]

Originally posted by: edro13
hahaha

 

[BigKev]

LMAO!

 

[m2kewl]

the truth hurts, doesn't it 😉

seriously, your son needs to be punished! make it so he takes you seriously. none of that "go to your room" crap. imo, parents today are too relaxed when it comes to punishment...when i was young, it used to be the belt, the feet, the hands across my face 😀 plus, no dinner, tv, bike, and hanging with friends

i learnt my lesson, don't piss off the parents...

 

[Kristi2k]

I'm glad you punished him and tought him it's wrong. Not saying that you don't, but try to set a good example. Kids learn from their parents as well. It's sad we have to worry about this today. 🙁

 

[nageov3t]

aren't kids protected by the first amendment?

 

[mspmojo]

Great something to look forward to from my 4 month old!

 

[djheater]

I love how people give parenting advice without knowing the individuals involved.

If your kid is being called names on the playground, that's bullying. The school my daughter goes to would not tolerate that type of behavior. ANY type of bullying deserves immediate intervention. If you don't have any options I'm sorry for you, perhaps you could look into private school or a better district.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
Unfortunately, my son isn't a normal kid. He was slow on his speech so we had him evaluated. He was diagnosed with slight autism. His vocabulary is still limited, but he can pick up things very quickly. Knows the ABCs, can count to 20+ and can spell or memorize times, dates (like his birthday or age) and places (like his home address) very quickly.

But his problem is that his social skills are not up to par and he has a very high tolerance to pain.

With that said, when the kids at school pushes him or hits him during recess, he gets the idea that that's acceptable behavior. When they call him names, he thinks that's acceptable behavior too. Its hard to untrain him. You can see where this will lead.

Also, beating him would not work because of his high tolarance to pain. As punishment, we placed him in the corner and ignored him. Left him to cry for about 30 mins. Then I took him to bed and lectured him. I'm not sure how much of it he understood, but he cried alot more when I told him I was angry and mommy was very angry and that's why he's feeling sad amongst other things.

for my kids, pain tolerance really isn't the issue as i've never hit them hard enough to really hurt. for them it's the disapproval and what the spanking represents that brings about changes in their behavior.

i tend to snap them with my middle finger on their wrist or something. i know it doesn't hurt them much, it doesn't leave welts or even a red spot but it gets the point accross.

 

[fredtam]

At 5 my daughter knows every bad word there is. She learned them from me. The only time I can remember her slipping up and saying one was when she called a lady in the grocery store a dumbass. I would have punished her but the lady was in fact a dumbass. She calls them "Daddy's special words" and understands she should not use them. She tries to keep me from using them also.

 

[LordMorpheus]

Originally posted by: fivespeed5

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
So my son started a speech class since last fall. He's 4 years old. During recess, they sometimes interact with Kindergarteners who are slightly older.

He's been learning some bad words from school. It used to be words like "idiot" or "stupid" cuz the older kids would call him that during recess, but lastnight took the cake. He called my wife a "pussy".

We had to dicipline him, but I can't believe they're picking up such trash from school. :|

did you whip him w/ a belt? or a featherduster? that always learned me

I got physically punished as a child.

Its the only way to get a point across to a little kid without leaving emotional scars for life.

We (me+siblings) have generally been better behaved than most other kids, and have done better in school and whatnot. Because it worked on me, I will do it to my kids. I'm not talking abuse, but when they step out of line, a few whacks to the rear will set them straight.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: virtualgames0

Originally posted by: cheapbidder01
Unfortunately, my son isn't a normal kid. He was slow on his speech so we had him evaluated. He was diagnosed with slight autism. His vocabulary is still limited, but he can pick up things very quickly. Knows the ABCs, can count to 20+ and can spell or memorize times, dates (like his birthday or age) and places (like his home address) very quickly.

But his problem is that his social skills are not up to par and he has a very high tolerance to pain.

With that said, when the kids at school pushes him or hits him during recess, he gets the idea that that's acceptable behavior. When they call him names, he thinks that's acceptable behavior too. Its hard to untrain him. You can see where this will lead.

Also, beating him would not work because of his high tolarance to pain. As punishment, we placed him in the corner and ignored him. Left him to cry for about 30 mins. Then I took him to bed and lectured him. I'm not sure how much of it he understood, but he cried alot more when I told him I was angry and mommy was very angry and that's why he's feeling sad amongst other things.

So it sounds like he's being bullied at school. Well that surely won't help him build his social skills. Are you sure something is being done to the people that hits and pushes around your son? Unfortunately, I don't think there is much that could be done about bullying, but keeping him in school will only make him worse.

Kids are pretty smart. My son gets bullied by older kids, but it seems the "Yard Duties", those in charge of keeping an eye out for the children, never sees it. They're not with him at all times. He comes home with scars, from being pushed down or sometimes he comes home and exhibits behaviors that I know the teachers never taught him, like pushing his sister or brother. He would say words that I don't believe his teacher taught him. Definitely coming from the playgrounds. The teachers can only do so much I guess. He's going to a new school next fall. Hopefully it will be better, but I don't think it'll be much different.

 

[yhelothar]

Yeah that's what happened to me during my elementary and middle school days. The teachers just says they didn't see it so they can't do anything about it. The system is all messed up. If your son hits back, he will be punished, just as harshly as the bullies. I would go complain to the authorities of the school if the new school does the same. Though, going to a new school may very easily help. When I went to elementary school, I was looked up upon, I was the popular guy. In 3rd grade, I moved, and went to another school, the tables turned. I was the bottom of the "social class", and I was the one always being picked on, and looked down upon. So it may be a school thing. The ironic thing is that I moved from a really bad hispanic district to one of the top districts in the state.

 

[Mallow]

lol, take the belt to that kid. He obviously knew it was a derogatory term?

Is this a son by a different marriage?

 

[MrCodeDude]

Hehe, this is completely unrelated, but my second cousin was trying to get my aunt's (her grandmother) dog to sit, but she kept saying, "Sh!t! Sh!t!" It was pretty funny, because she would annunciate when she got to the sh part 🙂

 

[yhelothar]

Originally posted by: Mallow
lol, take the belt to that kid. He obviously knew it was a derogatory term?

Is this a son by a different marriage?

Go read the entire thread before you come in making these dumb posts... :|

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
I raised my daughter with the 3D rule.

If she screwed up, or did something wrong, we would talk about it. We discussed why it was wrong, how to make it right and why it was important that she never do it again. However... if she was

Disrespectful
Disobedient
Defiant

she got an ass bubbling.
She is 19 now and the same rule still applies. It will continue to apply. I am 41yrs old and it applies to me from and my mom.

On a lighter note...
I am friends with my ex's new wife and her kid. I went to see their new house one day, and the ceilings we so high that, without thinking, I said 'Holy sh1t. Well, the kid heard me and for the next 5 minutes or so this 24 month old went running thru the house yelling "holysh!tholysh!tholysh!t...". It had been some time since I had been around kids (mine is 19yrs old), and I have since learned to be more careful.

🙂

Hey, KarenMarie, I'm telling your Mom! Prepare for a beating! 😉

My Dad administered corporeal punishment on me once in my entire lifetime. He took me down to the basement, had me pull down my pants, and whacked me hard a couple of times with some sort of unyielding object. It stung badly, and I cried. He apparently felt bad about it, and swore to my Mom that he'd never do it again. He never did. My Mom told me all this in my 30's. And my Mom never hit me or slapped me, she rarely even raised her voice to me. I always thought of her as the last of the Victorians.

Despite the lack of beatings, as a kid, I had the kind of exquisite adult manners that made other kid's parents say things like, "My, why can't you be more like young David?" Go figure. Maybe because my parents treated me like an adult from an early age, exposing me to serious literature (we had a living room full of books in two huge bookcases that my Dad had built himself) and even taking me along to adult themed movies (Truffaut and Fellini and such) at a very young age, and including me, as an intellectual equal, in the dinner-time conversation.

It never even occurred to me to curse or sass back at my parents. I just would never have assumed that I could have. Even though my Mom was an exquisitely gentle soul, she had very high standards and insisted that I measure up to them. And my Dad, well, he was big and somewhat foreboding -- the other kids in the neighborhood were afraid of him -- but he always, always treated me with respect, and love.

Respect and love. Never withhold either to those under your aegis, those under your sheltering wing.

 

[FacelessNobody]

It gets nasty when you kids can see what you shield them from. Forbidding something will simply make it more attractive. Perknose and loki8481 have the right idea in my opinion. Set an example worth following and trust that your kids will follow it. Foul language isn't really a big concern, anyway.