My social life (or lack of) is SUCK!

Phobic9 · Apr 19, 2001

*mild breakdown here*

Ok, I need some tips on meeting people or making friends or whatever because I have like no social life. I moved (back) to Texas 3 months ago and I do nothing. I work on computers all day then I go home and work on my computer. My life is so boring it's driving me crazy.

I'm going to start going back to school (I've slacked off a bit) but not until later this year.

I'm 22 and I don't drink or smoke and I hate the whole club scene because it's irritating and too many stupid people congregate there (at least in Texas). So, what's left for people like me that hate all the things "typical" 22-yr olds do? Please... I need help. I'm tired of going home everyday just to listen to that annoying heatsink I have.

Anyone? Help?

PassatVR6 · Apr 19, 2001

hey what part of Texas are you from? Im in the North Dallas area (live in Plano)

But anyways, a good way to meet people is to enroll in school again and get involved. There are always activities to participate in where you will meet other ppl.

What other interests do you have besides your computer?

-Matt

bigbootydaddy · Apr 19, 2001

us houston clubbers are not stupid!!

well, at least no before 11pm...aka sober time.

Oyeve · Apr 19, 2001

4 words: "Move to New York". 'nuf said.

layne151 · Apr 19, 2001

Think texas is bad come to Iowa, we tip cows for fun!

yobarman · Apr 19, 2001

Work out your body, then become a bartender at a gay bar. before you know it, you'll have more friends than you can shake a stick at.

layne151 · Apr 19, 2001

OS · Apr 19, 2001

Just dive in. Talk to people, school is GREAT for meeting people, but YOU have to take the initiative.

howste · Apr 19, 2001

Join The Society for Creative Anachronism if you're into medieval stuff. There's probably a group near you. When I had time, I used to make armor and fight as well as do all the other medieval fun stuff. It should keep you busy and give you a social life too.

yobarman · Apr 19, 2001

howste he wants a social life, he doesn't want to turn into a nerd. S'matta wit choo!?

novon · Apr 19, 2001

what do u do in NY?

Oyeve · Apr 19, 2001

Whatever I damn want! Whenever I damn want to!

howste · Apr 19, 2001

<< howste he wants a social life, he doesn't want to turn into a nerd. S'matta wit choo!? >>

Geeks, nerds, what's the difference? At least I didn't suggest the chess club did I? Besides, you haven't lived until you've seen someone in a chainmail and rabbit fur bikini....

Syborg1211 · Apr 19, 2001

Heh, I used to think I lacked a social life too, until I realized I am friends with almost the whole cheerleading squad! Oh man, life is pretty good.

Anyways, getting a girlfriend or a date could really help your social life. The girl could introduce you to her friends and if you hit it off with her friends then presto! Just be aggressive with a pretty girl you see and jsut ask her out, if she says no it's no big deal since you really dont even know her.

Ranger X · Apr 19, 2001

<< Work out your body, then become a bartender at a gay bar. before you know it, you'll have more friends than you can shake a stick at. >>

I don't want to know which stick is going to do the shaking ...

Phobic9 · Apr 19, 2001

<< hey what part of Texas are you from? Im in the North Dallas area (live in Plano) >>

I live in Lancaster *shudder* and I work in North Dallas.

<< 4 words: "Move to New York". 'nuf said. >>

As bad as people talk about NY, I think it would be an awesome place to live. As for moving there, I think I
have a while.

<< Anyways, getting a girlfriend or a date could really help your social life. The girl could introduce you to her friends and if you hit it off with her friends then presto! Just be aggressive with a pretty girl you see and jsut ask her out, if she says no it's no big deal since you really dont even know her. >>

This is probably the main reason I'm asking for advice. The last "girlfriend" I had was a married ex-gf that lives in Belgium and that was umm... fun (that thread is here somewhere if you want to see how pathetic I can get).

trmiv · Apr 19, 2001

Phobic9: Well, the first thing you could do is stop living my life!

I swear, I read your first post and thought, "has this guy been spying on my or something?" Maybe we can start a club.

Phobic9 · Apr 19, 2001

<< Phobic9: Well, the first thing you could do is stop living my life! I swear, I read your first post and thought, "has this guy been spying on my or something?" Maybe we can start a club. >>

As sad as my (our) current situation is, I couldn't stop laughing when I saw your post because I didn't think anyone could feel as miserable as me. I guess I shouldn't be laughing but oh well.

Elita1 · Apr 19, 2001

Phobic9---seriously now, get back into school!!! Thru school you can meet people. Get involved in activities The U offers. Take initiative and start conversations, invite people over for movies and pop, go minigolfing, pubbing, etc. There lots more to do than just clubbing.
Don't get a girlfriend just to meet people. Big mistake. Meet people and if you find a girl you like, ask her out.
I'm sorry you feel lonely but if you get up and get out there and find stuff to do you will be glad you did.
You don't have to go to New York to have fun and meet people. It's miserably cold over there anyways. Enjoy what you have

BoberFett · Apr 19, 2001

Get involved with groups that do activities you're interested in. If you're into any sport try an local sports league. If computers are truly your only hobby, then perhaps a local users group might be the thing. They usually have meetings once a month, sometimes more often. Don't expect to be surrounded by people by this weekend, but you have to start somewhere.

Edit: Almost forgot, is there anything wrong with the people where you work?

Phobic9 · Apr 19, 2001

I'm not sure why I quit school anyways but I don't have much to finish. Maybe I quit because going to work in Hawaii seemed pretty fun and spontaneous at the time (and it was...mmmm) but now I'm back where I started and it's boring. Oh so boring.

Anyways, thanks Elita1. I need a good kick in the pants (even if it is on a message board) to get me motivated enough to get out there and meet people.

Phobic9 · Apr 19, 2001

Edit: Almost forgot, is there anything wrong with the people where you work?[/i] >>

In a word: Yes.

GTaudiophile · Apr 19, 2001

Atlanta is suck, IMO, but church is a good place to meet girls! They are what counts, right?

BoberFett · Apr 19, 2001

<< In a word: Yes >>

LOL!

My company is the same way. Fortunately, we enventually hired some people that were younger than 45.

Even if there's nobody there you'd hang out with on a regular basis, they'll have friends. It's as much about meeting people who known people as it is about meeting them yourself. A few months ago, I was in your situation. My soon-to-be-ex-wife never wanted to go out or do anything in the city where we live, so all I had for friends were those that I stayed in contact with, but who lived over an hour away.

After separating in January, I moved in with a couple guys who were looking for a roommate. I've made friends with several of their friends, and those friend's friends. One of the guys I originally moved in with has moved away, but I still get together with people who were his friends before. It's all about networking, man!

Soujiro · Apr 19, 2001

Hmmmm, better move outa Texas. Or learn magic tricks...everyone loves magic.

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