My so called Best Friend Blows me off....What would you do?

[MainFramed]

OK, my "best-friend",for about 4-5 years now, and i havent really hung out in a month or so for busy reasons. well last week we planned on hanging out last night (friday), said we'd go workout then get a bite to eat with some girls, well he calls at 7 (while the rest of the day he tells me he's trying to brake loose) and tells me has to work with his dad on redoing there house. im like yeah thats cool np, he says he wants to come over first thing in the morning, get breakfast hit the gym and hang out whatever. so after i hung up i felt like an ass not asking if he needed help, call him back and get his dad. "work on the house? we were done with that hours ago, he just left with some girls" He told me. i was like wtf. so i called him to personally ask him (on his cell) if he needed help. and he just went with it said hes working hard whatever doesnt mention anything about being with the girls. i didint say anything. called him this morning at 9 like he asked and his parents said hes out with some guy up in port huron for the day. i was just like ok. wtf? im not being a pussy here. having such a close and long relationship with this guy is what makes me feel like crap, i look forward to hanging with him and then he blows me off. were practically brothers to.

what would you do?

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: MainFramed
OK, my "best-friend",for about 4-5 years now, and i havent really hung out in a month or so for busy reasons. well last week we planned on hanging out last night (friday), said we'd go workout then get a bite to eat with some girls, well he calls at 7 (while the rest of the day he tells me he's trying to brake loose) and tells me has to work with his dad on redoing there house. im like yeah thats cool np, he says he wants to come over first thing in the morning, get breakfast hit the gym and hang out whatever. so after i hung up i felt like an ass not asking if he needed help, call him back and get his dad. "work on the house? we were done with that hours ago, he just left with some girls" He told me. i was like wtf. so i called him to personally ask him (on his cell) if he needed help. and he just went with it said hes working hard whatever doesnt mention anything about being with the girls. i didint say anything. called him this morning at 9 like he asked and his parents said hes out with some guy up in port huron for the day. i was just like ok. wtf? im not being a pussy here. having such a close and long relationship with this guy is what makes me feel like crap, i look forward to hanging with him and then he blows me off. were practically brothers to.

what would you do?

Find another best friend

 

[NFS4]

Get a new boyfriend

 

[MainFramed]

Originally posted by: NFS4
Get a new boyfriend

sounds like a plan, thanks

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: NFS4
Get a new boyfriend

i would confront him. there is nothing like a bad best friend. the only problem is...everyone who is any type of friend can never fully be trusted (usually). everyone has their own agenda and basically the only people you can rely on are your family members, but sometimes not even they are completely faithful to their word obviously.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: NFS4
Get a new boyfriend

i would confront him. there is nothing like a bad best friend. the only problem is...everyone who is any type of friend can never fully be trusted (usually). everyone has their own agenda and basically the only people you can rely on are your family members, but sometimes not even they are completely faithful to their word obviously.

Maybe the guy just wants a little bit of space??? I mean, continually calling the guy and harrassing him isn't a solution. Give the dude a week off then check back in.

This really sounds like a jealous BF/GF kind of relationship

 

[anxi80]

since NFS4 took the BF/GF tangent... ignore your friend... when he calls, say you are busy and you'll call him later. just avoid him and ignore him when he calls... let his mind marinate on that for awhile, and if you say your as good as a friend to him as he is to you before this whole ordeal... he'll slowly come around and try to amend the past...

...or screw all that noise, and just punch him in the neck.

 

[MainFramed]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: NFS4
Get a new boyfriend

i would confront him. there is nothing like a bad best friend. the only problem is...everyone who is any type of friend can never fully be trusted (usually). everyone has their own agenda and basically the only people you can rely on are your family members, but sometimes not even they are completely faithful to their word obviously.

Maybe the guy just wants a little bit of space??? I mean, continually calling the guy and harrassing him isn't a solution. Give the dude a week off then check back in.

This really sounds like a jealous BF/GF kind of relationship

i call him to ask if he needs help, and rang him in the morning to see if he wanted breakfast. he asked me to call. im not jealous. i just thought we were closer than that. thanks for your contribution.

edit: put something in there shouldnt have

 

[melly]

just straight up ask him wtf.

 

[Kev]

yet another gay thread

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: MainFramed

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: NFS4
Get a new boyfriend

i would confront him. there is nothing like a bad best friend. the only problem is...everyone who is any type of friend can never fully be trusted (usually). everyone has their own agenda and basically the only people you can rely on are your family members, but sometimes not even they are completely faithful to their word obviously.

Maybe the guy just wants a little bit of space??? I mean, continually calling the guy and harrassing him isn't a solution. Give the dude a week off then check back in.

This really sounds like a jealous BF/GF kind of relationship

i call him to ask if he needs help, and rang him in the morning to see if he wanted breakfast. he asked me to call. im not jealous. i just thought we were closer than that. thanks for your contribution.

edit: put something in there shouldnt have

ignore these idiots that are calling you gay. NFS4, you have a point, but he wasnt harassing him. he called when the guy pretty much asked him to, plus he straight up lied to him. it sounds like a best friend relationship, the kind where you think you can count on someone.

edit: and i would still say confront him. what a dickweed.

 

[MainFramed]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: MainFramed

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: NFS4
Get a new boyfriend

i would confront him. there is nothing like a bad best friend. the only problem is...everyone who is any type of friend can never fully be trusted (usually). everyone has their own agenda and basically the only people you can rely on are your family members, but sometimes not even they are completely faithful to their word obviously.

Maybe the guy just wants a little bit of space??? I mean, continually calling the guy and harrassing him isn't a solution. Give the dude a week off then check back in.

This really sounds like a jealous BF/GF kind of relationship

i call him to ask if he needs help, and rang him in the morning to see if he wanted breakfast. he asked me to call. im not jealous. i just thought we were closer than that. thanks for your contribution.

edit: put something in there shouldnt have

ignore these idiots that are calling you gay. NFS4, you have a point, but he wasnt harassing him. he called when the guy pretty much asked him to, plus he straight up lied to him. it sounds like a best friend relationship, the kind where you think you can count on someone.

edit: and i would still say confront him. what a dickweed.

yeah, and i can agree it sounds gay. i would probably be saying the same stuff on someone else's thread but eh, i just wanted to write it out. kinda had me thinkging. i agree with you guys on leaving it alone, later asking him wtf and all. thanks mrdudeman

 

[MrDudeMan]

my best friend (still my best friend) and i moved away pretty much right after high school, but we still stay in touch and talk on the phone every week or two. a long time ago, he was supposed to come over for lunch on a saturday and then we were going to work on the car. well, i called him after he was an hour late and asked where he was, and his reply? "im at the golf course with my dad." i was like wtf? werent you going to call me? why are you being an asshole? "because i can be." and then i just hung up. i didnt give him the time of day for a few days, and then i just said to him one day "so do you just want to fvck up our 3 year friendship over your pride because you cant say sorry to me?" and i walked away...few days later, he called me, apologized, and it was good from there.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: MainFramed
yeah, and i can agree it sounds gay. i would probably be saying the same stuff on someone else's thread but eh, i just wanted to write it out. kinda had me thinkging. i agree with you guys on leaving it alone, later asking him wtf and all. thanks mrdudeman

np, and the only thing you can actually do to solve this is analyze the situation and do what you think is best. our advice may be guidance, but only you know your best friend, and only can you decide if confrontation or fading away for a week will fix this. i hope it gets better because losing a best friend sucks.

 

[MainFramed]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
my best friend (still my best friend) and i moved away pretty much right after high school, but we still stay in touch and talk on the phone every week or two. a long time ago, he was supposed to come over for lunch on a saturday and then we were going to work on the car. well, i called him after he was an hour late and asked where he was, and his reply? "im at the golf course with my dad." i was like wtf? werent you going to call me? why are you being an asshole? "because i can be." and then i just hung up. i didnt give him the time of day for a few days, and then i just said to him one day "so do you just want to fvck up our 3 year friendship over your pride because you cant say sorry to me?" and i walked away...few days later, he called me, apologized, and it was good from there.

Got Ya, well glad it worked out for ya. yeah i'll probably just say something like that in a week or so

 

[PowerMacG5]

I would ask him to his face what was up. No phone or internet bullshit. Be a man, and confront him.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: Marauder911
I would ask him to his face what was up. No phone or internet bullshit. Be a man, and confront him.

you should have put [ahnold] and [/ahnold] around that...would have been funnier

 

[MainFramed]

Originally posted by: Marauder911
I would ask him to his face what was up. No phone or internet bullshit. Be a man, and confront him.

My Dad taught me that years ago, I wouldnt call him or talk to him via the net over this.

 

[MrDudeMan]

yeah, just dont do what i did and put him on the spot. i wish i wouldnt have done that

i said it to him at school in front of people and he probably felt like a total jerkoff when what he did wasnt THAT bad...i apologized to him for that after he apologized to me, but i think that still bothered him for a while

 

[MainFramed]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
yeah, just dont do what i did and put him on the spot. i wish i wouldnt have done that

i said it to him at school in front of people and he probably felt like a total jerkoff when what he did wasnt THAT bad...i apologized to him for that after he apologized to me, but i think that still bothered him for a while

thanks, yeah he wouldnt like that im sure lol

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

If he's a real friend you should be with longer, he'll tell you without you asking within a week or two. Don't ask him or call him up, but if he calls you, answer and talk as if you don't know what happened

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: AgaBooga
If he's a real friend you should be with longer, he'll tell you without you asking within a week or two. Don't ask him or call him up, but if he calls you, answer and talk as if you don't know what happened

thats true...although different than what i personally would do, i could see this being a possible solution as well. that is what makes this so hard - the choices.

 

[MustangSVT]

that's what you get for checking him out in showers

 

[gururu]

this is a good time to hone your talent/ability/capacity to completely remove another human being from your social network. Forget him completely. This is a skill very few can do with discipline. I'm serious too. 'Friends' like that can only corrupt your sense of what a good friend is, and there are certainly people out there that can be true friends.

 

[TallBill]

I still never get why guys get into this little rumble with other guys about stupid crap.