ni4ni
Golden Member
My father was married before he married my mother. During his first marriage, he had a daughter (my half-sister.) After my dad and his first wife divorced, she remarried and had two children (not related to me, but we look at each other like we are brother and sister.) My sister and her brother and sister live in the same very small town. I live in an larger town about 25 miles away.
It was recently found out that my sister's brother is gay. No big deal. To each their own.
I do have one problem though. My sister has a son (my nephew) who is eleven. He and his uncle are very close. Much closer than we are (I lived in a different town.) When he finds out that his uncle is gay, it will devestate him. (He watches tv and if two guys or girls are together, he says it is gross and wrong according to God.) I think my sister should have her brother over and tell my nephew because I say it is better that he hear it from family instead of on the street that was he doesn't resent the family keeping it a secret.
She disagrees and wants to wait saying he isn't old enough to understand. I know he is her son, and I would never tell him without her permission. I want her to do what she wants to do however I still don't think it is right for him to find out from a stranger.
I just want to know who is right? What would you do?
Update: My father was previously married and divorced before he married my mother.
Update: She is my half-sister (We have the same father but different mothers.) She also has a half-brother and half-sister (They have the same mothers but different fathers.) They are not related to me.
Update: I am not trying to change her mind about telling him. It is her son. She will be the one to deal with any problems. I just personally feel that he should find out from family instead of someone he barely knows because he is going to wonder why the family hid it from him.
Update: To those who are telling me to butt out. How can I butt out? I am not involved. My sister brought this up to me asking what I would do. I told her and she disagreed. End of discussion with my sister. I then came here to explain it and ask what other people would do. I am not going to confer with my sister regarding this anymore. Just curious about other people's opinions!
It was recently found out that my sister's brother is gay. No big deal. To each their own.
I do have one problem though. My sister has a son (my nephew) who is eleven. He and his uncle are very close. Much closer than we are (I lived in a different town.) When he finds out that his uncle is gay, it will devestate him. (He watches tv and if two guys or girls are together, he says it is gross and wrong according to God.) I think my sister should have her brother over and tell my nephew because I say it is better that he hear it from family instead of on the street that was he doesn't resent the family keeping it a secret.
She disagrees and wants to wait saying he isn't old enough to understand. I know he is her son, and I would never tell him without her permission. I want her to do what she wants to do however I still don't think it is right for him to find out from a stranger.
I just want to know who is right? What would you do?
Update: My father was previously married and divorced before he married my mother.
Update: She is my half-sister (We have the same father but different mothers.) She also has a half-brother and half-sister (They have the same mothers but different fathers.) They are not related to me.
Update: I am not trying to change her mind about telling him. It is her son. She will be the one to deal with any problems. I just personally feel that he should find out from family instead of someone he barely knows because he is going to wonder why the family hid it from him.
Update: To those who are telling me to butt out. How can I butt out? I am not involved. My sister brought this up to me asking what I would do. I told her and she disagreed. End of discussion with my sister. I then came here to explain it and ask what other people would do. I am not going to confer with my sister regarding this anymore. Just curious about other people's opinions!
