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My roommates BUG LIKE CRAZY! (rant)

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okay, first off, when we first moved in, they knew me as "the messy one" from the dorms, and I tried to make sure to clean up after myself and to not make a mess anywhere. Well, that got out of hand only after a few weeks, as they would not wash the dishes (piles of dishes would accumulate and I'd just wash them because I didn't want to be known as a slob) ever! I ended up doing all their dishes every other day as the sink would pile up pretty fast. Well, we had a talk about that and now we sort of rotate washing dishes, but other things have set us apart.

First, they said that I couldn't have any alcohol or marijuana in the house. Okay, i'll keep the alcohol out of the fridge outside and in my own room (my 2 roommates share the master, I get my own room) . Then they said that I couldn't have alcohol in my own mini-fridge in my own room, because I'm not 21 yet and it's illegal. Come on now, it was my own room, and sometimes I like to kick back and play video games with a few friends and crack open a few beers. Well, then they said that I should be more polite and not bring so many friends over, apparently they like being antisocial and me bringing 1-2 friends Fri/Sat nights was too much. We'd stay up until like 2-3am playing video games, and they started to complain about the noise (which was tuned down almost all the way), complained about them sleeping over (they said that they didn't want their house to become a hotel, so I should kindly ask my friends to leave, even if they were sleeping in my own room my roommates would flash dirty looks), and complained about me using up too much electricity.

The alcohol and marijuana thing kind of blew over, but they crack jokes about it non-stop. i.e. when some mutual friends are over and we're all chatting, if some comment about not going to class comes up my roommate likes to bring up "oh don't worry you won't be as bad as loser stoner tony." AND what's more is that they now sleep at all hours of the day and night. (1 roommate takes a nap from like 3-7pm, other roommate sleeps early around 10pm) so basically they like to tell me to turn down my music at completely normal hours like 4pm or 11pm. Not only that, they play their music loud at early morning hours too if both happen to be awake. My bed is on the side of the wall that's adjacent to theirs, and sometimes at 9am on a Sunday morning i'll wake up to BSB, Usher, Britney blasting, and considering I have a pretty normal college weekend sleep schedule (4am-1pm usually) it gets really annoying.

Just tonight too they brought over a few other guys and were playing video games, being loud, watching movies (exactly the type of thing they'd get pissed off at me for) and I was trying to take an early nap around 10pm. Well, I got up, and I was playing Civ3 until about now and my roommate bangs on the wall, then bangs on my door and tells me to turn my stuff down. ITS FREAKING CIV3! I'M NOT PLAYING IT LOUD! but oh well i shut off the game and now am just extremely pissed off. First off they're both antisocial losers usually that stick inside their room and lock the door the whole time so it feels like i'm living by myself in an apartment where i have a lot of rules imposed on me. Then they're really not that accomodating, as when I'm stuck here bored on a Friday night they'll often just disappear without asking me to go out with them (i was pretty good friends with both my roommates last year) but i guess they're just asshole losers with dildos shoved up their asses.

Anyways, if you've read through all that, I've been seriously considering moving out, but I'm not quite sure how to go about it. First off, I pay $620/month for my own room here, which is kind of a rip-off, and I live about 20 min. away from college, so I could move home, except I really like living around the college atmosphere, so I think I'd be missing out a lot on that (but i'm not too sure yet...). Any suggestions? Talking with them hasn't helped and probably won't, so it's either look around for different roommates or move home, either one i'm seriously considering... only thing is that they might not be able to find other roommates to fill my place... soo... since i signed the leasing contract i might be binded to this, but i really think they'd like to get rid of me, so meh whateverz.

end of rant
 
that's hella lame... they sound pretty gay to me. sorry, i don't have any advice, but sounds like they suck. bsb, usher, and britney? are you sure they aren't blowing each other behind your back?
 
yeah gopunk seems to have the same ideas as i do, but since you said you were friends w/ the guys i didn't want to insinuate anything...
 
Lol. Welcome to my world. Only 2 more days of my roommate though 🙂. I just got stuck with a random guy, and that was a huge mistake. He is the biggest loser I have ever met. I stay awake until 6 every morning because he keeps me awake with his snoring and talking in his sleep. I can't have alchohol because he dosn't l;ike it, and it is his fridge. 2 more days!!! Uh...next quarter will be better.
 
Originally posted by: dparker
Lol. Welcome to my world. Only 2 more days of my roommate though 🙂. I just got stuck with a random guy, and that was a huge mistake. He is the biggest loser I have ever met. I stay awake until 6 every morning because he keeps me awake with his snoring and talking in his sleep. I can't have alchohol because he dosn't l;ike it, and it is his fridge. 2 more days!!! Uh...next quarter will be better.
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i'd rather be stuck with a random person than a close friend. You have a better chance of losing a friend that you room with than one that you don't.

-=bmacd=-
 
Not this guy. I never want to speak to him after he moves out, hell I don't speak to him now. I can't stand him. Next quarter I will be rooming with a friend, so I'll see how that goes. This is the worst guy on Earth, and all of my friends who have been in my room agree. He has never brought any friends up and I've only met one of them. They are weird to. I don't mean to sound mean or anything, but it really does suck living with him. I'm sure he thinks the same about me.
 
Dude you really need to rush in the fall. Sounds like the Morman Tabermanical Queers you live with.

You have the rest of your life to be straight laced be a wild and crazy guy now while you are able.
 
Roommates svck.

That being said, when you choose to co-habitate with other people...then expect that there is gonna be TONS of stuff that bugs the crap out of both you AND them.
It's a REALLY good idea to try to match personalities with your roommates before moving in...but that's not much help right now.

* As for the noise issues: if you are up playing a game and they're asleep...why not wear headphones?
* As for the dishwashing: fvck that. When I had roomies...everybody washed what they used. Period.
* As for the comments about bein a loser: tell that smartass that the next time he mouths off about you, you're gonna punch him in the mouth. j/k, but there is a way to make it clear to him that that is uncool without coming off like an idiot. not sure what woudl be the best approach, since it varies from person to person, but look for the opening and then speak your piece.
* About the friends over: gotta say I'm largely with them on this. A good idea might be to try to give them some notice. Like "Hey man....Bud1 and Bud2 are gonna be over tonight"
* About the underage alcohol and dope stuff: gotta say I'm with them on this too. Too much possibility for authorities to get involved, especially if something got out of hand (thinking party or something, neighbors calling the cops. With dope, roomates would be on the hook for not reporting. And putting them at risk for your vices is not cool in my book. Anybody I roomed with always agreed with the "no dope in the place" rule, or we didn't room together.

Honestly, the worst conflicts between roommates I ever saw were when:
* Roommates stopped talking to each other at all.
* One roommate or the other felt excluded from everything goin on, or ganged up on (sounds kinda like you feel this way).
* A roommate punched another one in the mouth. 😛

Actually, the best way my roommates and I helped resolve conflict was to sleep with our respective girlfriends. Preferably at the girls' apartments. 😀
 
At most schools, rommates would be on the hook for not reporting. And putting them at risk for expulsion for your vices is not cool in my book. Anybody I roomed with always agreed with the "no dope in the place" rule.
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Don't know about you but I haven't heard of many triplet dorms with 2 seperate bedrooms, I think he lives off-campus.
 
Well actually, you could also just be anti-social and don't care if they want you to turn down the sound, etc. If you are in your own room, you can take friends to _your_ room whenever they want, and when they b!tch about it, just ignore'em.
 
your mates sound like a bunch of fags.

the alcohol thing blah as long as you carry a whole room full of the stuff and a couple of beers whos going to check? You can probably say it was your fathers or something.

The pot thing okay I agree with them on that one. No biggie.

The game thing they can literally suck that one. If I pay for a room and I decide to play games then they can suck on that. The music isn't going to be *loud* at all during late hours. Just turn down your sub a lot.

The dishes piling up let it pile up. Only clean your stuff.

The friends thing, they are out of order on. If your friends stay in your room then you can do what you want. You paid for the space of *your* room. Your friends stay in your room. Now argue how THAT affects your i love you room mates?

The dissing behind your back is really romo. I'd talk to him straight and tell them both that they were out of order. If they laugh in your face or do something disrespectful then s t a b him in his face😀 j/k I'd seriously considering knocking him out if he did it again. Dissing you is not cool if you find out.

"Violence solves nothings if your not using enough of it" = ramdom quote I saw off an ATOT guy😀
 
The alcohol is bull. I assume you have a house, not a dorm. Who the hell is gonna check? The pot understandable, I wouldn't have it in my house either.

As far as noise goes just work out a schedule. I say 8am-11pm on weekdays and 8am-1am for weekends is fine for being noisy. Besides they listen to BSB and Britney, nuf said.

With friends being over, I agreee, what goes on in your room is your business, tell them to fvck off. But if you're in the living room or whatnot playing games and watching movies then I agree, notice would be good.

If they're that unaccomadating, then just move home. You're not missing out on that much (you can't even do anything as it is).
 
about the dishes... what I do is this... I keep all my dishes in my room and if there are any dishes left in the sink for more than a day, I clean them, and then take them and keep them in my room with the rest of the dishes. When my roommates wonder why there are no dishes in the kitchen I ask then, "how can there be clean dishes if you don't wash them" and then tell them I threw them out.

 
Originally posted by: Lucky
Don't know about you but I haven't heard of many triplet dorms with 2 seperate bedrooms, I think he lives off-campus.
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Yep...missed that one. I thought he was in the dorm. Oh well..sue me 😛😀
 
Originally posted by: ChefJoe
Are they both engineers? They sound like that type.
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What are you talking about? Engineers often party hard and have fun. And they usually aren't major asses (even moreso off campus, just regular fun loving people). They just know how to seperate their fun and work, and get their work done when it needs to be done. And they especially don't listen to Britney, ugh. Sounds more like some business majors or something, heh - they just want to control everything and make you their peon.

My solutions --

Dishes: Clean your own stuff and tell them to get their sh!t outta the sink if they don't clean it after a couple days. Definitely do not let them use your stuff when they come begging for clean plates, tell them to get off their asses and do some work.

Pot: Fine, because you need to respect people's wills to not have pot around that they could get in trouble for, or to not just be around pot in general.

Alcohol: If it's your fridge and it's in your room of the apartment, tell them that no one is ever going to look in the fridge, and if anyone does that you will be the only one taking the fall. As long as you don't get plastered every couple days, then they should not have a problem with you kicking back and chilling out every couple nights.

Calling you a stoner: Whenever they do that again just confront them and ask them what the hell their problem is. Depending on your usage nowadays you could tell them that you don't do that sh!t anymore or that you've never skipped a class because you were stoned, if either is true. If the pot is effecting your school work, then tell them to fvck off because it is none of their business (although I would probably try to get you to cut down or stop so you don't screw up your studies if I were a friend/roomate).

Your noise: Ask them (politely) why they have to sleep abnormal hours. Figure out whether it really is because they have a fooked up school/work schedule or if it is just because they are lazy. I personally try to get to bed at 10 pm on the nights before Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays because I have early classes and those are my longest days at school, so 10 pm isn't all that unreasonable of a time to ask people to be quiet. However, sleeping from 3 pm to 7 pm is ridiculous unless they have early morning classes and work the graveyard shift somewhere (which I find quite unlikely). I have taken naps around those times, but they are only once in a while, when my schedule just gets out of hand and I'm hardly sleeping at all at night (projects, etc, you know the drill). Thankfully I commute and live with my parents, so the house is only loud occasionally and if it is loud when I am trying to sleep I can just ask whoever it is to turn stuff down and they do (usually it is kept quiet past 9 or 10 pm anyhow).

Their noise: If you are trying to sleep, go over there and ask them (politely the first couple times) to turn their stuff down. Tell them that you always turn your stuff down if they ask (so for) and that you would appreciate them not blaring music out at 9 am on Sunday mornings. If they keep doing it or only turn it down if you get up and tell them to, ask them what the hell their problem is, why they expect you to be nice to them (and you are so far) but they just keep sh!ting around with you. If they end up being even bigger asses as this goes on, then just play your music whenever you want on the weekends (or any other time that they are inconsiderate to you). When they wake up and b!tch at you, politely explain to them that is not fun having to get up every morning to tell them to turn their music down and you would appreciate it if they would give you some respect there. If they are considerate of you, you will be considerate of them.

Bringing friends: Tell them that you pay $620/month for this place and bringing friends over is not against the lease agreement, nor an unreasonable thing to do. As long as you aren't bringing like 10 people over and making a mess of their stuff, then you should be fine. You should be able to expect that you can have 2 buds over to play some games, drink some beer, and just hang out. And if you want to lend your room out to buds to crash for the night, then you can. It is your room, you are paying for it, and you can use it how you wish. I mean, you guys are staying up to 2 or 3 am, your friends have had a couple beers, I wouldn't want them driving home anyhow.

Electricity: Sounds like for $620/month that electricity would be included in the rent. But, if it isn't, then I would laugh at them and tell them that the extra electricity spent playing games with some friends up until 2 or 3 am instead of 12 am might cost an additional buck.

Anytime they do stuff that they usually yell at you for (friends, music, etc), just confront them later and tell them that it's a two way street, they don't get to complain about your noise and then make noise whenever they want, that everyone has to compromise with everyone else. As far as trying to find another apartment, I would just stick it out and make the best of the situation. It isn't worth the possible financial trouble that you could run into just to get away from a couple of annoying jerks. Just stick it out until the end of your lease and try to work things out with them.

It does sound like they are butt pirates for each other though. 😕

Edit: Oh yeah, about the lease, if you really really want to move out: If you can talk to your landlord, explain the situation (excluding the things that might get you into trouble, ie pot, alcohol, friends sleeping at your place) and tell them that your roomates are constantly being asses to you for the littlest things, playing some music quietly in the afternoon, playing games with some friends, etc (make it look like you are an innocent little angel). Then ask them if they woud let you cancel your lease if you could find someone to replace you as the leaser. If they are cool with this, find another place to live and another gay butt pirate to take your current place and have them take up the lease, then move out. This way you are covered financially if you really can't stand it any longer.

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I would assume all three of you are on the lease together. If so, then I understand why they wouldn't want dope. Alcohol is another story. Some of what you said I agree with them and on others I agree with you. Try to work it out with them. It isn't worth being upset over.
 
well if they're not bigger than you and you want to get out of the lease... you have to fight fire with fire. My fiance was in a similar situation. The girls would not let her out of her lease till i basically put my foot down and said i was moving in till they do. I told my fiance not to do the dishes or clean up anymore. They basically treated her like cinderella. They were such freaking pigs. algae growing in the bathtub. Mold all over the bathroom wall and living room wall. Feet sticking to the kitchen floor when walking. Mud on the carpets. So after i said i was doing that and I blocked all international phone calls from coming in (basically their family members) they let her out of the lease
 
About the underage alcohol and dope stuff: gotta say I'm with them on this too. Too much possibility for authorities to get involved, especially if something got out of hand (thinking party or something, neighbors calling the cops. With dope, roomates would be on the hook for not reporting. And putting them at risk for your vices is not cool in my book. Anybody I roomed with always agreed with the "no dope in the place" rule, or we didn't room together.
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Agreed.

As for the other stuff, it doesn't sound like talking/compromise has helped. You could ty it again, or you talk to them about leaving and whether or not the lease would be binding.
 
Okay everybody, thanks for the moral support 🙂 (i'm going to try and respond to everybody's questions/suggestions)

gopunk: Just again, I slept around 6am (my fault, i know) but I woke up around 9am to my roommate blasting the loudest music ever. Alien Ant Farm (that overplayed smooth criminal song), then 20 MINUTES OF USHER AGAIN I CANT STAND USHER ANYMORE (he was bearable but not anymore) I think he was trying to show off his speakers to, whoever he brought over I don't really pay attention.

Joemonkey: They were my friends last year sort of because we were all suitemates. I was going to live with some other people but that deal fell through at the last minute (around May) and I needed a place to stay really badly, and these 2 guys (1 was former roommate in a triple, 1 was suitemate) needed another 1-2 roommates.

Lucky: Yeah i've been trying to, but I'm not sure how my roommates would approach that... we have some mutual friends and they talk a lotta sh~t behind my back that i know of. (Tony came home at 4am last night drunk! That loser!) kinda stuff.

Dparker: I think the WORST thing about my roommates is that they outnumber me. If it was just me and either one of them by themselves they'd be less hostile towards me (because they're antisocial losers that are dumb as hell and i'm sure they admire the fact that I'm at least having fun at college as opposed to them sitting on their butts playing computer games all day long)

Carbonyl: UCI frats? bleh... My best friend is in a UCLA frat, and I know most of his frat bros really well, and if i were up there I'd join his frat, but none down here in asiantown look that attractive to me.

Tallgeese: i *would* wear headphones, and i do when they're sleeping, but the fact is that when I was playing a game, (Civ3, not CS or Quake or anything loud) at low volume, I don't see why they could complain. It was just slightly above really really quiet in my room.
Dishwashing, yeah the only time they washed the dishes that's what happened. I'd been washing ALL of our dishes for a few weeks, then finally they made a big mess one night, and I had a few plates/cups in the sink, and they washed their stuff, and left my 3 cups/2 plates there.
My smartass roommate is just that, a smartass, I stopped arguing with him a long time back (bad memories)
Friends, I DO tell them that people are coming over, and they usually just grumble or something, and make a big mess out of the fact that they're here WHEN they're here. In the afternoon, i'll say like, Fred and Chris are comin over, k? *okay..* and when they're here they'll be dicks to them, saying like "make sure you don't eat our food" or "keep it down, we sleep at normal hours" or "we hope you know there are 3 people living here, not just you"
Underage alcohol and dope, I live off-campus in an apartment. I *would* throw a party here and there, (not big ones, 10-15 people) but obviously my roommates would bitch like crazy, so I limit it to like 3-4 kids at most every other week. We NEVER get drunk, we only kick open a few beers and watch a movie or something (IN MY ROOM), and they still manage to complain.

ndee: that's the thing, they ARE in my room

koing: i answered most of the stuff before, but the friends thing, they ALWAYS stay in my room. They really have nothing to complain about, because it's basically like nobody's in the house, we're always in my room, quiet, watching a movie or something. They like to bitch because they don't like our apartment being used as a hotel i guess.

virtuamike: *sigh* that's what I'm saying..

ChefJoe: Both ICS Nerds

BleckWelcky: Pot i guess so, but it was stupid of them to complain in the first place, it stays in my room and I never keep more than an 1/8th around. Alcohol, they were dildos about that and just didn't want it *under their roof* because they pay for the place as well. They keep thinking that the cops will bust in because I'm drinking a beer, arrest me and arrest them too and we'll all be stuck in prison for months or something and it will go under all our records.
Calling me a stoner: I GOT BETTER GRADES ON THEM ON OUR MUTUAL MIDTERMS (there had to say it it makes me feel really good) I never go to class, I do better than them on the midterms (physics I got A, 1 roommate got B-, Physics of Music, I got B, other roommate got D)

All: Thanks for the advice and the support, I'm really appreciating it here 🙂

 
I have two words for you to say to them: fvck you!!!

Seriously, don't do the dishes. They are both fvcking a$$hats (read: Not your friends).

Have pizza ordered to your place under their name... especially when you are not home. That wouldl be funny. 😀
 
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