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They met on some online dating service, she went over to meet him in Dubai, actually several times, they fell in love, then she got him over here by using a lawyer (which is another long horror story in itself), and now they are legally American married.
The thing is.... he is such a nice guy. Extremely intelligent, speaks english quite well, the most decent fellow I've met in a long time.
Naturally he misses his family back in Pakistan, but they do video conference every day.
And his mom really misses him. She worries that America is treating him ok.
And his two sisters, one a teacher and the other in school, both are incredible pretty.
I was amazed at how they dress, and so very colorful.
My niece new hubby lived in some small village over in Pakistan, with his entire family, and listening to his stories about life over there is something everyone should experience.
Americans are so damn sheltered from the outside world.
And we eat up all the crap politicians tell us to believe....
Take their language, they speak two versions commonly.
It would be compared to our speaking a proper educated english vs speaking street slang.
One language spoken as quite respectful, while the other disrespectful.
Instance... Like speaking to a stranger, "Miss, may I ask how you are today?", as the respectful version.
Compared... "Hey you! How ya going?", as some might say here.
It is taught to address the stranger with respect, that is if correctly taught the by the parents.
To set a good example.
He is quite interesting to listen to.
I asked what he thinks of Trump, and he compared that to different fingers on the hand.
Where you have some fingers that are more pronounced, while other fingers are not.
He compares it to people that might be more vocal and opinionated, compared to others less so.
Like fingers on the hand. All are different. Better to be accepting and tolerant.
He's very easy going and doesn't let much upset him. He accepts differences and understands that some people will be more harsh and opinionated, while others more down to earth.
As with fingers on the hand, everyone is different. Really quite interesting way of putting it.
He is amazed how isolated people over here in America really are in comparison to the rest of the world. Our lack of knowledge for other cultures and of other peoples.
He learned english in Pakistan by working as a painter in homes with english speaking owners and working with english speaking Pakistani co-workers.
He has another little story or comparison using an elephant as the example.
He talks about a baby elephant with it's foot chained to a tree.
The baby can not break the chain. But as the elephant grows to adult, the adult elephant could easily break away but is conditioned with thinking the chain still controls it.
Conditioned to think it doesn't have the strength to break away.
He compared the isolation of Americans to the elephant.
All we know is our way of life, and we really have no idea of how other cultures operate or care to learn, other than what politicians might occasionally brain wash us into believing.
He didn't say that himself, but I got the point.
That a politician like Trump can come along and convince everyone that all middle eastern's are murders, rapist, and terrorist.
And we eat it up as truth because we just don't know any better.
We never cared to learn outside the box. Were never taught or educated to believe anything different.
And the same goes internally with our understanding of minorities, of anyone different.
Many whites are brain washed into thinking blacks are inferior, that gays are evil, and Mexicans are all criminals. Talk about dense.
Americans believe this because we have always been confined within our little world.
We grew up in all white neighborhoods, attended all white schools, and that was the way it was.
And while a lot has changed internally, not much has changed externally as far as the world operates.
To simply put it, we're idiots and too lazy to care or learn. (my words, not his)
Take guns....
Over in Pakistan you must have a permit.
Anyone can own a gun, as long as they have a current permit.
The thing is.... you can not take that gun around in public unless you have a good reason.
For instance, his father in Pakistan is a jeweler and he carries a gun, legally.
He owns a shop and carries jewels and money for his business.
His carrying a gun outside of the home is justified.
But if you are a Pakistani gun owner but have so legitimate reason to carry your gun around in public, you can not do that.
Should you own a gun, the permit must be current, not expired.
Kind of makes sense that you can own a gun for protection in the home, but that gun must remain inside the home unless you have a damn good and legitimate reason to take it outside in public.
And naturally, they have very little gun violence over there.
No mass shootings, no school shootings, no killing of cops.
Take their laws for crime and punishment over in Pakistan.
Over here, for murder we lock the criminal like Charles Masson up for 40+ years.
We the taxpayer feed him, provide the roof over his head, give him free healthcare and free internet.
Compared to Pakistan, over there if you commit a crime you are punished, and not only severely but quickly.
No wasting the taxpayer years and years of legal challenges in the courts.
Over there, the first time that you steal you are maybe fined and or reprimanded.
Dare steal again?
Next time the punishment is a severed hand. Usually that hand cut off in public for all to witness.
If you murder, you are beheaded. Plain and simple.
Only if the family of the victim forgives can one escape death for committing a death of another.
And that beheading carried out in short order, none of that years and years stuck in the courts and lost in the legal system.
The parents?
Pakistani people resect their parents, the elderly.
Especially the culture living within the small villages.
Villages, they have so such thing as nursing homes to stick mom and dad away when old.
The family cares for the elderly, and in the family home.
He also spoke of bathing his grandmother, rubbing her feet when she hurt.
They take full care of the parents and the grandparents in their old age. None of that sticking them away into a nursing home.
The Pakistani culture is taught and raised to respect the elderly.
And the food?
They have some KFC and McDonalds, but few ever eat there or care to afford to.
Typically, the mother goes to the local market daily or weekly to buy fresh items for the dinner.
No fast food, no junk food.
With the household upkeep, the entire family pitches in.
The kid not locked up in their room playing video games all day.
The kids help cook, they help clean, and they pitch in without being told or threatened to.
Should and when people visit, they are made to feel at home.
They are offered to dine with the family, or offered drink, given full hospitality.
Which I know is every much like the culture of the asian people as well.
I found it embarrassing to compare our culture to their culture.
How we treat our elderly and treat our own parents in their senior years of declining health.
How our politicians talk about "returning to those good old days" and "make America great again".
Great? Do they even know great?
Well political blowhards.... just consider the Pakistani culture if you want that taste of the past.
A return to that era of mom in the kitchen, dad at the office, respectful kids, and parents that really care.
Those days of:
No tolerance for crime.
Families caring about and for each other.
No mass shooting of kids or co workers or cops or for simply walking down the street.
Eating healthy, no junk.
And if a doctor visit is necessary, one doesn't need go bankrupt paying the bill.
Make America Great Again? Hmmmmm....
Maybe we can take a lesson. Within reason.
The thing is.... he is such a nice guy. Extremely intelligent, speaks english quite well, the most decent fellow I've met in a long time.
Naturally he misses his family back in Pakistan, but they do video conference every day.
And his mom really misses him. She worries that America is treating him ok.
And his two sisters, one a teacher and the other in school, both are incredible pretty.
I was amazed at how they dress, and so very colorful.
My niece new hubby lived in some small village over in Pakistan, with his entire family, and listening to his stories about life over there is something everyone should experience.
Americans are so damn sheltered from the outside world.
And we eat up all the crap politicians tell us to believe....
Take their language, they speak two versions commonly.
It would be compared to our speaking a proper educated english vs speaking street slang.
One language spoken as quite respectful, while the other disrespectful.
Instance... Like speaking to a stranger, "Miss, may I ask how you are today?", as the respectful version.
Compared... "Hey you! How ya going?", as some might say here.
It is taught to address the stranger with respect, that is if correctly taught the by the parents.
To set a good example.
He is quite interesting to listen to.
I asked what he thinks of Trump, and he compared that to different fingers on the hand.
Where you have some fingers that are more pronounced, while other fingers are not.
He compares it to people that might be more vocal and opinionated, compared to others less so.
Like fingers on the hand. All are different. Better to be accepting and tolerant.
He's very easy going and doesn't let much upset him. He accepts differences and understands that some people will be more harsh and opinionated, while others more down to earth.
As with fingers on the hand, everyone is different. Really quite interesting way of putting it.
He is amazed how isolated people over here in America really are in comparison to the rest of the world. Our lack of knowledge for other cultures and of other peoples.
He learned english in Pakistan by working as a painter in homes with english speaking owners and working with english speaking Pakistani co-workers.
He has another little story or comparison using an elephant as the example.
He talks about a baby elephant with it's foot chained to a tree.
The baby can not break the chain. But as the elephant grows to adult, the adult elephant could easily break away but is conditioned with thinking the chain still controls it.
Conditioned to think it doesn't have the strength to break away.
He compared the isolation of Americans to the elephant.
All we know is our way of life, and we really have no idea of how other cultures operate or care to learn, other than what politicians might occasionally brain wash us into believing.
He didn't say that himself, but I got the point.
That a politician like Trump can come along and convince everyone that all middle eastern's are murders, rapist, and terrorist.
And we eat it up as truth because we just don't know any better.
We never cared to learn outside the box. Were never taught or educated to believe anything different.
And the same goes internally with our understanding of minorities, of anyone different.
Many whites are brain washed into thinking blacks are inferior, that gays are evil, and Mexicans are all criminals. Talk about dense.
Americans believe this because we have always been confined within our little world.
We grew up in all white neighborhoods, attended all white schools, and that was the way it was.
And while a lot has changed internally, not much has changed externally as far as the world operates.
To simply put it, we're idiots and too lazy to care or learn. (my words, not his)
Take guns....
Over in Pakistan you must have a permit.
Anyone can own a gun, as long as they have a current permit.
The thing is.... you can not take that gun around in public unless you have a good reason.
For instance, his father in Pakistan is a jeweler and he carries a gun, legally.
He owns a shop and carries jewels and money for his business.
His carrying a gun outside of the home is justified.
But if you are a Pakistani gun owner but have so legitimate reason to carry your gun around in public, you can not do that.
Should you own a gun, the permit must be current, not expired.
Kind of makes sense that you can own a gun for protection in the home, but that gun must remain inside the home unless you have a damn good and legitimate reason to take it outside in public.
And naturally, they have very little gun violence over there.
No mass shootings, no school shootings, no killing of cops.
Take their laws for crime and punishment over in Pakistan.
Over here, for murder we lock the criminal like Charles Masson up for 40+ years.
We the taxpayer feed him, provide the roof over his head, give him free healthcare and free internet.
Compared to Pakistan, over there if you commit a crime you are punished, and not only severely but quickly.
No wasting the taxpayer years and years of legal challenges in the courts.
Over there, the first time that you steal you are maybe fined and or reprimanded.
Dare steal again?
Next time the punishment is a severed hand. Usually that hand cut off in public for all to witness.
If you murder, you are beheaded. Plain and simple.
Only if the family of the victim forgives can one escape death for committing a death of another.
And that beheading carried out in short order, none of that years and years stuck in the courts and lost in the legal system.
The parents?
Pakistani people resect their parents, the elderly.
Especially the culture living within the small villages.
Villages, they have so such thing as nursing homes to stick mom and dad away when old.
The family cares for the elderly, and in the family home.
He also spoke of bathing his grandmother, rubbing her feet when she hurt.
They take full care of the parents and the grandparents in their old age. None of that sticking them away into a nursing home.
The Pakistani culture is taught and raised to respect the elderly.
And the food?
They have some KFC and McDonalds, but few ever eat there or care to afford to.
Typically, the mother goes to the local market daily or weekly to buy fresh items for the dinner.
No fast food, no junk food.
With the household upkeep, the entire family pitches in.
The kid not locked up in their room playing video games all day.
The kids help cook, they help clean, and they pitch in without being told or threatened to.
Should and when people visit, they are made to feel at home.
They are offered to dine with the family, or offered drink, given full hospitality.
Which I know is every much like the culture of the asian people as well.
I found it embarrassing to compare our culture to their culture.
How we treat our elderly and treat our own parents in their senior years of declining health.
How our politicians talk about "returning to those good old days" and "make America great again".
Great? Do they even know great?
Well political blowhards.... just consider the Pakistani culture if you want that taste of the past.
A return to that era of mom in the kitchen, dad at the office, respectful kids, and parents that really care.
Those days of:
No tolerance for crime.
Families caring about and for each other.
No mass shooting of kids or co workers or cops or for simply walking down the street.
Eating healthy, no junk.
And if a doctor visit is necessary, one doesn't need go bankrupt paying the bill.
Make America Great Again? Hmmmmm....
Maybe we can take a lesson. Within reason.
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