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My mom's boyfriend... psychopath.
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You're probably a little angry. But I wouldn't impose violence. If he got away with breakin' your laptop, imagine what else he could probably get away with?
Invite him to a place with all of your brothers and tell him how you feel. Be aggressive who your mom dates, older women who don't regularly have a 'man' in life may tend to get depressed themselves and think that any guy is the 'one.'
You let the ripples of anger overshroud you, and if anyone gets hurt, it's going to be your fault for not doing anything about it in the first place. A broken laptop translates into a lot of other things.
So you guys kick the guy's ass. He comes back for more, with possibly artillery just because you tick'd 'em off? Restraining orders don't always work with sy'kotiX, they'll find a way around and end up in jail later on if they have to, or take everyone else with him. Reason why violence prolly ain't gonna work in the first place, as much as you wanna break a bottle of wine over his head, could get worse. People end up in jail 'n stuff.
Sad thing, even if you get this matter resolved effectively, what if your mom brings home another psycho? Don't let your mom get taken advantage of by men who want to ruin families.
Invite him to a place with all of your brothers and tell him how you feel. Be aggressive who your mom dates, older women who don't regularly have a 'man' in life may tend to get depressed themselves and think that any guy is the 'one.'
You let the ripples of anger overshroud you, and if anyone gets hurt, it's going to be your fault for not doing anything about it in the first place. A broken laptop translates into a lot of other things.
So you guys kick the guy's ass. He comes back for more, with possibly artillery just because you tick'd 'em off? Restraining orders don't always work with sy'kotiX, they'll find a way around and end up in jail later on if they have to, or take everyone else with him. Reason why violence prolly ain't gonna work in the first place, as much as you wanna break a bottle of wine over his head, could get worse. People end up in jail 'n stuff.
Sad thing, even if you get this matter resolved effectively, what if your mom brings home another psycho? Don't let your mom get taken advantage of by men who want to ruin families.
moshquerade
No Lifer
It sucks we have to deal with our Mom's dates. :roll:
The bottom line issue really is your moms decision making in dating.
Lets say this loser leaves, what about the next one?
You can't scare away or intimidate every single loser that comes along.
If you beat him up, you'll not only make the situation worse but you'll also show your mom that bullying is acceptable behavior.
Plus, Violence will only get you into legal troubles eventually.
What you can do is try to find ways to help your mom understand what good, respectable,
and healthy morals and behavior is.
Your mom appears to have some sort of low self esteem and/or neediness issue.
I say that because of her desire to subject herself to a man who doesn't really care about others. This is based on if what you said is 100% accurate.
You probably know other people who make poor choices when it comes to dating.
Choosing to be with a jerk or a ditzy girl for a relationship, these people do not see the big picture on how being with someone who's not good for us drags us down with them at some point.
Does your mom like to read?
You can buy her some books on the subject of dating, relationships, etc to help.
Bottom line is this:
You can only help teach your mom to make better choices, not force the schmucks that "she chooses" out of her life.
Lets say this loser leaves, what about the next one?
You can't scare away or intimidate every single loser that comes along.
If you beat him up, you'll not only make the situation worse but you'll also show your mom that bullying is acceptable behavior.
Plus, Violence will only get you into legal troubles eventually.
What you can do is try to find ways to help your mom understand what good, respectable,
and healthy morals and behavior is.
Your mom appears to have some sort of low self esteem and/or neediness issue.
I say that because of her desire to subject herself to a man who doesn't really care about others. This is based on if what you said is 100% accurate.
You probably know other people who make poor choices when it comes to dating.
Choosing to be with a jerk or a ditzy girl for a relationship, these people do not see the big picture on how being with someone who's not good for us drags us down with them at some point.
Does your mom like to read?
You can buy her some books on the subject of dating, relationships, etc to help.
Bottom line is this:
You can only help teach your mom to make better choices, not force the schmucks that "she chooses" out of her life.
michaelsslave
Senior member
1) get some cocaine
2) plant it in his car
3) call cops
4) .......
5) profit!
2) plant it in his car
3) call cops
4) .......
5) profit!
911paramedic
Diamond Member
1. Background check.
2. Restraining order.
2. Restraining order.
michaelsslave
Senior member
theres a far north type of red neck 😕?
what exactly does this mythical creature do, act like and dress?
alphatarget1
Diamond Member
Dig a hole in the ground vertically and bury him until only his head shows.
The fact that he's already broken someones laptop on purpose and not even taking responsibilty for it financially or otherwise says alot.
It's a matter of time when he could very well get angry enough to be that way with your mom.
Work on your mom, there is a way to make her see the "big picture".
It's a matter of time when he could very well get angry enough to be that way with your mom.
Work on your mom, there is a way to make her see the "big picture".
sixone
Lifer
Best advice in the whole thread. The problem is not the guy, it's your mother.
You need to remind her that she won't be alone - she has her sons looking out for her. Ask her if she wants to see you treating your SO that way - she's setting the example for you and your sibs. If you have a sister or a cousin, ask her if she wants her to be treated that way.
thomsbrain
Lifer
Coming from someone who works with families:
Yeah, that guy is completely batsh!t, and it's only a matter of time before someone gets hurt or worse.
There's probably not a lot you can do other than strongly encourage your mom to get professional psychotherapy. It takes two to tango, and she needs to get herself to a place where she doesn't feel the need to enable creeps like this. Also, be ready to call the cops even when your mom won't do it, and if he ever touches you or your brother, you call Child Protective Services AND the cops. that's when things get good and messy, and it might be the wakeup call your mom needs. When the judge tells her "You get rid of him or I take your kids," maybe she'll make the good choice.
In the meantime, here's what you do:
This guy is operating at a two-year-old level of maturity. I'm not just saying that, this is really the level at which he deals with situations. So how do you deal with a two-year-old who's having a temper tantrum because he's not getting treated like a God? Just pretend he doesn't exist. Don't speak to him, don't look at him. His behavior should not be rewarded with your attention, which is what he wants. And boy, that will piss him off good. 🙂 But it will also send a very powerful message: you won't get what you want from me, and you don't scare me. You're not special and I don't even care enough about you to hate you.
Your mom needs to completely ignore him, too, but that's another story.
Good luck.
Yeah, that guy is completely batsh!t, and it's only a matter of time before someone gets hurt or worse.
There's probably not a lot you can do other than strongly encourage your mom to get professional psychotherapy. It takes two to tango, and she needs to get herself to a place where she doesn't feel the need to enable creeps like this. Also, be ready to call the cops even when your mom won't do it, and if he ever touches you or your brother, you call Child Protective Services AND the cops. that's when things get good and messy, and it might be the wakeup call your mom needs. When the judge tells her "You get rid of him or I take your kids," maybe she'll make the good choice.
In the meantime, here's what you do:
This guy is operating at a two-year-old level of maturity. I'm not just saying that, this is really the level at which he deals with situations. So how do you deal with a two-year-old who's having a temper tantrum because he's not getting treated like a God? Just pretend he doesn't exist. Don't speak to him, don't look at him. His behavior should not be rewarded with your attention, which is what he wants. And boy, that will piss him off good. 🙂 But it will also send a very powerful message: you won't get what you want from me, and you don't scare me. You're not special and I don't even care enough about you to hate you.
Your mom needs to completely ignore him, too, but that's another story.
Good luck.
montypythizzle
Diamond Member
Not enough rage.
Not enough rage.
Not enough rage.
AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!
Throckmorton
Lifer
Stop and listen to him.
I agree to a degree. Every time this guy pisses you off, just walk it off and put it in the back corner of your brain, heart, where ever you store your rage. Then just snap one day and release it. Just make sure there are no guns, knives, or 2x4s around as this much rage will cause you to go into a murderous rampage. Remember, you want to beat the living shit out of him, not kill him.
Pepsi90919
Lifer
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DangerAardvark
Diamond Member
Noob, bloodrage first.
Capt Caveman
Lifer
Yes, running away from the problem always solves it. Unfortunately, even if he moves out, he'll still have to deal with this asshat.
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