My Mom has cancer

iamwiz82

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I dont normally post extremely personal things here, but i'm pretty worked up over this.

For well over a year, my Mom has been complaining of different gastrointestinal issues. We would all ask her to go to the doctor just to be safe, but she has a fear of doctors and their tendancy for bad news with my family. She had also witnessed my Grandparents fairly poor cancer treatment in the early 70s. Her sister also passed away from it many years before I was born.

So a few weeks ago it became unbearable for her, so she went. After some tests and such they sent her to get a colonoscopy. The results came in today, it's probably cancerous. :( It's a mass about 12cm long. They attached a picture of it and it doesn't look nearly that long from the camera, but I'm not a doctor.

We visited them today and my Mom is handling it ok, but my Dad is a wreck. I'm going with them tomorrow for the ultrasound to determine if it's spread. I feel so freaking helpless right now and it's driving me crazy. She's blaming herself for not going to the doctor, my Dad is asking why they had to find anything, it's just terrible.

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EDIT - 9/29:

Well, things are looking pretty grim. We have difinitive diagnosis that the colon cancer is at least stage 3, and meetings with the surgeon and Oncologist that lead us to believe spread to at least her liver :(. We won't know until the Biopsy, but the urgency in the Oncologist's demands leads me to believe he is very concerned. He has ordered a whole host of tests to be done ASAP, 6 to be completed by next Wednesday. We've begun to investigate homeopathic remedies as well, something I would have laughed off 6 months ago.

She's also becoming very depressed. Her physician gave her a script for Xanax which has helped, but the change since her diagnosis makes me incredibly sad, she's whithering away so quickly.

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EDIT - 10/9:

It's been a busy few weeks. On Wednesday we visited the oncologist to discuss her test results. The cancer has metastized to the liver, but no where else. There is also no other cancer sites throughout the body. The doctor said that the tests were about the best results we could have hoped for, short of benign growths in the liver. He has decided to start her on chemotherapy ASAP, followed by surgery to remove all the tumors (3 total, 1 in colon, 2 in liver) at once.

Today she got her Port-o-cath installed to prep for chemo, with her first treatment starting Monday.


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EDIT - 2/11/10

Today was the day of surgery. Everyone got there at 7:30, my Mom was prepped and we stayed with her until they wheeled here away (11:30am, scheduled for 9:30am :/). We then spent 8 tense hours waiting, occassionally updates flowed from the OR, but not enough, of course. We finally got to see her at 7:15pm. She was groggy, but fiesty, which was a good sign for us.

The surgery included: a permanent colostomy (she is angry about this one, but the alternative was a coffin, so she dealt), the remove of her rectum and about 4" of lower intestine, a few lymph nodes removed, complete removal of the left lobe of the liver, and radio ablastation of a small spot on the right side of her liver. Both sets of doctors said that things went perfectly with no complications. Speaking of doctors, there were two liver docs, two colorectal docs, plus a resident for each one of those, along with anestesiologist <sp?>, his nurse, and the nurse for each doctor, plus the standard nurses. It was a full house :D.

Overall, I am happy she is still here and still being somewhat difficult. She told one of the docs that if he killed her she would come back to haunt him. :D:eek:.

Now it's time for recovery. We have heard 5-7 days in the hospital so far.
 
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protocol167

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I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria





Over the top and out of line. You now have soem time off to think about what you posted.


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moshquerade

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"Well I just heard, the news today, seems my life, is going to change...."

That's part of how I felt when I found out my father was diagnosed with cancer. Nothing was ever going to be the same again. :(

I am hopeful your Mom's cancer is operable and she can beat it. Just be there for your parents. Be their shoulder and you will find they'll be yours too.
 

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

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Dec 10, 2005
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Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

Kind of a dick post, don't you think?

Let me answer that for you:
Oh wait, you don't, because you posted that trash.
 

KLin

Lifer
Feb 29, 2000
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Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

Permaban please for this asshat? :|


Sorry to hear about your mother, iamwiz82.
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xSauronx

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Jul 14, 2000
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Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

seriously im all for jokes in bad taste if theyre funny, but she has to have the cancer removed and survive before you can make that one. not cool.

best of luck to your mom, OP
 

Platypus

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Apr 26, 2001
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You'll get through it, my mom has had cancer for awhile too though her's is skin cancer so it comes and goes. I get to relive the scare over and over and it's not pleasant. You need to be strong for them.
 

Crono

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Aug 8, 2001
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Good luck. There's plenty of hope if it hasn't metastasized.
Even if it has, cancer treatment today isn't what it was 30+ years ago.
A friend of my family was recently diagnosed with ovarian cancer, and luckily
it doesn't appear to have spread, but she's on chemotherapy right now.
Sad at first (she's like an aunt to me, and her kids are friends of mine since I was like
7).

My best wishes to your mom and family.
 

Crono

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Aug 8, 2001
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Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

Know the line, newb.
 

kevman

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Apr 20, 2001
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Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

You DICK!
 

Mo0o

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best of luck, hopefully it hasnt spread.

is there colon cancer hx in your family? it might benefit you and any siblings you have to get checked out
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: Crono
Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

Know the line, newb.
this explains a lot:

Originally posted by: protocol167
I have 6 or 7 beers 5 days a week and maybe upwards of 11 or so on the weekends. I am not an alcoholic.


http://forums.anandtech.com/me...TMP=Linear&#lastunread
 

overst33r

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Oct 3, 2004
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Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

how fucking sad do you have to be to post something like this?
 

lupi

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Apr 8, 2001
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Originally posted by: mariok2006
Originally posted by: protocol167
I feel youand feel your pain but in any case can I buy life insurance for you mother.

I KINDLY await your reply.

Omar Mushidi
P. O. Box 48655
Nigeria

how fucking sad do you have to be to post something like this?

don't know about sad, but it takes some big ones.