My mate wants to ask out my ex girlfriend

[LuDaCriS66]

There's a girl that I was practically in love with at school but a friend of mine, one of my best friends actually, hit it off with her before I got to know her better. This was around the beginning of the year and I only ever got to talk to her once in a while. Well, they broke up couple of months after and they pretty much ignore each other now..
and even though she's single now ... knowing how my buddy felt about her and everything, I don't think I could ever try to ask her out now.. as bad as I want to, I just know it wouldn't be right.

 

[Maverick]

think of it this way. Everyone can find a woman...not everyone can find a real best bud. Thats what I would tell myself if I had a best friend and I liked his crush.

 

[Stark]

it's called sloppy seconds for a reason

your friend is sloppy... either accept him or give him the boot. I wouldn't consider him much of a friend if I was in your shoes.

 

[TheCorm]

Thanks peeps....most people here have been helpful

 

[olds]

I reckon he's not your friend.

 

[heartsurgeon]

what's the big deal...this will seem silly a few years from now.

 

[hdeck]

ok so your friend is already depressed or whatever. you said it yourself he doesn't have a shot with the girl so let her turn him down and get can go back to being depressed. you broke up with the girl so she is fair game to anyone and everyone. you have obviously known him longer than you've known her so don't let him liking your EX-girlfriend stand in the way of a 10 year friendship.

 

[TheCorm]

so don't let him liking your EX-girlfriend stand in the way of a 10 year friendship.

I won't.....I just hope he won't either.

Corm

 

[HappyNic]

I think you should just let your friend do whatever he wants,, it's not about getting hurt or anything or gettting over the girl, it's about he having instrest in some girl that is currently FREE/no boyfriend. He's not even going behind your back or anything on this and told you right away. It seem to me you are giving the atlitude of "my friend should not date my Ex EVER", this is consider Hogging something that no longer belongs to you. I always say if you like someone you should go for it, cause you will regread if someone do it first.

Your best friend is s normal single guy, Your Ex is currently Single, It's normal for a single guy to get together with a Single Girl.

If you're a true friend you should allow your friend to ask your ex out.. who knows , they might work out.. You never know.

Be a Man about this, how your friend looks does not matter, what your ex might think does not matter, the time it take for YOU to get over her does not matter cause what if some other guy jumps in and is REALLY only wanting SEX get's your Ex, even beats her, stealing her money, druging her, etc.. would you be happy about it? At least there's a chance of Love from your friend and you know atleast your friend wouldn't harm her,, unlike strangers.

You should tell him that whatever he do you'll be cool with, but if he's harm her in anyway he would have to answer to you. Kinda like what a father with say to his Daughter date.

 

[Omegachi]

kill him, he is not worth living.

 

[Kanalua]

"Kick his @ss Sea Bass"

Really, though, tell him to give you sometime, then let him have her...

 

[EvilYoda]

Maybe this'll make you feel better, since my situation was similar, only worse...

g/f of 2.5+ years breaks up with me after a long weird ending, right? Within a week, she goes out, parties, and kisses this guy (we'll call him "Kevin"...since that's his real name ). He was the friend over the summer that I almost worried about, but was "only a friend"...she even said that up til the last day. I've known the guy since middle school, and even shared the same group of friends, even tho we weren't very close ourselves...we would say hi if we saw each other, but not much more.

Kill both of them. ^_^

 

[Zipp]

Quote

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Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
Just tell him, if he gets with her, everytime he kisses her, he's tasting your wang.
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Now that's funny

 

[smartt]

screw his mom

 

[TheCorm]

Well....what has happened since is she got really upset and says she wasn't gonna see either of us again because she was causing trouble between us....but that was just her feeling down....now...she is fine.

My mate is calling me today, he texted me saying how he feels he has a been a complete arse and cannot blame drink this time, I think we are gonna sort this out....shame really, he has dented the friendship a bit and my ex girlfriend thinks he's a bit of a sad nutcase now.

Corm

 

[oLLie]

Originally posted by: TheCorm
Well....what has happened since is she got really upset and says she wasn't gonna see either of us again because she was causing trouble between us....but that was just her feeling down....now...she is fine.

My mate is calling me today, he texted me saying how he feels he has a been a complete arse and cannot blame drink this time, I think we are gonna sort this out....shame really, he has dented the friendship a bit and my ex girlfriend thinks he's a bit of a sad nutcase now.

Corm

Ah, don't worry about it, eventually it'll all just be a funny story (like heartsurgeon said).

 

[freegeeks]

what's the big deal

she's free so she is fair game

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Are you sure she didn't say that as to not upset you? It could be weird, but really I suppose if you're done with her then let them go for it. He should wait until you're over her though, unless that takes like 4 months.

Yeah man, depending on how long your relationship was with this girl 1 week probably isn't enough, bro's before ho's and if he doesn't realize that he isn't your boy.

 

[MadRat]

Originally posted by: FallenHero
bet you he was part of your relationship problems. Even by thinking about it, he shows that he is willing to get rid of his friendship to you. Distance yourself now, or put your foot down.

Originally posted by: amnesiac 2.0
Ok, it does break the "guy code" and your friend is an ass, but at least he's not so much of an ass that he'd go behind your back. At least he's letting you know his intentions.
Anyway, truth is you did break up with her so she's on the market now.
Just make a note to demote your friend a notch or two; he's still an ass.

Originally posted by: Lonyo
Just don't let it happen whatever, because it'll annoy you a lot generally, and REALLY mess up your friendship.

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
Just tell him, if he gets with her, everytime he kisses her, he's tasting your wang.

Originally posted by: DaiShan

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Are you sure she didn't say that as to not upset you? It could be weird, but really I suppose if you're done with her then let them go for it. He should wait until you're over her though, unless that takes like 4 months.

Yeah man, depending on how long your relationship was with this girl 1 week probably isn't enough, bro's before ho's and if he doesn't realize that he isn't your boy.

The theme here certainly is that your mate is no friend. Its tempting to throw away a relationship over a gal but it will come back to haunt you later on in life. You'll be surprised how many people you cross later on in life. I continue to cross paths with the same people every day regardless if I'm near my old haunts or 2000 miles away from home. Life is often stranger than fiction!

But if you're a teenager then stick with Lebowski's advice!

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: TheCorm
my best mate has declared that he likes my ex girlfriend....less than a week after we have broken up.

I am still getting over her and there he is trying to move in on her. I happen to know that she likes him as a friend and nothing more, she has used the "he's a nice guy" routine when asked about his looks....ie she does not find him attractive

He does this with almost every girl he meets who shows him any kind of attention....starts falling in love with them so he is just gonna get hurt again.

I have warned him that it won't work and if he tries to make anything happen it is gonna put a serious strain on our relationship...he went quiet....I now get the impression that he is gonna do it behind my back.

Was just wondering what people out there reckon.

Cheers,

Corm

Personally I were interested in a friend's ex I would try to wait until he seemed less sensitive about her. But I noticed a lot of people just do not care how others feel.

 

[DivideBYZero]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
Just tell him, if he gets with her, everytime he kisses her, he's tasting your wang.

We have a Winnar.

- M4H

Yup. He's a Wang taster from now on.

 

[Que-TiP]

i would let a good friend date an EX, after all, sharing is caring.

 

[Czar]

I would kick him for thinking it, in the groin if he acts on it. This is one thing I'm sure will ruin any friendship.

 

[Budmantom]

It kinda sux but it all depends how long you were seeing her, if it's only been a month or two then don't sweat the small stuff if it's been a year or two he is not a true friend. Sounds to me like it hasn't been all that long so in the big picture it doesn't matter much. Perhaps next time this loser gets a girl you should push up on her a bit and see how he like it.

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: TheCorm
my best mate has declared that he likes my ex girlfriend....less than a week after we have broken up.

I am still getting over her and there he is trying to move in on her. I happen to know that she likes him as a friend and nothing more, she has used the "he's a nice guy" routine when asked about his looks....ie she does not find him attractive

He does this with almost every girl he meets who shows him any kind of attention....starts falling in love with them so he is just gonna get hurt again.

I have warned him that it won't work and if he tries to make anything happen it is gonna put a serious strain on our relationship...he went quiet....I now get the impression that he is gonna do it behind my back.

Was just wondering what people out there reckon.

Cheers,

Corm

Oh what a bastard.