My Life is Over

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Crucial

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Thats what it's like working for THE MAN.

Never again. I felt like a loser for the past 3 months being on unemployment with 2 kids and a wife but we got our debts taken care of and are making it. Now I am starting my own business and hope to never work for anyone but myself.
 

ThePresence

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Originally posted by: KGB
Originally posted by: ThePresence
It's not the distance, it's the traffic. NYC traffic totally sucks, and unless you live in your office, you're gonna get caught in it.

You work in the city? KRAP.. where do you drive from Long Island? South NJ? Conneticut? Move to brooklyn heights or find a nice place inm queens man..

Central Jersey.
 

ThePresence

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Originally posted by: PatboyX
Originally posted by: ThePresence
It's not the distance, it's the traffic. NYC traffic totally sucks, and unless you live in your office, you're gonna get caught in it.

ah, i didnt realize. well, at least you dont work in dc.
friends at work? i realize work friends arnt always the best situations...but...well, a good work environment can really make all the difference. when ive worked with people i genuinly enjoy being around, it makes the day that much better.
how long have you been there?

It's a great working enviroment. Great people. I've been there about a month now.
 

m2kewl

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Originally posted by: ThePresence
It's not the distance, it's the traffic. NYC traffic totally sucks, and unless you live in your office, you're gonna get caught in it.

try driving in LA :D

i used to work in secaucus, that's 11 miles from my apt...and it took 1:40 to get there!!! i ended up quitting that job, i hated commuting through Lincoln and Holland tunnel. it's not worth it.

my advice is move closer to your new job.
 

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Posts like these re-affirm why I live where I do. I've got a 20 mile commute that takes me roughly 20 minutes. I live 1 mile away from the interstate, and work half a mile off of it.
 

ThePresence

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Originally posted by: m2kewl
Originally posted by: ThePresence
It's not the distance, it's the traffic. NYC traffic totally sucks, and unless you live in your office, you're gonna get caught in it.

try driving in LA :D

i used to work in secaucus, that's 11 miles from my apt...and it took 1:40 to get there!!! i ended up quitting that job, i hated commuting through Lincoln and Holland tunnel. it's not worth it.

my advice is move closer to your new job.

I may have to do that.
 

docwayug

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my only question here would be: what good is a good paying job if you can't enjoy it? i'd take a lesser job if it meant i could enjoy being off more. although, i'm one to talk... between work and school, i'm out 12 - 14 hours a day doing one or the other. oh well.

life is short, live hard. and enjoy it!
 

focusyn

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man, the commute itself is killer. i'm a strong believer that if you find something that you feel you should be doing for a living and you like it you'll like doing it regardless of the low points. and who knows? no one said that your life was over. this could just be another step in getting to where you really want to be.
 

PatboyX

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Originally posted by: docwayug
my only question here would be: what good is a good paying job if you can't enjoy it? i'd take a lesser job if it meant i could enjoy being off more. although, i'm one to talk... between work and school, i'm out 12 - 14 hours a day doing one or the other. oh well.

life is short, live hard. and enjoy it!

yeah, from what you say, things dont seem all that bad. if you really enjoy the people and the job the prime problem does seem to be lack of time. obviously moving would help but that not always an option. is there something that makes this seem more of a dooming and stagnant existance than it appears by your original post?

where in jersey you at?
do you drive in? traffic always destroys my will a little. depending on where you are in jersey (and where you work in nyc) you could always take the train in...
 

ThePresence

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Originally posted by: PatboyX
yeah, from what you say, things dont seem all that bad. if you really enjoy the people and the job the prime problem does seem to be lack of time. obviously moving would help but that not always an option. is there something that makes this seem more of a dooming and stagnant existance than it appears by your original post?

No. It's just a really, really rude awakening.

where in jersey you at?

Lakewood, NJ. It's Central Jersey.

do you drive in? traffic always destroys my will a little. depending on where you are in jersey (and where you work in nyc) you could always take the train in...

I could take the train, but I hate it even more than the traffic.
 

ThePresence

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Originally posted by: focusyn
man, the commute itself is killer. i'm a strong believer that if you find something that you feel you should be doing for a living and you like it you'll like doing it regardless of the low points. and who knows? no one said that your life was over. this could just be another step in getting to where you really want to be.

That's true. But the cup is half empty.
 

PatboyX

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hate the train!?!?!

i used to go to school in madison, nj and would take the train there every day.

...all the hyper, shrieking girls that also went to school in madison, nj...at 6:30 after waiting in the freezing cold for the train no amount of rolled-up uniform skirt made that ride worth it.

it really wasnt that bad.

as for wake-up call...thats partially true. but dont feel like it needs to be the way it is now for the rest of your life. feeling that way can put you in a cycle of pain!
 

m2kewl

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Originally posted by: ThePresence
I could take the train, but I hate it even more than the traffic.

well there's your problem. you're not willing to sacrifice. get an ipod, a newspaper, and a seat on the bus/train. :D

honestly, i'd rather drive too. i hate the ny/nj public transportation, putting up with all those other bitter, rude, and crowded people. :D
 

Maverick

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I went through what you're going through about a year ago when I first started my job. I work with all old people, most of my college buddies moved out of state, and I honestly felt pretty lonely. Luckily I've had a gf this whole time. Unfortunately she couldn't find a local job here so she had to go out to Kansas City. So I only got to see her once a month or so. I basically filled my time up with loads of hobbies. I took up home theater, xbox hacking, re-discovered computer games, downloaded music and movies, bought a honda prelude and tuned it a little, etc. Now I might be moving out of my job soon and moving to KC to be with the woman and living there. She works with all young people so I think I'm in for a nice change.

Moral is, hang in there...life's rough as others say but you'll get through it. You just gotta find stuff to keep your mind occupied at all times. Then you'll be okay.
 

sharkeeper

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You work 40 hours a week and have off 48 hours (the weekend)? I don't see grounds for complaining whatsoever! :p

-DAK-
 

ThePresence

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Originally posted by: m2kewl
Originally posted by: ThePresence
I could take the train, but I hate it even more than the traffic.

well there's your problem. you're not willing to sacrifice. get an ipod, a newspaper, and a seat on the bus/train. :D

That's IF I can find a seat.

honestly, i'd rather drive too. i hate the ny/nj public transportation, putting up with all those other bitter, rude, and crowded people. :D

Yeah, i can't stand the noise and the crowds in the morning. I sit in my quiet car with Scott & Todd on the radio, smoking a cigarette with a coffee in the cupholder. I'd never take a train.
 

burnedout

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ThePresence: Weren't you looking at a position at Fort Monmouth a while back? Is this the job?
 

ThePresence

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Thanks everyone for your kind words of encouragement. Now I better get to bed, or I'll fall asleep driving AGAIN! :)
 

ThePresence

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Originally posted by: burnedout
ThePresence: Weren't you looking at a position at Fort Monmouth a while back? Is this the job?

Yes, I was. That job fell through. The frikkin government will only hire graphics people with a degree. What a dumb move. The best graphics people are self taught. You can teach programs and technique, but you cant teach design. You can't teach someone an eye for art and design. But that's another rant for another pissed off night. :D
 

freebee

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Its all about perspective.

I was in a similar situation but reversed. I worked long hours and had no free time. Until, I lost my job. (last week). All this week, I've been thinking all the opportunity costs and money I could be earning, wasted. Plus I gotta pay back my old company several thousand for claimed "intellectual theft", but thats another story.

Anyways, its kinda weird staying at home or going out at nights, and spending money that I'm not making back. It does seem my life is wasting away.

But, now the responses are starting to trickle in for jobs that I don't really want to work for, but would provide some income. But, the debate is, do I wait for a job i really want (Honda, Toyota, Subaru, Nissan, etc.) or do I just accept something to pay the bills. I've only been unemployed 1 week, so I assume, if I don't take those jobs that are offering now, I'm gonna get pretty desperate later.

And why do all the auto companies have to be in michigan or california?...cant an econ major in NYC get a job anymore!!!!
 

gotsmack

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Originally posted by: ThePresence
Originally posted by: burnedout
ThePresence: Weren't you looking at a position at Fort Monmouth a while back? Is this the job?

Yes, I was. That job fell through. The frikkin government will only hire graphics people with a degree. What a dumb move. The best graphics people are self taught. You can teach programs and technique, but you cant teach design. You can't teach someone an eye for art and design. But that's another rant for another pissed off night. :D

I could have told you that they only hire people with a degree. I worked down there for a few months. I might go back as soon as I hear from the MBA program at Rutgers.

You can move to northern NJ and take the bus or train into the city. I live in the suburbs (Close to Giants stadium) and am a 15 minute bus ride away from the 42nd st & Times Sq. port authority.

 

PistachioByAzul

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I've kind of been in the reverse situation, so I feel your pain. It's hard to find a balance that facilitates peace of mind.
 

MustangSVT

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hmmm...

Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them. To die- to sleep-
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heartache, and the thousand natural shocks
That flesh is heir to. 'Tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To die- to sleep.
To sleep- perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub!
For in that sleep of death what dreams may come
When we have shuffled off this mortal coil,
Must give us pause. There's the respect
That makes calamity of so long life.
For who would bear the whips and scorns of time,
Th' oppressor's wrong, the proud man's contumely,
The pangs of despis'd love, the law's delay,
The insolence of office, and the spurns
That patient merit of th' unworthy takes,
When he himself might his quietus make
With a bare bodkin? Who would these fardels bear,
To grunt and sweat under a weary life,
But that the dread of something after death-
The undiscover'd country, from whose bourn
No traveller returns- puzzles the will,
And makes us rather bear those ills we have
Than fly to others that we know not of?
Thus conscience does make cowards of us all,
And thus the native hue of resolution
Is sicklied o'er with the pale cast of thought,
And enterprises of great pith and moment
With this regard their currents turn awry
And lose the name of action.- Soft you now!
The fair Ophelia!- Nymph, in thy orisons
Be all my sins rememb'red.