My kids mom basically stole his cell phone

[Gothgar]

get a prepaid phone

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: txrandom
Get your son to start stealing 20s out of her purse. You will be paid back over time.

Deadbeats rarely have 20's in their purse. Not a good plan.

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: rudeguy

Originally posted by: Slapstick
"6. I am 30 (fuck). After being sober for about 6 months, I was hit with a pretty severe depression. Some call it PAWS, others have their names for it. I had to make a choice between taking a pay cut and focusing on getting better, or going back to my old ways and starting the cycle again. I chose to make some pretty severe sacrifices to protect my sobriety. However, I have turned down all government assistance during this time. I could easily have a Bridge Card and be living in a cushy section 8 house but I am not. "

I stand corrected! (thank God or what ever power you hold to!) Good luck with the changes you're making and when you are satisfied they are long lasting try and get custody of your son, it sounds like he'd be better off with you than living with mope mom and her boyfriend. Again GOOD LUCK to you!

😎
I appreciate the kind words. I am in a pretty big internal debate on if I should move back into the city to be closer to him. That would mean addressing some things that I haven't had to deal with living out here in BFE. But that's really cool part of this journey that I am on. I actually look forward to dealing with problems instead of running away from them.

1. Move closer to him, for his sake. You'll feel better as well.
2. Screw your EGO and accept the assistance so you can be closer to him.
USE THE RESOURCES AVAILABLE TO YOU (emphasis mine 😀 )
No one will ever fault you for doing whatever you need to do for your son's benefit.
If you're afraid of becoming dependent on it, set attainable goals and work the plan.

3. Metro PCS has family plans, but I see you've addressed the overage situation. My best suggestion is to get the mom a phone of her own, so usage can be tracked, and #1Son isn't put in the unenviable positon of betwixt Dad's Instructions / Mom's "need's". THAT's gotta suck the most.
4. No one will ever fault you for doing whatever you need to do for your son's benefit. Short of commiting fraud, felony or misdemeanour, I mean.
At the risk of sounding like Dr.Laura, that is "doing the right thing."

 

[RapidSnail]

Originally posted by: mjrpes3
http://images.tvnz.co.nz/tvnz_...tes/killer_santa_2.jpg

You know what to do.

That's one of those things that sounds funny on 4chan, but isn't really.

 

[BassBomb]

tell her to stop using your sons fucking phone
tell your son to not give her or her boyfriend his phone

 

[rudeguy]

Originally posted by: AlienCraft

1. Move closer to him, for his sake. You'll feel better as well.
2. Screw your EGO and accept the assistance so you can be closer to him.
USE THE RESOURCES AVAILABLE TO YOU (emphasis mine 😀 )
No one will ever fault you for doing whatever you need to do for your son's benefit.
If you're afraid of becoming dependent on it, set attainable goals and work the plan.

3. Metro PCS has family plans, but I see you've addressed the overage situation. My best suggestion is to get the mom a phone of her own, so usage can be tracked, and #1Son isn't put in the unenviable positon of betwixt Dad's Instructions / Mom's "need's". THAT's gotta suck the most.
4. No one will ever fault you for doing whatever you need to do for your son's benefit. Short of commiting fraud, felony or misdemeanour, I mean.
At the risk of sounding like Dr.Laura, that is "doing the right thing."

I know I need to move closer to him. I have used living so far away as a way to get his mom to finally be a parent. Its not something I am proud of, but extreme measures were needed.

Not accepting government help is not about ego, its about principle. I believe that assistance is for emergencies. I am not in danger of having to sleep on the street or starving to death. I could move up there on the money I am making but it presents a whole series of problems when I do go back to work. Moving up there would mean better doctors and maybe a psychiatrist that I have been wanting so badly.

I'm past the point of caring about what others think. I used to base most of my decisions on what I thought others would approve of. That's a shitty way to live your life. I am open with the details of my life in case there are people out there who are caught in the thinking that they are in a hopeless situation. I can now deal with situations that used to baffle me. That's one of the joys that I will never really be able to describe.

And Dr. Laura is a raging bitch. She is so out of contact with reality that I bet she thinks the sky is green and the clouds are made out of pudding. She does give some damn good advice though. My favorite saying of hers is "pick your hill to die on". Something as trivial as a ran up cell phone bill is not the hill I want to die on. Making sure my son is taken care of is. Now I just have to figure out how to get up the hill and how to pull the trigger.

 

[Zebo]

I think your wife dumped you for being a more a bitch than her.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Zebo
I think your wife dumped you for being a more a bitch than her.

not his wife.
he's not the bitch
read first
shut up

 

[rudeguy]

Its ok moshy. Comments like his just go to show how much hatred some people have built up inside themselves. I feel bad for them.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: rudeguy
Its ok moshy. Comments like his just go to show how much hatred some people have built up inside themselves. I feel bad for them.

also shows that "elite member" is a joke. as someone else said they should be renamed, "elitist member".

 

[rudeguy]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: rudeguy
Its ok moshy. Comments like his just go to show how much hatred some people have built up inside themselves. I feel bad for them.

also shows that "elite member" is a joke. as someone else said they should be renamed, "elitist member".

I always thought they should take measurements before deciding about someone's member status.....

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: rudeguy

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: rudeguy
Its ok moshy. Comments like his just go to show how much hatred some people have built up inside themselves. I feel bad for them.

also shows that "elite member" is a joke. as someone else said they should be renamed, "elitist member".

I always thought they should take measurements before deciding about someone's member status.....

well played. 😀

 

[AreaCode7O7]

Originally posted by: Slapstick

Originally posted by: Sentrosi2121

Originally posted by: Boo Boo
what you get for having a ex and being divorced

Nice...:disgust😡Boo Boo

I'd look at perhaps only giving her the child support - $120 next month. See if this is OK with the powers that be. Or if you have a handiman friend, schedule a visit to her house and go to the bathroom. Then comment you hear something funny and that you know a repairman who will come and fix it. The bill? $120. It's wierd how fate gets tied into these sorts of numbers...errr...situations.

I'm going to be a mean here and point out a few things before everyone wants to feel too sorry for him:

1) He isn't paying child support, those of us with real jobs are paying it for him whether he's on SSI or SSD. He's on disability which means his kid is collecting benefits. (greatest scam of some of my clients is to get on disability to avoid paying child support)

2) He has a restricted license or suspended license, anyone want as to guess why?

3) While having a fifth in cabinet isn't a crime given the first 2 points any guesses as to what contributed to his situation.

4) If you can afford a PC and an internet connection you're not too broke.

5) He never said he was married to her just that he had a kid with her. If she's so broke that she can't pony up her share of a phone bill then she, her new boyfriend, (live in most likely) are just your standard mopes and again he got himself into this situation.

6) If you have an 11 year old then by the law of averages your age should be late 20's or early 30's a little too young to be on disability unless you got hit by a train, had some other catastrophic accident or debilitating disease, (driving drunk and crashing your car doesn't count, see point 2)

Sorry but I hear this story or some variation everyday from my clients who don't want to take responsibility for their own situation and eventually you can pick out the bulls**ters and the whiners from those that are truly sincere and need help.

Based on my observations of rudeguy since 2001 (lurker), he's a level-headed person who's generous with his advice and practical in his view of the world. If the only thing you're going by is his OP I could see how you could draw these conclusions, but I think he's the last person to be whining without taking responsibility.

No matter what we know or don't know about the OP, we do know that he provided his kid with the phone in an effort to be an involved and loving father. We also know that the mom's behavior was wrong. The OP's character otherwise does not affect these facts.

 

[rudeguy]

thanks a lot code! Kind words are always very appreciated around here.