I personally think that tattoos are trashy. Be that as it may, she decided to date you knowing that you have one. She has a right to an opinion, but it stops there. She doesn't have the right to demand you remove it. If it bothers her that much and it's a deal-breaker for her, she's free to leave. That's a pretty shallow reason to leave, but it's her decision. If you aren't removing it because of money, and would otherwise do it, she's free to pay for the removal or shut her mouth about it until you decide that it's a good use of your own money. If you aren't removing it because you like having the tat, then keep it. You aren't married to her, so her opinion holds a whole lot less weight than it would if she was your wife (but even if you *were* married, you are the one who decides things like this, not her.)
WTF kind of BS is she pulling? It sounds like she is trying to manipulate you and make you whipped. Sorry, but that's just how I see it. I don't see how she can think that your arm with your tattoo is anything she has a right to control. If she's pulling this crap now and gets away with it, just imagine 5 years after you get married what kind of BS she will pull.
Not only that, but she is being incredibly superficial here.
Not only that, but she is being incredibly superficial here.
If she's wife material, then just get rid of it. It doesn't look that great, conveys the wrong idea about who you are, doesn't look professional, etc. Even if you don't end up marrying her, you still come out looking more professional.
middlehead
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Well, since you said, "girls of AT what do you think", and you're mainly getting a lot of guys telling you tell the GF to STFU, let me give her side a try.
You said that you're attached to the tatoo, that some of your best memories and friends were during that time period. Now we are talking about a time when you were in a gang and I may be mistaken, but it sounds like you were using drugs at that time too, right? If so, then maybe what's really bothering her is that you remember that time so fondly. Maybe she's afraid that you could slip or be lured back into that lifestyle and the tatoo is just a constant reminder of that to her. Maybe she thinks that getting rid of the tatoo will symbolize a committment to put that way of life in the past and move on.
Just a thought.
You said that you're attached to the tatoo, that some of your best memories and friends were during that time period. Now we are talking about a time when you were in a gang and I may be mistaken, but it sounds like you were using drugs at that time too, right? If so, then maybe what's really bothering her is that you remember that time so fondly. Maybe she's afraid that you could slip or be lured back into that lifestyle and the tatoo is just a constant reminder of that to her. Maybe she thinks that getting rid of the tatoo will symbolize a committment to put that way of life in the past and move on.
Just a thought.
I had a tat lasered off and it takes several times to completely remove it. I had mine gone over 4 or 5 times and there is no ink left, just slight scarring and it was removed over 10 years ago. The color and fill in ink is easy to remove, it's the thin solid dark lines that are difficult. The price of the removal was the same regardless of how many times they had to re-do it. You really can't tell how much is gone until the burns heal. If there is still ink left, they'll keep doing it until the ink is gone. However, if you do it too much, then you'll have scarring.
It hurts like a bitch and it's expensive. They're basically burning it off and they have to keep burning it in the same places every 30 days or so. It sucks, but it does get the job done.
Skunkwourk
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OrganizedChaos
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keep it. dump girl. this may be a test to see how much she can change you.
girl: hmm, if hes willing to have a laser taken to him to keep me happy, imagine what he'll do once were married.
girl: hmm, if hes willing to have a laser taken to him to keep me happy, imagine what he'll do once were married.
DainBramaged
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I think if it inspires you and makes you proud to where you are now like your saying, then keep it. I don't have a problem with it cause you can cover it up and look professional. Don't change for some gf that could come to you tomorrow and say they've changed there mind about being with you. Plus, I heard it's more painful to have them removed then put on.
cKGunslinger
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