My GF mother thinks I am below her daughter...

[Doboji]

Wow... I am so insulted. I can't believe this crap.

My GF is a medical student... and apparantly anything less than a doctor, dentist, or lawyer is "below" her.

I'm 26 years old, I have a B.S. in Management Info Systems and Decision Science from George Mason University. I work for a defense contractor, and make 72K a year. Did I miss something?... it seems to me like I'm doing pretty ok for myself...

It's just her mother, so I shouldn't care... I mean she's not dumping me (yet), but I just feel so incredibly insulted by the whole thing. And her mother's venom will have a continuous effect on my GF's thoughts about me. I feel on the defensive like hell... man I'm so pissed off....

-Max

 

[Scarpozzi]

Buy her mom some fine wine or diamond earrings. She'll get over it.

 

[MustISO]

Just tell the mom you're only dating her daughter for the sex.

 

[Saulbadguy]

Pics?

 

[Saulbadguy]

Oh, and if your GF's mothers comments can affect her so much to the point of her dumping you, it should not have been in the first place.

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: Doboji
Wow... I am so insulted. I can't believe this crap.

My GF is a medical student... and apparantly anything less than a doctor, dentist, or lawyer is "below" her.

I'm 26 years old, I have a B.S. in Management Info Systems and Decision Science from George Mason University. I work for a defense contractor, and make 72K a year. Did I miss something?... it seems to me like I'm doing pretty ok for myself...

It's just her mother, so I shouldn't care... I mean she's not dumping me (yet), but I just feel so incredibly insulted by the whole thing. And her mother's venom will have a continuous effect on my GF's thoughts about me. I feel on the defensive like hell... man I'm so pissed off....

-Max

26 years old making 72k is nothign to be ashamed off...

 

[NuclearNed]

Nail her mom and prove your "worth".

 

[Kenazo]

but do try to solve this issue w/ her mom. She may end up being your mother in-law one day. You don't want her family not liking you.

 

[Doboji]

but do try to solve this issue w/ her mom. She may end up being your mother in-law one day. You don't want her family not liking you.

How the hell do I solve that?... I am who I am...

-Max

 

[Kenazo]

Originally posted by: Doboji

but do try to solve this issue w/ her mom. She may end up being your mother in-law one day. You don't want her family not liking you.

How the hell do I solve that?... I am who I am...

-Max

For sure, and you shouldn't change either.

How long have you been dating her?

 

[mavs55]

you're not doing as well me, but still not bad. i'm feeling generous though so you have my approval. tell your future mother-in-law i said it was ok.

 

[Gurck]

Might have to let this one go.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: Doboji

but do try to solve this issue w/ her mom. She may end up being your mother in-law one day. You don't want her family not liking you.

How the hell do I solve that?... I am who I am...

-Max

Thats what I was thinking. Sounds like its her problem really, not yours.

I think your girlfriends mom has some whacked out values from the 1940s that she needs to let go of. If I were you, I'd express my aggravation to my girlfriend and ignore the mother. She probably just doesn't like you for some other reason than what is stated.

 

[Dulanic]

Hope she didn't take after her mom. Hate stuck up b1tches, but she married her way into money.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: MustISO
Just tell the mom you're only dating her daughter for the sex.

That mother is being a complete b!tch. What does she do? How much does she earn?

Your doing pretty dam good for yourself imo.

Koing

 

[3chordcharlie]

Hey Max,

That's a bum deal... at least she doens't think you're the wrong religion though.

I think she'll get over it though, you're hardly a down-and-out'er. Just gotta keep being you.

 

[Mookow]

My GF mother thinks I am below her daughter

Tell her "Of course I'm below your daughter sometimes, but that is only on those occasions when we are looking for some variety. Usually I'm above her."

 

[YetioDoom]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Buy her mom some fine wine or diamond earrings. She'll get over it.

Fvck that.

Sh!t in a box and give THAT to her.

 

[isasir]

What did you GF say to you in response to that? I'd like to think that she assured you not to bother with what her mom thinks, since you're doing fine for yourself and it's not like your GF cares about that stuff. If that is in fact that case, then try not to worry about it. Hopefully her mom will come to realize that you're a well-off guy and accept you.

 

[TitanDiddly]

Punch her in the nuts.

 

[imported_Cybit]

Dude, 72k is more then 75% of people will prolly ever make. Shoot, some lawyers won't make that kind of money. And guess what, if her daughter's a doctor, she prolly has more med school bills then you'll ever need to worry about. Just relax, don't get defensive. That'll weird out your GF. Just be yourself, and let the mom talk hot air. Hopefully your GF is intelligent enough to figure out who you are.

 

[OS]

heh, it's not like doctors are laughing on the way to bank these days.

 

[NuclearNed]

My post above was really ugly, and for that I apologize.

Now for the real answer:

If this is really that important to you (and it seems like it is), the best you can do is talk to her mother. Tell her how you think she perceives you, and see if you are correct. If she is prejudiced towards you for some reason, there may be little that you can do. But if you attempt to communicate with her as I have suggested, then at least you have the comfort of knowing that you have taken the more mature path. Whatever the outcome, try to not hold a grudge against your GF's mom. That will only cause problems in the long run.

This is the brave solution; it will take guts to implement.

 

[PlatinumGold]

your making $72k with minimal debt, she will graduate med school with $300k debt and will have to take on an additional 500k debt in order to start a practice or get a job. if she gets a job, she will not be doing better than you financially (not if you take the loan into consideration) for quite a while. if she starts a practice, i can tell you, it will take a good 2 or 3 years before she starts showing any real profits.

but most people that think doctors have so much more wealth than the someone making $72k / year, doesn't really know that much about what it takes to make money as a doctor.

 

[tranceport]

How did you find out about how her mother feels about you?