My GF has no friends

DVad3r

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So Im dating my current gf for almost 9 months now. Everything is pretty good, but she doesnt have any friends.

She goes to school during the week and the weekends she spends with me. She literally has no girlfriends to talk to or chill with, although I don't really blame her because everyone at her school are total superficial morons and basically the school is one big clique.

I encourage her to make friends with some people, but I feel pretty helpless. She enjoys the company of my friends though but those can only get her so far. Basically what my problem is, this girl has pretty much no one to talk to besides me, and that's not always good because she puts alot of her stress on me. And she also keeps alot of things inside and has her outbursts where I can only say, she goes "overboard" and does some stupid sh1t.

What to do?

 

SagaLore

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PM me, you can give her my email address and msn handle, and I'll be her penpal.

I'm a nice guy to talk to, and a very good listener. :)
 

gregshin

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i had one like that...there was no balance in the relationship

i had to take her everywhere with me so would feel "included"
 

DVad3r

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
How old is she?

18. Last year of high school. Her highschool is in a new semi rich suburb, and everyone follows a gino/gina trend. That's the hard part, I encourage her to make friends in school, but at the same time I know the type of people that are there.
 

BD2003

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Originally posted by: DVad3r
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
How old is she?

18. Last year of high school. Her highschool is in a new semi rich suburb, and everyone follows a gino/gina trend. That's the hard part, I encourage her to make friends in school, but at the same time I know the type of people that are there.

I don't believe for a second that she is the ONLY person in her school who is different from everyone else.
 

DVad3r

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I forgot to add. She plays World of Warcraft with me. It's sad but her "friends" are all online people in game. She discusses her personal lives with people she plays with and when she's comfortable enough talks on vent with them.
 

Conky

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No friends is better than having a bunch of psycho friends... just take my word on this. ;)

 

DVad3r

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Originally posted by: Hav0k99
release cybersex horn dogs!

lol she gets enough of those, especially in game when she posts pics of herself on forums etc. She's a pure attention seeker.
 

SagaLore

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Originally posted by: George P Burdell
Introduce her to the Myspace/Youtube/Facebook clusterfvck

Yea I'm sure that would improve her social life. :p
 

iroast

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Originally posted by: DVad3r
I forgot to add. She plays World of Warcraft with me. It's sad but her "friends" are all online people in game. She discusses her personal lives with people she plays with and when she's comfortable enough talks on vent with them.

Sounds like this is good enough for her. It should be good enough for you?

 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: DVad3r
So Im dating my current gf for almost 9 months now. Everything is pretty good, but she doesnt have any friends.

She goes to school during the week and the weekends she spends with me. She literally has no girlfriends to talk to or chill with, although I don't really blame her because everyone at her school are total superficial morons and basically the school is one big clique.

I encourage her to make friends with some people, but I feel pretty helpless. She enjoys the company of my friends though but those can only get her so far. Basically what my problem is, this girl has pretty much no one to talk to besides me, and that's not always good because she puts alot of her stress on me. And she also keeps alot of things inside and has her outbursts where I can only say, she goes "overboard" and does some stupid sh1t.

What to do?

Yeh, it's unhealthy not to have at least some outside interests when you're a couple.
 

Rill22

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Originally posted by: DVad3r
I forgot to add. She plays World of Warcraft with me. It's sad but her "friends" are all online people in game. She discusses her personal lives with people she plays with and when she's comfortable enough talks on vent with them.
/cry

Don't make fun of my life.
 

SagaLore

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: DVad3r
So Im dating my current gf for almost 9 months now. Everything is pretty good, but she doesnt have any friends.

She goes to school during the week and the weekends she spends with me. She literally has no girlfriends to talk to or chill with, although I don't really blame her because everyone at her school are total superficial morons and basically the school is one big clique.

I encourage her to make friends with some people, but I feel pretty helpless. She enjoys the company of my friends though but those can only get her so far. Basically what my problem is, this girl has pretty much no one to talk to besides me, and that's not always good because she puts alot of her stress on me. And she also keeps alot of things inside and has her outbursts where I can only say, she goes "overboard" and does some stupid sh1t.

What to do?

Yeh, it's unhealthy not to have at least some outside interests when you're a couple.

Unless those outside interests are more than platonic. :|
 

Injury

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There is usually a reason people don't have friends, but it's not always because they are a loser.

Maybe both you and her label the people at school as superficial just as a psychological avoidance of actually having to talk to them to make friends.

You can't possibly tell me that there isn't one person at school that she likes enough to talk to while waiting for class to start or anything.

If you can go to college and not have any friends, it's not them, it's you.
 

Cerpin Taxt

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Originally posted by: DVad3r
Originally posted by: Hav0k99
release cybersex horn dogs!

lol she gets enough of those, especially in game when she posts pics of herself on forums etc. She's a pure attention seeker.
...and which forums would those be? :evil:
 

Joemonkey

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I know the feeling man, been married 7+ years and the only friends my wife has are the ones i've had since before the marriage or ones i've made since then. It does get annoying.
 

irishScott

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Wait till college. I was the same way in HS (I was one of the smart mature kids among gangsta morons). College turned my social life around 180 degrees. Trust me, it helps.

I'm an 18 year old male btw.
 

Baked

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18? Get a webcam, start NN site w/ weekly webcam sessions + pic sets. Pays for college easy.