My GF has no friends

[dawnbug]

Some people just aren't super social. If she has friends from WoW, and enjoys talking with you and your friends, that might be all she really wants. But if her venting to you all the time is getting annoying, make sure you let her know that you wish she had other people she could share things with too, because it gets stressful to have to hear about all of her stressors. Or something like that.

 

[TravisT]

You knwo what, High School friends don't last real long normally. Granted, I had close friends in High School. I still talk to them on occasion. Unless she is feeling lonely, any friends she makes now will probably be hundreds of miles away from her at college this time next year.

Being married now, I spend more time with my wife and more time online than I do with anyone/anything else. I also have online friends and do not have anyone outside of family that I regularly hang out with. I'm not sure if this is unhealthy, but I don't feel lonely.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: SagaLore

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: DVad3r
So Im dating my current gf for almost 9 months now. Everything is pretty good, but she doesnt have any friends.

She goes to school during the week and the weekends she spends with me. She literally has no girlfriends to talk to or chill with, although I don't really blame her because everyone at her school are total superficial morons and basically the school is one big clique.

I encourage her to make friends with some people, but I feel pretty helpless. She enjoys the company of my friends though but those can only get her so far. Basically what my problem is, this girl has pretty much no one to talk to besides me, and that's not always good because she puts alot of her stress on me. And she also keeps alot of things inside and has her outbursts where I can only say, she goes "overboard" and does some stupid sh1t.

What to do?

Yeh, it's unhealthy not to have at least some outside interests when you're a couple.

Unless those outside interests are more than platonic. :|

well, yeh... but i didn't mean that.

 

[michaels]

I have or used to have a ton of friends but ever since being married and kids, i'm not about that anymore. Nothing wrong with that, but I would rather spend my free time with my family than hanging out with friends.

 

[eakers]

what about joining clubs or sports?

Thats how I made all my friends in highschool.. well, that and the rave scene

 

[bersl2]

What you say about her reminds me greatly of myself. Not that that's of any help. I'm having enough trouble poking around in the dark recesses of my own mind, never mind somebody else's---and I'm not even communicating with or observing that person directly!

(lol, therapy for me in an hour! )

The important thing is whether she wants friends, or rather, whether she thinks she wants friends.

 

[pontifex]

meh, i only have 1 good friend that i hang out with and do stuff with. unfortunately, its not often because he's married and has a lot of things going on. plus he's like 5 or 6 years older than me. we have a lot of similar interests, its just he isn't always available.

i have few aquaintances at work. people i talk to, but i don't know if i would call them friends. definitely not people i would feel comfortable talking to about stuff going on in my personal life. maybe if i knew them better, possibly, but they're all older than me by 5-6 years or more and are married, have kids, and do lots of stuff on their own also.

i don't even really know anyone my age anymore.

i'm really shy and reserved in person and i my interests don't really reflect the interests of most other people. so trying to talk to people sucks. everyone always talks about sports and i hate sports. i have very little to nothing in common with the people i associate with. i hate it.

 

[Pepsi90919]

try meetmeinto.com

 

[Kelvrick]

My GF didn't originally have that many friends either, but she eventually got to know my friends and stole most of the girls. They're closer to her now then me. No loyalty I tells ya.

 

[Xstatic1]

be worried that she doesn't have any gal pals. why? 'cause until she does get a girl friend or two, u're gonna be her sole source of friendship...which is not entirely good. the fact that she's 18 and u're not mentioning marriage or anything is a huge relief. if she's going to college next year or even plans on working instead, she'll hopefully meet some like-minded pals...so this isn't exactly a hopeless situation. in the meantime, start going out/hanging out with your friends WITHOUT her, and maybe, just maybe, she'll pick up on the hint to get her own set of friends.

 

[MaxDepth]

Uh, just what the heck is "follows a gino/gina trend"?


Damn, I'm too old for YAGT now.

 

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

OP: Are you my roommate's BF? 9 months sounds about right. No friends sounds about right too... Uhhhh She plays games too? Sounds like my roommate...

edit: apparently not because you're from toronto.

 

[Gunslinger08]

Originally posted by: TravisT
You knwo what, High School friends don't last real long normally. Granted, I had close friends in High School. I still talk to them on occasion. Unless she is feeling lonely, any friends she makes now will probably be hundreds of miles away from her at college this time next year.

Being married now, I spend more time with my wife and more time online than I do with anyone/anything else. I also have online friends and do not have anyone outside of family that I regularly hang out with. I'm not sure if this is unhealthy, but I don't feel lonely.

It's not healthy. Married couples without friends tend to have many more issues than those with friends. Sometimes you just need someone else to hang out with.

I'm still great friends with my high school friends. Convinced them to come to my college after our freshman year. We had a great time and I still visit them several weekends a month.

 

[michaels]

"Married couples without friends tend to have many more issues than those with friends."

link?

 

[erub]

Originally posted by: pontifex
meh, i only have 1 good friend that i hang out with and do stuff with. unfortunately, its not often because he's married and has a lot of things going on. plus he's like 5 or 6 years older than me. we have a lot of similar interests, its just he isn't always available.

i have few aquaintances at work. people i talk to, but i don't know if i would call them friends. definitely not people i would feel comfortable talking to about stuff going on in my personal life. maybe if i knew them better, possibly, but they're all older than me by 5-6 years or more and are married, have kids, and do lots of stuff on their own also.

i don't even really know anyone my age anymore.

i'm really shy and reserved in person and i my interests don't really reflect the interests of most other people. so trying to talk to people sucks. everyone always talks about sports and i hate sports. i have very little to nothing in common with the people i associate with. i hate it.

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that's pretty depressing man..What exactly are your interests? I mean, playing D&D or something, while it even may be made fun of on a geek-forum like this one, at least is a social activity involving other humans. You should try to go to an event where you meet people who share your interests -- for awhile I went to a Linux user group, even. The internet makes locating such groups much easier than it ever was before

Like the OP, I also dated a girl whom I thought had no friends -- well actually, if you check her facebook page, she had tons of friends, but she would never really see any of them. Often her and her best friend would just email, even though they lived within 10 mins of each other! She was very close to her family though, and her mom was her best friend..kinda weird. She became pretty close with my friends, but when we broke up they were all in my city and none in hers, so I doubt she talks regularly with any of them.

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: Pepsi90919
try meetmeinto.com

rofl sarcasm right?

 

[randay]

ttiwwp

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: erub

Originally posted by: pontifex
meh, i only have 1 good friend that i hang out with and do stuff with. unfortunately, its not often because he's married and has a lot of things going on. plus he's like 5 or 6 years older than me. we have a lot of similar interests, its just he isn't always available.

i have few aquaintances at work. people i talk to, but i don't know if i would call them friends. definitely not people i would feel comfortable talking to about stuff going on in my personal life. maybe if i knew them better, possibly, but they're all older than me by 5-6 years or more and are married, have kids, and do lots of stuff on their own also.

i don't even really know anyone my age anymore.

i'm really shy and reserved in person and i my interests don't really reflect the interests of most other people. so trying to talk to people sucks. everyone always talks about sports and i hate sports. i have very little to nothing in common with the people i associate with. i hate it.

.

that's pretty depressing man..What exactly are your interests? I mean, playing D&D or something, while it even may be made fun of on a geek-forum like this one, at least is a social activity involving other humans. You should try to go to an event where you meet people who share your interests -- for awhile I went to a Linux user group, even. The internet makes locating such groups much easier than it ever was before

Like the OP, I also dated a girl whom I thought had no friends -- well actually, if you check her facebook page, she had tons of friends, but she would never really see any of them. Often her and her best friend would just email, even though they lived within 10 mins of each other! She was very close to her family though, and her mom was her best friend..kinda weird. She became pretty close with my friends, but when we broke up they were all in my city and none in hers, so I doubt she talks regularly with any of them.

I live and work in a very rural area. You know all those redneck jokes out there? yeah, i think they're about my neighbors. seriously though, everyone around here is into sports, nascar, drinking, hunting, fishing, etc.

I like target shooting and guns, photography, music, reading/books, movies, video games, a little astronomy.

not much and nothing very interesting to most people. I'm really shy and have no self confidence for various reasons and I think thats whats really hurting me. Plus being depressed most of the time doesn't help.

 

[DVad3r]

Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Uh, just what the heck is "follows a gino/gina trend"?


Damn, I'm too old for YAGT now.

It's where everyone tries to look like barbie and ken. Basically it's sort of a dressy clubbing look, guys wear tight jeans, name brands, girls doll themselves out. It's all about style and look. Apperently it derives from italy but I doubt italians take it to these extremes. www.meetmeinto.com and www.untz.com are perfect example sites of these types of people. Just browse around and 75 % of the people there follow this trend.