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My first YAGT: Kinda stuck

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aplefka

Lifer
Okay, so there's this one girl who I like because she's smart, she's cute, she's everything good. She's not a slut, she's not some wannabe alcoholic/druggie, and she makes me want to be a better person when I'm around her. But she's mormon. And I'm not. So there's a problem right there. But to further things, I have a strong dislike for mormons and I'm only friends with a very small group of them.

She's really naive about some stuff and just doesn't get it. I like her and sometimes I get the feeling she likes me, but I don't know if it could really work out. I've got another friend who went out with a mormon last year and he's not mormon, and they broke up after 3 or 4 months cuz of it.

Has anyone here ever dated a mormon who isn't a mormon? And how did it work out? I'm trying to figure out whether or not I should pursue this and I figured "Hey, with all this P&N bs going on why not make a YAGT about religion, because it usually gets dragged in anyway."
 
If you dislike her religion that is a problem. I don't know anything about mormons, but I will just compare it to a Christian and a Jew or a Muslim. Totally different religions, but if one is not so into it then it shouldn't be a problem. If she is a really strong Mormon and you are not then you will have a problem.

I don't like talking about my faith with my GF. She is a strong believer in Islam and I am a strong believer in the book I wrote in 5th grade. We don't talk about it ever and that is how we've stayed together for so long. When we do talk about it the very few times that we do and I say something about the religion she makes it known she doesn't like my opinion and I should just keep it to myself.

The bottom line is you need to respect her religion and if you dont then there will be problems. You don't have to believe it. Just respect her beliefs.
 
My best friend and still is sort of.. ended up dating a Mormon for about a year and now they are married. Just watch out, the thing is, he was brought up a strict Cathlic. He did a complete 360 and he will never be the same. He was afraid that he could not marry her unless he was Mormon, so he converted. I havee not reeally heard of Non-Mormon's marrying Mormons.. And plus its kindof looked down upon by the church .
Im happy for him I guess... He just will neveer be the same. They have somewhat of a brainwashing affect on the guys.
 
hit it as long as you can until something better comes along, thne quit it. dont hate the playah, hate the game!

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Originally posted by: TonyB
hit it as long as you can until something better comes along, thne quit it. date hate the playah, hate the game!
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Playing a girl is for the immature. Always be honest with a girl IMO. If you are a man you will be honest and not hurt a girl like that.
 
See that's the thing, it's soooo freaking cultish. I mean some of the events it's just like give me a break.

I like her enough that I could respect her religion, I mean I get along with all the mormons I know fine, but I'm just afraid that it could take a turn for the worst if we get involved and then religion comes up.

A non-mormon marrying a mormon would probably be a miracle, and I doubt it rarely happens.
 
Playing a girl is for the immature. Always be honest with a girl IMO. If you are a man you will be honest and not hurt a girl like that.
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if you were a pimp, you would pimp slap that biatch if she tries to front

 
Originally posted by: aplefka
See that's the thing, it's soooo freaking cultish. I mean some of the events it's just like give me a break.

I like her enough that I could respect her religion, I mean I get along with all the mormons I know fine, but I'm just afraid that it could take a turn for the worst if we get involved and then religion comes up.

A non-mormon marrying a mormon would probably be a miracle, and I doubt it rarely happens.
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If she is really into her religion like that then it will probably not work out.

Her parents need to have an open mind too. If you are thinking marriage think about the children and how they will be raised. If you dislike her religion how will the kids be raised? You will have to send the kids to her parents house and they could teach the kids their mormon beliefs and their mother (your wife) will be for it. What if she herself wants to raise the kids the way she was raised?

It sounds like this wil be a bigger issue in the future and it is best if you just broke it off with her.
 
Originally posted by: t3hmuffinman
Originally posted by: FrequencyX
He did a complete 360 and he will never be the same.
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wouldn't that mean that he's still the same?
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Hahaha that reminds me of the speech our baseball coach gave us after we lost our final game of the season.

"You guys, I hope you know this team has turned a complete 360, and I'm real proud of all of you. We were a bunch of slapdicks in the beginning and -"
"Uhh coach, if we did a complete 360 we'd be right back where we started."
"God dammit Demetre, okay, we've done a complete 180."

And it continued.
 
Originally posted by: t3hmuffinman
Originally posted by: FrequencyX
He did a complete 360 and he will never be the same.
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wouldn't that mean that he's still the same?
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nice catch ! LOL

what are mormons all about, by the way? I have no idea... anyone care to explain?
 
Originally posted by: Aimster
Originally posted by: aplefka
See that's the thing, it's soooo freaking cultish. I mean some of the events it's just like give me a break.

I like her enough that I could respect her religion, I mean I get along with all the mormons I know fine, but I'm just afraid that it could take a turn for the worst if we get involved and then religion comes up.

A non-mormon marrying a mormon would probably be a miracle, and I doubt it rarely happens.
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If she is really into her religion like that then it will probably not work out.

Her parents need to have an open mind too. If you are thinking marriage think about the children and how they will be raised. If you dislike her religion how will the kids be raised? You will have to send the kids to her parents house and they could teach the kids their mormon beliefs and their mother (your wife) will be for it. What if she herself wants to raise the kids the way she was raised?

It sounds like this wil be a bigger issue in the future and it is best if you just broke it off with her.
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Well things haven't really even started. And I'm not old enough to have to worry about marriage yet (thank God) 😛

But I dunno, we're kinda opposites in a way, and I think that's kinda why I like her. But at the same time it could create an issue.

To the wannabe pimp up there, give me a break. I broke up with my last gf because I told her I just didn't feel confident enough in myself that in a distance relationship that I wouldn't flirt with other girls. I may be old-fashioned but at least I'm not a prick.
 
It basicly comes down to this.. If you are ready to start a family go for a Mormon girl. Most of them are great and will treat you right.
They tend to be very good housewives too.
Have 10 aplefka's running around .. Ahh I can see it
 
Originally posted by: FrequencyX
It basicly comes down to this.. If you are ready to start a family go for a Mormon girl. Most of them are great and will treat you right.
They tend to be very good housewives too.
Have 10 aplefka's running around .. Ahh I can see it
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Damn straight... and they'd all be on ATOT as soon as they learned how to speak. 😛
 
If you lived in Utah, I might encourage you to make it work, but your profile says you live in Sac, so you have plenty of non-mormon girls to choose from. Find one of them.
 
Decide if her religion is really going to be a problem. If she's anything like the Mormon girls I've known, you won't be able to go out drinking or partying with her, you probably won't ever do much more than kiss her while you're dating, you'll have to watch the language and so forth around her, and every now and then you might have to just STFU when you have a conflicting opinion, because there are some issues that its definitely not best to debate with someone so solid (borderline hard-headed) in their beliefs.

If you realize all this, and you still want to be with her, then by all means continue pursuit. 🙂 Take the time to work out the differences in your faiths and lifestyles and see what you can agree on.
 
All the girls at my school are sluts. Or they're all people I can't stand to be around. I'm pretty picky. I need to move.
 
Originally posted by: TheLonelyPhoenix
Decide if her religion is really going to be a problem. If she's anything like the Mormon girls I've known, you won't be able to go out drinking or partying with her, you probably won't ever do much more than kiss her while you're dating, you'll have to watch the language and so forth around her, and every now and then you might have to just STFU when you have a conflicting opinion, because there are some issues that its definitely not best to debate with someone so solid (borderline hard-headed) in their beliefs.

If you realize all this, and you still want to be with her, then by all means continue pursuit. 🙂 Take the time to work out the differences in your faiths and lifestyles and see what you can agree on.
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That's kinda the deal. That's where the whole opposites comes into play. I'm probably the most "hardcore" person she knows. I'm had some alcohol, I've smoked (cigars/pipes, nothing else) and I talk like a sailor in certain atmospheres, but like I said, when I'm around her I want to be a better person. I'm not necessarily happy with how I am, but it's not like I feel as though I'm a complete failure. I just wish there were more nice girls who weren't mormons, then this thread could be avoided.
 
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