give in, get used to it, you will be doing it for now on. The joys of being married/dating/engaged. When you ask her is she would liek to tag along make sure you don't have anything you wanted to do at home. Say you were just going to get something and be right back. Chances are you are not just going out for that one thing. One hour later you are still out and buying useless crap or things you don't need till next week.
Yup. edit though, lastsentence should read:
"One hour later you are still out and buying useless crap or things you don't need."
it's a fact of life though, women are gonna do it. I found it best to just nod you head and say "uh huh" and then just not do anything. 
Originally posted by: kherman
Originally posted by: hammer09
it's called nagging. yes women do it.
That's the other problem. my mom has nagged me all my life about stupid sh!t even. Not just clean your room. YOu want more mashed potatoes repeatadly athe dinner table. After 20 years, I have issues with being nagged. my fiance knows this. Not to put the blame on her, but it is part of the problem in last nights event. That's where the thought 'now I'm starting to get ticked. No means no.' comes from in the first post of mine. I snap easily when nagged.
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I understand what you're saying when it comes to your history.
The challange is if you can work out things "fairly"; otherwise one will always feel that they are giving and the other never appreciates that, and that leads to problems. You need to work it out before you get married or it will never change and it will develope into a major problem that can kill your marriage, and if it happens after you have kids, then they are affected too.
The challange is if you can work out things "fairly"; otherwise one will always feel that they are giving and the other never appreciates that, and that leads to problems. You need to work it out before you get married or it will never change and it will develope into a major problem that can kill your marriage, and if it happens after you have kids, then they are affected too.
get use to it...consider it training for latter in the marriage
wasn't there some sort of study in the past few years that looked at "successful" marriages, the upshot of the study was that
"talking about problems" and counselling and all that other crap did not result in successful marriages. the only thing that worked was when the
guy just did what the woman wanted - "successful" marrriage.
i'm not making this up.
wasn't there some sort of study in the past few years that looked at "successful" marriages, the upshot of the study was that
"talking about problems" and counselling and all that other crap did not result in successful marriages. the only thing that worked was when the
guy just did what the woman wanted - "successful" marrriage.
i'm not making this up.
Uhm, I think I just got over a relationship like this, no offense to you.
$350 gifts were like ... nothin' ... but heaven forbid you get something for $100 ... it's like it was never enough.
I'd much rather lounge than go look at crap ...
$350 gifts were like ... nothin' ... but heaven forbid you get something for $100 ... it's like it was never enough.
I'd much rather lounge than go look at crap ...
Saying yes and doing nothing actuyallyworks??
Originally posted by: hammer09
it's a fact of life though, women are gonna do it. I found it best to just nod you head and say "uh huh" and then just not do anything.
Originally posted by: kherman
Originally posted by: hammer09
it's called nagging. yes women do it.
That's the other problem. my mom has nagged me all my life about stupid sh!t even. Not just clean your room. YOu want more mashed potatoes repeatadly athe dinner table. After 20 years, I have issues with being nagged. my fiance knows this. Not to put the blame on her, but it is part of the problem in last nights event. That's where the thought 'now I'm starting to get ticked. No means no.' comes from in the first post of mine. I snap easily when nagged.
yup, its what great about being a man
Originally posted by: kherman
Saying yes and doing nothing actuyallyworks??
Originally posted by: hammer09
it's a fact of life though, women are gonna do it. I found it best to just nod you head and say "uh huh" and then just not do anything.
Originally posted by: kherman
Originally posted by: hammer09
it's called nagging. yes women do it.
That's the other problem. my mom has nagged me all my life about stupid sh!t even. Not just clean your room. YOu want more mashed potatoes repeatadly athe dinner table. After 20 years, I have issues with being nagged. my fiance knows this. Not to put the blame on her, but it is part of the problem in last nights event. That's where the thought 'now I'm starting to get ticked. No means no.' comes from in the first post of mine. I snap easily when nagged.
These problems rarely occur, thankfully. But I want to be pefect for the perfect woman. Alot of things mentioned in this thread will be implemented in the future.
That's the stance of most guys I think.
Guys like things that are well built and functional.
Gals like things that are cheap and shiny.
You live near Groton? No wonder you're a grouch
I frigging love Job Lot, though...what's the matter with you, man?
As you and everyone else already said, communication and compromise is the key.
It's amusing to me when you said:
Because that is like a dictionary definition of a compromise...you get to go shop for something you like, and then you wander the mall and shop for something she likes
I'm lucky...compromises with my girlfriend include classics like:
You can kayak all you want, just come out once in awhile and spend a few minutes on the beach with me.
and
You can ride Reach while I ride PJ (those are horses, btw).
and
OK, well I want to read my book for awhile. Do you mind playing video games all day?
I frigging love Job Lot, though...what's the matter with you, man?
As you and everyone else already said, communication and compromise is the key.
It's amusing to me when you said:
Because that is like a dictionary definition of a compromise...you get to go shop for something you like, and then you wander the mall and shop for something she likes
I'm lucky...compromises with my girlfriend include classics like:
You can kayak all you want, just come out once in awhile and spend a few minutes on the beach with me.
and
You can ride Reach while I ride PJ (those are horses, btw).
and
OK, well I want to read my book for awhile. Do you mind playing video games all day?
Originally posted by: Jzero
You live near Groton? No wonder you're a grouch
I frigging love Job Lot, though...what's the matter with you, man?
As you and everyone else already said, communication and compromise is the key.
It's amusing to me when you said:
Because that is like a dictionary definition of a compromise...you get to go shop for something you like, and then you wander the mall and shop for something she likes
I'm lucky...compromises with my girlfriend include classics like:
You can kayak all you want, just come out once in awhile and spend a few minutes on the beach with me.
and
You can ride Reach while I ride PJ (those are horses, btw).
and
OK, well I want to read my book for awhile. Do you mind playing video games all day?
Can I send my fiance to your GF for training
I need traingin too though "OK, well I want to read my book for awhile. Do you mind playing video games all day?"
I'm SO VERY JEALEOUS RIGHT NOW!
BWA ahahaha, if she went on the diet, I'd go to Job Lot with her and hand heer my credit card and tell her to have fun. I would also recomend we go to the arts and craft store and maybe go look at some fabrics. And afterthat, we'll go fly to California to see her sister and get a second CC for her sister's use, then maybe go to Italy, France and .....
Originally posted by: kherman
Originally posted by: hammer09
it's called nagging. yes women do it.
That's the other problem. my mom has nagged me all my life about stupid sh!t even. Not just clean your room. YOu want more mashed potatoes repeatadly athe dinner table. After 20 years, I have issues with being nagged. my fiance knows this. Not to put the blame on her, but it is part of the problem in last nights event. That's where the thought 'now I'm starting to get ticked. No means no.' comes from in the first post of mine. I snap easily when nagged.
But the problem is no didn't mean "No". Nor did it mean "I don't want to spend time with you" as your girl interpeted it. It meant (paraphrasing) "There are sports coming on that I've really been looking forward to watching. And while I greatly enjoy being around you, the store where you want to go is quite possibly the most boring place on earth, and I'd rather not go there without a specific need. If you could wait and let me watch a game (or two), if we could reschedule, or if we could pick a different destination, I'd be more than happy to accompany you..." Women think they can read our minds, but since they can't they fill in any gray areas with the worst possible interpetation of anything you've said recently. Does saying the extra fifty words cost you 30 seconds of precious sports watching/beer drinking/cleavage oggling time on the couch? Yes, but it saves you so much more apologizing-for-unintentional-insults-and-slights time later. Articulate your feelings and communicate them, and if she still doesn't care she's not worth having.
Adul
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Originally posted by: Adul
go to victoria's secrete together
That's not fun to me. I'd rather have her go on her own and buy mea surprise. it's not fun knowing what she'll be wearing.
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Reverse the roles and replace job lot with bestbuy and I bet she'd not end up going with ya
Well, the difference is that if she doesn't want to go, I am capable of going on my own without crying about it.
Holy Schitt. :Q Rayster nailed it!
And for some reason, women expect guys to be able to read their minds. "What's wrong, honey?" "Nothing."
God, that aggravates the hell out of me. :|
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