My ex is dating a co-worker..... advice?

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Pastore

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tell this dude that her cooch smells like a fish market... he will jet like a 747
 

AkumaX

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<< bro's before ho's >>


amen to THAT!!


<< Geez, what kind of response is that? Maturity is NOT endorsed here at AT. >>


that's true!!
 

MichaelD

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Hey Mandrill,

Okay, why don't you explain to me exactly why you think I'm an "adolescent moron?" I'd like to hear your rationale on this please.
 

TonTo

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I'd like to hear the rationale too.....


it's now a quarter to 2.... and we still have 4 computers sitting there.........
and 2 more that are going to come in...........
 

TonTo

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Ok,
UPDATE
i finaly called this guy,
it's 2:00pm and we got a bunch of computers
lets see if he shows up......
 

Mandrill

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MichealD:



<< I know she lived with you, but two months is a fling, and any girl that would just move in with a guy "just like that" *snaps fingers for emphasis* is a slut. No offense to you, my friend; I've had a few sluts in my time...got a few cases of the creepy crawlies too. Oh well, life goes on. >>



Tonto stated

<< i let her live with me cuz she needed to get out of her place, yada yada yada >>



You called this woman a slut because she needed a place to stay and movd in with the guy after two months. How does that make her a slut? And why do you have no harsh words for Tonto? After all, he did let her move in didn't he?

She's a slut but I suppose he's a stud for the whole situation?

That is why I called you an adolecent moron. That and your overall denigrating attitude towards women.

<< I've had a few sluts in my time... >>



Need any more rationale?
 

Mandrill

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<< Mandrill >>







<< you are aware that condoms aren't 100% safe aren't you? >>




Yup. You are aware that you, and only you, are responsible for your own actions right? If you are man enough to lie down with a women, you have to be man enough to accept the consequences of that action.

So if the condom broke and she got pregnant, it would be her fault then?
 

stingbandel

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<< if i were you, i would act like nothing happened. >>



I second on that. Also if he doesn't show up then it's his lost. He won't get any dough at all for not working. Why should you care. I wouldn't call if I were you but since you did then let's see if he comes.





Darno
 

MichaelD

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Mandrill,

Obviously, you are misinformed as to your own breadth of experience and depth of understanding. I do believe my wording is what threw you...not too difficult to do, apparently. OK, so let's revise my statement to be more to your liking, allrighty?

Instead of:
"I've a had a few sluts in my time" How about "in my experiences, I've had sexual relations with several women of questionable morality." How's that? Does that sit better with you. Moving right along.

Also, she moved in right away, not after two months. Get your facts straight before shooting your mouth off.

And, I called her a slut. So what? Why does that bother you? Men are sluts too, you know. Or I should say "Men are are capable of having questionable sexual morality."

And until you've walked in my shoes, and had the experiences I've had, don't you dare question how I feel about women, men, dogs or cyborgs. You're entitled to your own little opinion as I am mine.
 

TonTo

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You called this woman a slut because she needed a place to stay and movd in with the guy after two months. How does that make her a slut? And why do you have no harsh words for Tonto? After all, he did let her move in didn't he?

ok, no one's a slut but her, she's a slut plain and simple.... i didn't know, i thought, oh, hey, she's a pastors daughter... can't be bad, she needs a place to stay, we're dating.... sure, i didn't make the typical mistake about asking about past relationships, cuz that usualy ends up bad. i had no freaking clue.... I'm not complaining though, i'll deal with that...
what i don't know how to deal with though is this:

the dude works for me.
if i come down on him for not doin his job, it'll look like i'm doin that cuz i'm jealous....
but, if i don't come down on him, i get yelled at and stuff don't get done and our customers aren't happy.
 

MichaelD

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Tonto,

Talk to him. Nicely. If you are indeed his supervisor, take him into a private room and say;

"Look "Tom" we have a problem here. Your share of the work isn't getting done. You were supposed to be here today at 0800 and you didn't call and you showed up at 1300. This is unacceptable. You must know that I'm in a difficult position because I'm your boss and you are now dating Linda. The fact that you are dating Linda in no way should affect your job performance. I am responsible for ensuring that they computer repair dept does exactly that; repairs computers. I expect you to come in on time and carry your share of the workload, OK? "

And see what he says. I don't envy you at all, buddy; that's a rough position that you are in and I wish you the best of luck. I'll help you out with business advise if that'll help. I do supervise, myself, so I know more than a little bit about it.
 

Shagger

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I am just happy that a quote of mine ended up in TonTo's sig!

Seriously, TonTo you just need to talk the dude and explain to him that noon is unacceptable to beginning the work day...
 

TonTo

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oh yeah, and this.

kiss off.... just because my life style doens't conform to yours doesn't mean you should bash mine you close minded prick.

i've made some mistakes in my life, damn right, some of those mistakes have messed me up hardcore, some have been damn good. don't judge me because of my mistakes dude.... that aint right.
 

TonTo

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Shagger
noon? hell, that woulda been nice if he'd shown up at noon......
dude didn't show up till 3 i think....


yeah, i like that sig/quote.... i ask people that all the time... usualy they laugh..... one person didn't though.....
he said "yeah, my dick started to bleed.... carefull of those chicks with those freakin donkey teeth"
i laughed
 

Mandrill

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Oooh...the classic "I am going to attempt to show my intellect flame"



<< Obviously, you are misinformed as to your own breadth of experience and depth of understanding. I do believe my wording is what threw you...not too difficult to do, apparently. OK, so let's revise my statement to be more to your liking, allrighty? >>



Yes you threw me. I had forgotten what going though puberty was like, so therefore I obviously misunderstood what you were saying.




<< Also, she moved in right away, not after two months. Get your facts straight before shooting your mouth off. >>



You found this tid bit of info where? In none of Tonto's posts did it say she moved in then they started dating. So perhaps it is you that should think before shooting your mouth off



<< And, I called her a slut. So what? Why does that bother you? Men are sluts too, you know. Or I should say "Men are are capable of having questionable sexual morality." >>



Why does it bother me? Because you know absolutely nothing about this person. Yet you spew disparaging remarks about her with alarming ease.

The entire tone of your post is very denigrating towards women in general. And that is what I am calling you on. And from judging from the PM's I have recieved, I'm not the only one.




<< And until you've walked in my shoes, and had the experiences I've had, don't you dare question how I feel about women, men, dogs or cyborgs. You're entitled to your own little opinion as I am mine. >>



Actually I will question how you feel about women. Though I really don't have to. Your tone of post is really quite telling in and of itself.
 

MichaelD

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Ok, I dated maria for about 2 months, i let her live with me cuz she needed to get out of her place By this statement, it is inferred that she lived with him from the beginning. At least that's now I read it.

You don't like me? Oh, I'm so sad.....how you feel about me is inconsequential to my life. I may have voiced my opinion, but the bottom line is that I was trying to help Tonto. I even offered some advice as to how counsel his subordinate. If you've nothing better to do with your time than to psychoanalyze everything people say on an internet BB, then you seriously need to relook how you spend your time.

I am opinionated. And? If my opinions don't agree with your way of thinking, fine. Have a polite debate over it. But to outright verbally attack and insult someone for it...who's being immature?
 

TonTo

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I'm taking whoever's advice

completely @ssed avoiding the situation.
we're not sayin jack squat about it.

 

Mandrill

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hahaha 13.33 posts a day and you suggest I need to relook how I spend my online time? Anyways...

As far as not liking you. I neither like nor dislike you. I took issue with what you said.



<< But to outright verbally attack and insult someone for it...who's being immature? >>




<< Obviously, you are misinformed as to your own breadth of experience and depth of understanding. I do believe my wording is what threw you...not too difficult to do, apparently. OK, so let's revise my statement to be more to your liking, allrighty? >>



Hmm....Good point.

Well what ever. It really is pointless to go on further which I think is about the only thing we can agree on. So I am done with it.

Tata
 

MichaelD

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I consider most of my time here at AT productive. I sit in front of a pc all day and have many windows open...one of them is AT. But anyway, you're right; pointless to continue. I lay down my sabre and retire for the evening.