My dad is dying.. (edit: he just passed)

[BeauJangles]

I, too am sorry. Although my dad is alive, i've had to watch many relatives pass away recently and it pains me greatly. As others said, try to say everything you can to him now, you don't know how much it will help later.

 

[vash]

Not much can be said in the times of possible loss of a family member. Last year, I lost my remaining grandparents, all about six months from each other. This year, I lost an aunt, a few weeks ago. Your emotions are high, but keep your spirits up. If you lose him now, be sure to tell him goodbye and to promise him to help your mother (that goes a long way). If he wants to go, he'll stop fighting and that'll be the sign he is ready to go. Good luck, I hope the best comes to you and your family.

vash

 

[Aceshigh]

I lost my father 11 years ago, and it was the hardest time of my life. I really hope your dad pulls through. Never give up hope.

And if the unthinkable does happen and he does pass away, please don't isolate yourself. Keep your family and friends close by.

Your father will be in my prayers.

 

[Sealy]

I got a PM today telling me to pass on a hug to someone. You seem like you could use one so ****HUG****

 

[cherrytwist]

My father died this past Sunday. Memorial services are tomorrow.

He and I are both sufferers of Marfan Syndrome www.marfan.org.

He died as a result of an infection that grew in his synthetic aortic valve (replaced in 1990). He was 62.

guyver01 If you want to PM me, feel free.

 

[Bignate603]

If he has ever mentioned anything about having an accident or something, and if he wanted to be recusitated, honor what he wants. One of my grandmothers was slowly dying and had requested that if it was not possible to go back to the way she was before she got sick she would not want to be brought back. She came very close to dying one night when only my father was in the hospital and they needed an answer right then about what to do. The doctor said there was a very small chance she could recover, minute but there was a chance so my dad told them to bring her back. My grandmother survived the night and regained consciousness but was angry at my father for the last few days of her life. She wouldn't even talk to him, her own son, because she thought he went against what she wanted. It tore him apart that she didn't want him there because of the decision he made.

With that said, if you know his wishes about being recusitated or know what kind of quality of life he would want, honor it. No one will know his wishes better then you guys, and he'll love you for following them, in this life and the next.

 

[guyver01]

i just got home.. he's in ICU... and they have him on a vent to help him breathe, and they're putting in a "shirley(spelling?)" for a dialysis...

they're waiting for pathology from the liver biopsy to determine where to go from here..

he's on meds to keep his blood pressure up.

the doctor told me straightforward, "im not telling you its hopeless yet, there is possibility, but you do need to prepare for the worst"..

I have to contemplate with my mom now, a DNR.. but we're waiting for the pathology.

i'm resigned to the worst now..

 

[MomAndSkoorbaby]

Originally posted by: guyver01
i just got home.. he's in ICU... and they have him on a vent to help him breathe, and they're putting in a "shirley(spelling?)" for a dialysis...

they're waiting for pathology from the liver biopsy to determine where to go from here..

he's on meds to keep his blood pressure up.

the doctor told me straightforward, "im not telling you its hopeless yet, there is possibility, but you do need to prepare for the worst"..

I have to contemplate with my mom now, a DNR.. but we're waiting for the pathology.

i'm resigned to the worst now..

Sending you much needed hugs....

(((((GUYVER)))))

 

[Windogg]

 

[guyver01]

We just got the call from the hospital... my father just passed away...

i cannot grieve at this time... i need to be there for my mother.... she's a total wreck right now.

i will have my time to grieve later.

 

[Doggiedog]

I am so sorry.

 

[Ketteringo]

Originally posted by: Doggiedog
I am so sorry.

 

[pyonir]

terrible news....shows great courage being there for your mother. that is admirable.

 

[Tal]

You should take time to grieve now also. You are in my prayers, and have my sympathy! -TAL

 

[Radiohead]

My thought & prayers go out to you and your family

 

[Lola]

I am sorry...that is all I can say. I know how you feel. God Bless you and your entire family.

 

[Aceshigh]

Im so sorry.

 

[Brutuskend]

Sorry for your loss guy!

 

[StageLeft]

Sorry to hear it, guyver. Goodluck

 

[SoylentGreen]

Aww man.

 

[MomAndSkoorbaby]

Now you need hugs even more!

So sorry to hear that.....

 

[kranky]

I'm very sorry to learn of your father's passing. My prayers are with you and your family at this time.

 

[guyver01]

thanks guys .. for everything...

it does mean alot.

i just dont know what to do... my aunt is helping with the arrangements...

being jewish means everything has to be done so quickly...

 

[Farmall]

Sorry to hear about your dad's passing, its never easy to let go of a loved one.

My condolences to you and your family.

 

[SaltBoy]

guyver01, you have my condolences. May you and your family find some degree of peace in knowing that he is in a better place.