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My big brother just died.. *update please help me pay for his casket*

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To all those who have been supportive and caring through this: Thank you very much, it means a lot to me, even though it may not seem like it.

To all those who are like to make jokes about this, say this is a parody, or are just apathetic and being a$$holes: Fvck you, and stay out of my thread.
 
My condolences to you and your family. Please spend as much time as possible with your little brother. I was his exact age when my older brother died, and it affected me for many years afterward. My older brothers and sisters were either not around, or I would not let them in to help me.
 
Originally posted by: JimRaynor
To all those who have been supportive and caring through this: Thank you very much, it means a lot to me, even though it may not seem like it.
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There actually are a few people on this forum who know how to be nice. I too extend my condolances.

That which does not kill you will make you stronger and the strongest swords are forged in the hottest fires.

:beer: <--- to you and your family's stregnth, determination and bright future.
 
Talk to someone. I wish you the absolute best, but I know what it is like to lose an immediate family member. The pain lasts a long time. Good luck and I'll pray for you. 🙁
 
I unfortunately cannot understand the feeling you are going through, and I hope I never will... My condolences, may your brother RIP.

Bill
 
Thats harsh. Crystal meth is a dangerous drug on its own, but with athsma... geeeez...

You have my deepest condolances. I don't know what its like to lose a family member to drugs, but I've lost quite a few friends over the years to them, and unlike natural causes or accidents, it always leaves you wondering what you could have done. The truth is, sometimes there is nothing you can do. Don't beat yourself up over the what-ifs and should-haves.

Also, not to sound like an asshole because it isnt my intention, but there is a bright side to all of this. I highly doubt you will ever have to worry about your little brother ever touching a drug like crystal meth. Your older brother may have been selfish to do such a stupid thing, but in the end he did teach a valuable lesson about the dangers of hard drugs. One way that might help your family ease the pain would be to talk to your local school district about possibly holding an assembly and sharing your story. Make some good come of the unfortunate circumstances that have befallen your family. If it stops one child from ever touching that drug then your brother did not die in vain.



 
Yeah, I always thought it was stupid of him to smoke since he had asthma. But it was even stupider to do the meth too.. I feel angry at him for what he did to me and my family, something that could have been so easily preventable.
 
Originally posted by: JimRaynor
Yeah, I always thought it was stupid of him to smoke since he had asthma. But it was even stupider to do the meth too.. I feel angry at him for what he did to me and my family, something that could have been so easily preventable.
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My condolences 🙁

Meth is very evil and extremely addictive. I've tried just about every popular drug, and meth is by far the one that made me feel the best. It makes you feel alive and gives you such clarity that it doesn't feel *bad* to do... until you start coming down. Then the only thing you can think about is getting more meth. It can take over your thinking from the first time you take it, especially if you have an addictive personality. I don't consider your brother stupid for doing it because I know what it feels like and I know how controlling it can potentially. Don't try to find fault in his death, except in the drug itself.
 
Originally posted by: Evadman
Last but not least, don't do anything stupid. Not that I think that you would do something to yourself; but to someone else, like whoever he got the meth from. Thinking it is one thing, but acting it out is another. The problem is, you don't have a real enemy to take revenge on, so you are stuck doing nothing. It is the second worst feeling in the world.
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Ah yeah...although how bad is it really to become a meth lab vigilante armed with a bunch of zippo lighters or something.
 
I'm sorry to hear JimRaynor... a sad thing.
Hang in, get right and understand, you are only responsible for you. Be good to those around you and help them with what you can. At some point you'll be able to look off into the distance, smile, mutter to yourself "you dumb SOB", then walk on, still smiling for the good things.
 
His behavior had gotten very irregular, and he became very irrascible, he also didn't really ever sleep that I saw. I just think that all the times he acted so weird and was doing weird things it was the drugs and not really my brother. From what I've read so far it really messes with your head and can make you a different person. One time before he had a bad attack and my dad and I were getting ready to take him to the hospital. We went into his room to go get him and he wouldn't let us take him. He couldn't even get a word out but he was so adamant about not going. Now I know it was probably cause of the drugs; if we would've gone to the hospital they would've known. I wish we would've taken him anyways, that way we would've known and he could've gotten some help.
 
Originally posted by: JimRaynor
I went to go pick up a pizza and when I came back I heard shouting. My mom was saying that my brother was dead. My little brother was on the phone with 911. He was laying on the floor in the bathroom. I took him out into the kitchen and started doing mouth to mouth and cpr. He had a faint pulse so I thought maybe he would be ok. 2 minutes later the paramedics got here and they continued working on him, helping him breathe and giving him cpr. They took him to the hospital. The cops got there and asked me to look around in his room for them, I checked his pants pocket and found a container with a pipe and crystal meth. We looked longer and found more pipes. He had asthma and also was a smoker. By the time I got to the hospital he was dead. He and I grew apart the last few years and I didn't talk to him but I never woulda wished this to happen. Maybe if i woulda got home sooner, I keep thinking things like that. I don't know what to do, family is a mess right now. My 14 year old little brother just had to watch all that. I can't believe this happened. I'm so mad at him for doing something so stupid. Help me get through this guys, I don't know what to do.
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Hey man. sorry to hear about the bad news. My condolences to your family. Don't worry about the video card. We can take care of that later on. Just keep your family together and get them all through this. Take care and God bless.
 
JimRaynor,
My condolences. Try not to dwell on the negative ascpects of your brothers life. Try to remeber the good times, there's no need to beat yourself up. Remeber he was your older brother and it was his choice, his desicsions. Odds are if he turned to meth there were more deep seated issues at hand that either he did not want people helping or knowing about. Be with your family, your mom, brother, and Dad.

When you guys are ready you should think about taking a vacation together somewhere. A change of enviroment would be really good.



LordJezo. Fsck you insensitive prick. Remeber you reap what you sow asshat! Just because your life is worthless doesnt mean you have to make everyone elses. :disgust::|
 
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