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My 13yo son is discovering pr0n on teh intarweb.

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Originally posted by: cerebusPu
dont let him watch too much porn. lest you be like my friend who thinks he lives in a porn movie, but is the only guy not getting any.
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That's one of the things I've had to unlearn, sadly.
 
seriously though, a little porn isn't bad. lets not forget that german couple that didn't know what sex is and was wondering why they dont have kids.
 
When I have a son, I'll expose him as many healthy pr0n as I can, and I'd make sure that he loves, wants, yearns for the companionship of a female. I'm taking no chances, be a playa if he has to, but I'll be damn if he's gonna be confused and turn into a fruit.
 
Originally posted by: cr4zymofo
When I have a son, I'll expose him as many healthy pr0n as I can, and I'd make sure that he loves, wants, yearns for the companionship of a female. I'm taking no chances, be a playa if he has to, but I'll be damn if he's gonna be confused and turn into a fruit.
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That's right! Them homosexuals aren't nothing but a pack of weirdos.
 
Originally posted by: cr4zymofo
When I have a son, I'll expose him as many healthy pr0n as I can, and I'd make sure that he loves, wants, yearns for the companionship of a female. I'm taking no chances, be a playa if he has to, but I'll be damn if he's gonna be confused and turn into a fruit.
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hahahaha...

If your son is gay, you'll be able to tell from the get-go. Nothing you do or say will change it. Infact, if you force the issue, it will probably just reinforce his homosexuality.

😛
 
I would say truthfully that all of his curiosity would be satiated if you bought him a subscription to Playboy or something. It's really not as bad as online pr0n, and this way, its easier to hide.
 
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: cr4zymofo
When I have a son, I'll expose him as many healthy pr0n as I can, and I'd make sure that he loves, wants, yearns for the companionship of a female. I'm taking no chances, be a playa if he has to, but I'll be damn if he's gonna be confused and turn into a fruit.
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hahahaha...

If your son is gay, you'll be able to tell from the get-go. Nothing you do or say will change it. Infact, if you force the issue, it will probably just reinforce his homosexuality.

😛
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Hmmm... I think most of the homo cases are not borned, but forced. Not forced as in physically, but may be mentally also. Loneliness can do a lot of things to people.
 
Originally posted by: AcidicFury
I would say truthfully that all of his curiosity would be satiated if you bought him a subscription to Playboy or something. It's really not as bad as online pr0n, and this way, its easier to hide.
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Actually, I agree. Playboy's tasteful compared to a lot of the sick stuff you find on Kazaa.
 
Just make sure he doesn't get into the japanese lesbian sticking sea creatures up butts stuff. That sh!t'll really f ya up.
 
Originally posted by: cr4zymofo
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: cr4zymofo
When I have a son, I'll expose him as many healthy pr0n as I can, and I'd make sure that he loves, wants, yearns for the companionship of a female. I'm taking no chances, be a playa if he has to, but I'll be damn if he's gonna be confused and turn into a fruit.
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hahahaha...

If your son is gay, you'll be able to tell from the get-go. Nothing you do or say will change it. Infact, if you force the issue, it will probably just reinforce his homosexuality.

😛
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Hmmm... I think most of the homo cases are not borned, but forced. Not forced as in physically, but may be mentally also. Loneliness can do a lot of things to people.
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I don't want to turn this into another homosexuality "genetic vs. learned" discussion, but let me ask you this.. does the homosexual dog choose?

How about homosexual insects? Are they forced? 😉
 
Originally posted by: DurocShark
This isn't anything I've had to deal with before, since when I was growing up we had to steal magazines from 7-11.

But there are a couple of common adult site listings in his computer's history.

I really don't care if he checks it out, but he needs to be more discreet about covering his tracks since my wife shares the computer with him.

She and I talked about it and decided that for the moment just discussing things with him about the risks inherent in surfing pr0n, and being more discreet about it.

Since we've got lots of younger guys here, I wanted to hear what other parents have done in this situation...
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The thread degenerated a little (Naw! Say it ain't so! 😛), so I thought I should quote the OP.

Duroc, I am not a parent - and I can not say that I had great parents (at least in the father department) but this is what I suggest.

#1) Confront him about it. I do not mean threaten violence, but let him know you found out about it. Odds are he will flip out and say "Are you spying on me?" and "What, you don't trust me?" Don't even dignify those questions with a responce.

#2) Explain to him that pornography is NOT an appropriate representation of relationships. Attempt to teach him how to show a little more class and respect for women. (But take my advice, not too much class and respect for them.)

#3) Tell him that you never want to catch him looking at porn again. Stress the word "catch." IF he is half the 13 year old I was, he will quickly translate that into "He didn't say I couldn't look." Which is pretty much what you want.

#4) And if you feel he still doesn't get it, explain to him that other people use the computer - like his mother - and does he really want them to know he is looking at porn?

From what I know, this should pretty much cover everything.

But I may be fantastically wrong. I dunno. 😉
 
I agree with a lot of the posts here, if you satisfy his desire for porn with some softcore stuff then he will be sheltered and not need to search the web, where he could be permanently fvcked up by looking at some of the sh!t sick on the web he isn't mentally prepared to handle
 
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: cr4zymofo
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: cr4zymofo
When I have a son, I'll expose him as many healthy pr0n as I can, and I'd make sure that he loves, wants, yearns for the companionship of a female. I'm taking no chances, be a playa if he has to, but I'll be damn if he's gonna be confused and turn into a fruit.
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hahahaha...

If your son is gay, you'll be able to tell from the get-go. Nothing you do or say will change it. Infact, if you force the issue, it will probably just reinforce his homosexuality.

😛
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Hmmm... I think most of the homo cases are not borned, but forced. Not forced as in physically, but may be mentally also. Loneliness can do a lot of things to people.
Click to expand...
I don't want to turn this into another homosexuality "genetic vs. learned" discussion, but let me ask you this.. does the homosexual dog choose?

How about homosexual insects? Are they forced? 😉
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Now that explained why you tood pix of all of those insects 😛
 
wtf is wrong with porn (really). I'm not a fan of it but I don't see anything wrong if someone likes it.

You have a son. That very fact means you got your rocks off with his mom. So your son is having fun watching stuff you've participated in... That is like hypocrisy 😛 Go buy him some playboys or something.
 
this one time my friends came over and looked through my little brother's history on the computer and found a bunch of porn sites, then they video taped him crying, i got into a lot of trouble, but it was funny as hell. next time they came over, one of them brought his computer and set up in the living room and spent the whole night using my broadband to download porn, hes a strange guy... aaanyway, just tell him to hide it better
 
Originally posted by: l3ored
this one time my friends came over and looked through my little brother's history on the computer and found a bunch of porn sites, then they video taped him crying, i got into a lot of trouble, but it was funny as hell. next time they came over, one of them brought his computer and set up in the living room and spent the whole night using my broadband to download porn, hes a strange guy... aaanyway, just tell him to hide it better
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Can't be much weirder than the guy I used to know that graduated this year (from HS)... he wanted to show me his grandparent's new computer so I went over there one day after school. He brought up some weird porn site involving guys sticking it in chicks ears, nose, etc.... when he started rubbing his pants I decided it was time to go and never come within 50 feet of him again :Q
 
Pron is good. As long as you don't find something gay in the web history u got nothing to sweat about.
 
Originally posted by: OREOSpeedwagon
Originally posted by: l3ored
this one time my friends came over and looked through my little brother's history on the computer and found a bunch of porn sites, then they video taped him crying, i got into a lot of trouble, but it was funny as hell. next time they came over, one of them brought his computer and set up in the living room and spent the whole night using my broadband to download porn, hes a strange guy... aaanyway, just tell him to hide it better
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Can't be much weirder than the guy I used to know that graduated this year (from HS)... he wanted to show me his grandparent's new computer so I went over there one day after school. He brought up some weird porn site involving guys sticking it in chicks ears, nose, etc.... when he started rubbing his pants I decided it was time to go and never come within 50 feet of him again :Q
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omfg ahahaha what a sicko
 
Yuck. Such a dilemma! On one hand, it's natural: testosterone will be produced, he will mature, hormones will rage, women will no longer have cooties, and his body will need to let out some steam so-to-speak. BUT I think many of us would admit that pr0n is unhealthy and at best a stop-gap measure until a satisfying physical and mental and spiritual relationship is found with a woman. Now the latter also requires time and maturity.

He should simply know that too much of anything is unhealthy and that not all women are or want to be pr0n stars.
 
i didnt see any porn until i made it to highschool away from home. the older kids locked all us preps "aka freshmen" into the tv room and made us watch hours and hours of porn. that was my rude introduction to a pointless lifetime of self gratification.
 
Keep him busy with other activities. Set a good example by not using the computer too much. Heck, sign up for a 'wholesome' pr0n site and accidentally leave it accessible. (Is there such a thing as a wholesome pr0n site 😛 especially one without links to OTHER sites.)
 
i'd just explain to him that none of it is representative of how to treat women in real life, or what to expect from his own sexual relationships. he should understand that the women he sees are pretty much universally messed up and unhappy. explain that he needs to be discreet and, er, clean, and then leave it at that.

i look at pr0n and although i view it as a vice and something i'd be better off without, i also don't think it's that big of a deal in the long run. it hasn't affected my life in any way, and i don't pay money for it. i don't "need" it or think about it when i'm not looking at it.
 
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