Moving out on your own in the US

astrosfan90

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Something interesting I've noticed. Here in the US, if you're living at home after 18, you are looked down on, considered a slacker, worthless, lazy, or some other similar thing. The rare exception is for a college student, and in that case they're seen as spoiled or mooching by many.

I moved to Argentina when I was 9 due to my father's job, and lived there for most of the rest of my life until I went to college, and still visit there regularly. While I left home for college in the US after graduating from high school and moved out to my own place in Washington DC after college (though with some help from my parents) as per the American custom, in Argentina the custom is very different.

Living at home into your late 20s is not abnormal. In fact, moving out on your own before you're married or in your late 20s is rather abnormal. While you may be bringing in your own income and helping pay the bills, you live at home, eat with your family at the dinner table (at your own discretion, of course), and socialize with your family daily. And no one looks down on you for it.

Just an observation. Is it this way elsewhere? Anyone have input on Europe or other countries in Latin America?

Cliffs: In US, people are expected to be self-sufficient by the time they are legally considered adults.
In Argentina, people are expected to (or at least quite commonly) live at home with parents until mid-20s or until married.
 

fs5

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Completely false for the bay area, CA. I'm 26 and I just moved out 6 months ago (save college). A good majority of my friends still live at home and it makes sense.

It's the norm to stay at home because 1) houses are @$%@$ expensive or 2) rent is way to high.

Also most of my friends are asian, and in asian cultures it's a given you're going to live at home until you're married.
 

Turin39789

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Originally posted by: fs5
Completely false for the bay area, CA. I'm 26 and I just moved out 6 months ago (save college). A good majority of my friends still live at home and it makes sense.

It's the norm to stay at home because 1) houses are @$%@$ expensive or 2) rent is way to high.

Also most of my friends are asian, and in asian cultures it's a given you're going to live at home until you're married.

CA is abnormal
 

WobbleWobble

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In Vancouver, Canada you simply can't afford to move out when you're 18. I know of very very few people at my age (23) who have moved out because of the huge rise in housing prices.
 

JS80

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If you have chill parents and you are saving to buy a place of your own, it is perfectly acceptable to live at home.
 

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I went to college when I was 16, never returned. College isn't really "on your own" though.
 

jammur21

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Originally posted by: Turin39789
Originally posted by: fs5
Completely false for the bay area, CA. I'm 26 and I just moved out 6 months ago (save college). A good majority of my friends still live at home and it makes sense.

It's the norm to stay at home because 1) houses are @$%@$ expensive or 2) rent is way to high.

Also most of my friends are asian, and in asian cultures it's a given you're going to live at home until you're married.

CA is abnormally cost prohibitive

Fixed
 

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Originally posted by: JS80
If you have chill parents and you are saving to buy a place of your own, it is perfectly acceptable to live at home.

Yep...it is the moochers with no job and no prospects that are looked down upon.
 

ViviTheMage

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I just turned 20 and live at home, I go to a community college and since my parents aren't paying tuition of books, they are allowing me to live at home.

I am perfectly fine with that and i don't feel like I am looked down upon either. I am saving a butt load of money!
 

ElFenix

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most other countries in the world it's super expensive to live, so it makes less sense for a family to split up unnecessarily.
 

jtvang125

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My cousin is married with 4 kids and is still living with his parents. If that isn't pathetic then I don't know what is.
 

akubi

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Originally posted by: JS80
If you have chill parents and you are saving to buy a place of your own, it is perfectly acceptable to live at home.

yes, if you live at home with a purpose like that it's smart.
if you live at home so you can spend extra bucks on other stuff, then it's selfish and stupid.

in asian countries it's the norm (especially near large cities where housing is scarce and expensive). also italy is another major example... guys living with parents well into 30s isn't rare.
 

BarneyFife

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Originally posted by: jtvang125
My cousin is married with 4 kids and is still living with his parents. If that isn't pathetic then I don't know what is.

I think its time to move out when you get married LOL

 

QurazyQuisp

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I moved out August 2005 when I was 18, haven't been back, except for winter breaks and the occasional weekend. Not because I don't want to be home, but because I want to be other places. I don't think I'll be home this summer either...
 

pontifex

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i'm surprised, usually these threads are full of people saying people who live at home (for any reason) are losers, etc. either lots of hypocrits or those people somehow magically have not seen this thread yet.
 

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Actually I believe the average age of people living at home in the US is getting higher... it's no uncommon anymore for people in their late 20s and early 20s to be living at home.

Here on Anandtech there are many who left home early and look down on others who don't do the same, but living at home for a while after college is a great way to save money when you really need to save money. There is nothing wrong with making a sound financial decision like that.
 

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I would venture to guess that in other countries it's much more common for children living at home to help contribute financially to the household.

Here in the states you rarely see kids in their late teens/early 20's paying a dime to their parents for the bills/groceries.

In other countries they are probably helping out with bills much more frequently. Just a different mentality here vs. elsewhere.
 

slsmnaz

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I was out when I turned 18 and was very happy. Like others said, it is only those who live at home because they are worthless that are looked down upon.
 

chrisms

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There is no problem with living at home. This issue came up a few days ago and the person was looked down upon because he still acted like a little kid.

If your parents want you there and you can treat them with respect then live at home as long as you need to.
 

BarneyFife

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Originally posted by: vi_edit
I would venture to guess that in other countries it's much more common for children living at home to help contribute financially to the household.

Here in the states you rarely see kids in their late teens/early 20's paying a dime to their parents for the bills/groceries.

In other countries they are probably helping out with bills much more frequently. Just a different mentality here vs. elsewhere.

It has nothing to do with grocery bills/money. Parents don't throw out their own kids into the street over there.

 

meltdown75

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If my ass wouldn't have been booted out @ 18 I would have loved to stay for at least a couple more years :p

I think it's all relative though... not necessarily routine in any specific country but it all comes down to the person's relationship with their parents and many other determining factors.
 

waggy

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nothing wrong with living at home IF you are going to school still. A friend of mine lived at home until he got his PHD (think he was 32). He helped out with bills as much as he could but with going to college full time he didn't have much.

My sister-in-law stayed at home until 30. she did not work more then part time or often. she never paid rent, or any utilities, or food. she was bossy. she tried to "mother" the other children to the point even telling my MIL that she was wrong things and saying how to do stuff.

only way they got her to move is they had to sale the house (was in foreclosure) and she got married a month latter.


 
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possibly because the economy in Argentina blows monster balls, so it's quite common for students/kids to stay at home and get themselves on their feet
 

elmro

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I agree with tall the posters that are saying more and more people are living at home. I know quite a few people who have moved back home after finishing school. It makes financial sense for them (saving up for a place), and a lot of parents actually enjoy having their kids around.

My personal experience is the opposite - I was out at 18. Besides visiting for holidays or a random weekend, I've never been back. This really is humorous to me because I am 25 now, and just got a new roommate who is 24 - who has always lived with his parents.
 

BarneyFife

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Originally posted by: IAteYourMother
possibly because the economy in Argentina blows monster balls, so it's quite common for students/kids to stay at home and get themselves on their feet

Most of my friends in college who have moved out are in big-time debt (70K) and they continue to live off of loans just so they can say they live on their own. They will be in for a rude awakening when they see how hard it is to pay off that kind of money next year plus paying for rent/expensese.