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Most likely a bad idea.

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Locke

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It's not a good idea to date a roomate right? Meh. I just moved to Seattle, and a friend and I took on a third person to look for a 3 br apt together. I didn't mind the fact that the 3rd was a female until I met her and was instantly attracted ^_^ She's interested in me as well. We've discussed things and are at a loss at whether to proceed with a relationship or not. Innately I think I know it's stupid, but I don't really go out actively searching for girlfriends, and I'm almost never instantly attracted to someone else physically and mentally. Also an odd factor is that I'm 23, she is 18. That doesn't seem to be a problem of any sort except that I usually date girls much closer to my own age. What to do, what to do.. 😕
 
Well...a lot of people will say no...but when you already live with the person...your going to know more about them...

I'd say hold off for a bit, and if your still sure that there's a solid connection...bite the bullet, take the risk, just hope you got a new place to stay if things go awry...
 
Originally posted by: Locke
Haha, well... here I am. Here she is.
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Not my type, but she's cute in her own way.

The problem with going out with her is what to do when it all goes wrong...

My suggestion: Ask MichaelD for his opinion... :beer:😉
 
Originally posted by: Locke
Haha, well... here I am. Here she is.
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wow that was fast! :beer:
alright: agedifference: doesn't matter i think if you guys have kind of the same interests (besides bed-stuff). and as you aren't in the situation of the poor guy in yesterdays thread of the day by dezign i don't see any problems.
attraction at first sight: very good thing. i love that stuff...

i would say "no"!!!! "wait"... till she gets home and then "go for it" 😉
 
It's really odd how we clicked right away. I met her the day she got here, and the next day we ran errands all over town, played some video games at the arcade etc. We've been inseparable since. One of the main issues is the "in case of a breakup" scenario. No one wants to plan that kind of thing (seems very much like a bad omen), but you want to look out for everyone's best interests. It's a tough call. I'm leaning towards "going for it" (The relationship, not necessarily sex.. depending on her ^_~ ), and she's in the middle somewhere. It is a great thing though, when you meet a girl, and sex isn't all that's on your mind :beer:😀
 
you can always get another roomate, but you can't always...find a date? 😛

just make sure you agree beforehand that if things go sour, SHE moves out. 🙂
 
Well its 4:30 where I am and my statement may sound unsypathetic and rude....

Bang her...hang out...enjoy the time together....if things start going sour...kick her out of the apartment and look for a different room-mate. Do you really want to be responsible for her feelings, considering she is young and can get attached easily. Seems you two got along great...keep it that way... why ruin it for yourself? Why think about the troubles ahead... stear clear of the impending doom and live your life. Remember, its just a room-mate... you/her is not obligated to converse or hang out.. much less date. Its your decision... but don't lead her on if you are not sure how it will end. (don't take a first step if you don't know where the path will follow)
 
It's only 1:30 here, but that made a lot of sense :beer:😀 haha, or maybe it's just what I want to hear ^_~

MillionaireNextDoor: I don't mind it!
 
You could get better..

Don't fvck your roomate. Trust me on that one. Stay away from your neighbors too....

unless, of course, you like yelling and screaming on the phone at 3am.
 
do it, not to be negative, but regardless if you do or not, it will probably end up bad. she will either leave you guys, midnight move or something to go live with girls. get some while you have the chance....
 
Originally posted by: jjsole
I'd never want to live with someone after the first date.
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wtf? heh..

It doesen't sound like he wants a one night stand guys, he says they click. Why shouldn't he go for it?

For all we know, in their relationship, being roommates could be wonderful.
 
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: jjsole I'd never want to live with someone after the first date.
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wtf? heh.. It doesen't sound like he wants a one night stand guys, he says they click. Why shouldn't he go for it? For all we know, in their relationship, being roommates could be wonderful.
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'first date' doesn't have to imply they just met.

its no different imo than going on a first date with someone you've known a little while and moving in the next day.

"what are you doing this weekend" suddenly turns into "what are we doing tonight?".

"you have a phone call, some girl." turns into "some girls on the phone, what's she want?"

if that appeals to you after a first date and you think she's cute, then you can move in after she dumps him and boots him out. There's no such thing as test driving this relationship. 😛 no way to take it slow either.
 
You seem like a nice guy asking sincere questions about a real-life girl.

My advice, get all the advice you can from these boards and keep it in the circular file until tuesday or thursday (or whenever your pick-up is). Most of us aren't nice. Nearly none of us are sincere. And certainly anyone having ANY experience with a real-life girl, from these boards would be either a BAD experience, or over when they woke-up!

One question though, why such a need to label your relationship or make it fit into a category? Let it be whatever it becomes. Stay away from sex, unless you kick the other room-mate out and get married first. Promise.
 
Originally posted by: Lovepig
You seem like a nice guy asking sincere questions about a real-life girl.

My advice, get all the advice you can from these boards and keep it in the circular file until tuesday or thursday (or whenever your pick-up is). Most of us aren't nice. Nearly none of us are sincere. And certainly anyone having ANY experience with a real-life girl, from these boards would be either a BAD experience, or over when they woke-up!

One question though, why such a need to label your relationship or make it fit into a category? Let it be whatever it becomes. Stay away from sex, unless you kick the other room-mate out and get married first. Promise.
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Wait till she goes in the bathroom and takes a big dump. Then go in after her. You will then know the correct answer.

Nothing more personal than one´s poo stink.
 
True, it's not necessary to have a label on the relationship, it's just nice to have one =) I was just interested in discussing/listening to different people's takes on the situation, and have found the responses very interesting.

Lovepig: I'm somewhat in agreement. Though I don't believe I hold the same religous(?)/moral stance you do on pre marital sex, my last relationship was the first one that included sex. It didn't do so well, and though it had it's own (many)problems aside from that, it's easy to look at it and say "Well, the sex sent the relationship downhill".

jjsole: Agreed. That would be a definate problem. Nothing like immediate over exposure to curtail a relationship.friendship.
 
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