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Moral Issue? 2 wks since ex gf, now w/ girl at work..

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Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Isn't that nice? You're banging a chick that deals drugs, probably to kids too. If you have any decency left in you, report her ass to the authorities. It's one thing if she was just snorting/smoking, dealig is another thing. Not to mention that it may get you in more trouble then you ever dreamed of.

Grow up, people like her and you make me sick.

Edit: Do you realize there is enough information in your profile to tip-off the police?
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Over-react much? This guy hasn't done anything wrong. He found a girl he likes and is even considering asking her to quit with the drugs. He porked her a few times too. So what? I don't know anyone who ever got in trouble for just doing someone who was doing something wrong.
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I am not over-reacting. Asking her to quit drugs will do squat, you would have to be really dillusional to think that she will stop just like that. However, it wasn't the fact that she was using the drugs, but dealing that pissed me off, and the fact how matteroffactly he takled about it. He may have done nothing wrong, I wouldn't know, but should he stick with her, it will certainly lead him down the path of major pain.

I am a father of two little children and as a responsible parent feel rather strongly about drugs. How would you feel if your son was dating a drug dealer or you knew your daughter was one? Would you let your children hang out with her? Would you sit idly and do nothing while knowing that some kid may score drugs in your local Best Buy?
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I want to come sell drugs in your town just to piss you off. Really I do. Nothing would make me happier.
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Hey, come on down I am in Louisville, KY and in the phone book. Feel free to come over and try to bitchslap me too. Don't plan on going back home tho..
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Why would I want to bitchslap you? Evidently your wife does that enough. Secondly, you are such a pussified and terrible parent. If your kids did drugs you would blame the dealer. Never could it be your bad parenting or the kid could it? Only the dealer is at fault. You are exactly why I hate reading topics like this. Someone always posts with an attitude and they have had their balls snipped by wifey or something else. Then they expect you to agree with them.
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Come back when you're out of High School nimrod
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And do this world a favor, don't procriate.
 
Seventyseven (I'm not too good at that L33T typing BS...)

I'll be brief.

Run.

OK, not so brief. 😉 You probably don't realize it b/c you sound pretty young, but this drug chick is probably high during every waking hour. She's "so nice and has such a great personality" b/c she's walking around talking to Jesus all day. I.E. Stoned out of her gourd.

Anyone that's dealing drugs is doing so to support his/her own habit. Which translates to "she has a bigass drug problem."

This is the kind of girl that will suddenly ask you to start driving her all over town to "visit friends." Then, when you get pulled over for some reason, she shove the big Ziplock bag full of XYZX under your front seat and tell the cops "it's not mine and I don't know who this guy is."

She'll hang you out to dry, buddy. Besides that, (it's been a long time since I associated with any) but I've never met a woman that did "lots of drugs" and didn't whore around constantly. Drugs and sex go hand-in-hand and unless you want to deal w/that crap, I suggest you look elsewhere. It's also just a matter of time before she rips off whomever she buys this sh1t from and they come looking for her...and whoever's w/her at that moment is gonna get whacked too.

Aside from that, WHEN she gets busted for/with drugs at work and you're her BF, you'll both get fired and probably arrested. She keeps the drugs in her locker at work and wouldn't think twice about stashing them in YOUR locker if it would get/keep herself out of hot water.

You sound like a decent, but confused young man. I hope you make the right decision on this one.

I speak from experience, BTW. I was you, many years ago.
 
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Isn't that nice? You're banging a chick that deals drugs, probably to kids too. If you have any decency left in you, report her ass to the authorities. It's one thing if she was just snorting/smoking, dealig is another thing. Not to mention that it may get you in more trouble then you ever dreamed of.

Grow up, people like her and you make me sick.

Edit: Do you realize there is enough information in your profile to tip-off the police?
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Over-react much? This guy hasn't done anything wrong. He found a girl he likes and is even considering asking her to quit with the drugs. He porked her a few times too. So what? I don't know anyone who ever got in trouble for just doing someone who was doing something wrong.
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I am not over-reacting. Asking her to quit drugs will do squat, you would have to be really dillusional to think that she will stop just like that. However, it wasn't the fact that she was using the drugs, but dealing that pissed me off, and the fact how matteroffactly he takled about it. He may have done nothing wrong, I wouldn't know, but should he stick with her, it will certainly lead him down the path of major pain.

I am a father of two little children and as a responsible parent feel rather strongly about drugs. How would you feel if your son was dating a drug dealer or you knew your daughter was one? Would you let your children hang out with her? Would you sit idly and do nothing while knowing that some kid may score drugs in your local Best Buy?
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I want to come sell drugs in your town just to piss you off. Really I do. Nothing would make me happier.
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Hey, come on down I am in Louisville, KY and in the phone book. Feel free to come over and try to bitchslap me too. Don't plan on going back home tho..
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Why would I want to bitchslap you? Evidently your wife does that enough. Secondly, you are such a pussified and terrible parent. If your kids did drugs you would blame the dealer. Never could it be your bad parenting or the kid could it? Only the dealer is at fault. You are exactly why I hate reading topics like this. Someone always posts with an attitude and they have had their balls snipped by wifey or something else. Then they expect you to agree with them.
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Come back when you're out of High School nimrod
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And do this world a favor, don't procriate.
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Shut up now. Your poorly reasoned rhetoric and weak spelling are letting you down badly.
 
Has noone even considered that this is why BestBuy sucks? Their employees are tripping all day.

Seriously though, I could go on and on about the girls I've met in your type of situation. The most beautiful girl I ever knew is now turning tricks for "everything that needs not be injected". This IS (not "maybe is") the path that your "F" buddy is currently on. If she isn't addicted now (which I bet she is), she will be very soon.

You are going to have to get your mind right. If you are serious about not being with her, then just do it and quit pussyfooting around it. Just be upfront with her and explain that you have issues with the things she does. Tell her that if she wants to clean up, that's her decision, and hers alone. She deserves the truth. Maybe a year from now if she has her sh1t together, you two can hook up again.

And if I were you, I would have quit BestBuy by now. If you stay there, temptation will get the better of you. There are much better places to work with your skills part-time. Hell, volunteer your technical skills at a school or something and get your mind (both brains) off of these two girls.

I hope you take heed to most of the advice here. Good luck.


Millenium and Anymal: You both have seemed like good guys in the past, so wtf is going on now. Your little arguement makes no sense. It should either stop or be held via PM's. Now both of you go sit in the corner and don't make Daddy get his belt.

 
Please remind yourself that you don't own her. Hopefully this sudden wisdom doesn't occur to you that you can ask her to stop doing other things as well--since she opened up the door to be told what to do.
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Where did you make the logical leap between "asking" and "telling her what to do?"
This weekend I ASKED my girlfriend to spend the weekend with me at the beach instead of going elsewhere for a drinking fest. If she didn't want to come with me to the beach she would have said "No thanks."

If my gf was doing something that I didn't like and offered to stop doing that something, and I took her up on that offer, how am I telling her what to do?

As for 77 just tell her that you don't think it's a good idea to continue boinking her....
 
Don't let these other guys tell you what to do. Keep seeing her if you really like her. Just talk to her about the things that you're worried about. I'd be kinda scared of the dealing thing.
 
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Originally posted by: Millennium
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Originally posted by: silverpig
Originally posted by: AnyMal
Isn't that nice? You're banging a chick that deals drugs, probably to kids too. If you have any decency left in you, report her ass to the authorities. It's one thing if she was just snorting/smoking, dealig is another thing. Not to mention that it may get you in more trouble then you ever dreamed of.

Grow up, people like her and you make me sick.

Edit: Do you realize there is enough information in your profile to tip-off the police?
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Over-react much? This guy hasn't done anything wrong. He found a girl he likes and is even considering asking her to quit with the drugs. He porked her a few times too. So what? I don't know anyone who ever got in trouble for just doing someone who was doing something wrong.
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I am not over-reacting. Asking her to quit drugs will do squat, you would have to be really dillusional to think that she will stop just like that. However, it wasn't the fact that she was using the drugs, but dealing that pissed me off, and the fact how matteroffactly he takled about it. He may have done nothing wrong, I wouldn't know, but should he stick with her, it will certainly lead him down the path of major pain.

I am a father of two little children and as a responsible parent feel rather strongly about drugs. How would you feel if your son was dating a drug dealer or you knew your daughter was one? Would you let your children hang out with her? Would you sit idly and do nothing while knowing that some kid may score drugs in your local Best Buy?
Click to expand...

I want to come sell drugs in your town just to piss you off. Really I do. Nothing would make me happier.
Click to expand...

Hey, come on down I am in Louisville, KY and in the phone book. Feel free to come over and try to bitchslap me too. Don't plan on going back home tho..
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Why would I want to bitchslap you? Evidently your wife does that enough. Secondly, you are such a pussified and terrible parent. If your kids did drugs you would blame the dealer. Never could it be your bad parenting or the kid could it? Only the dealer is at fault. You are exactly why I hate reading topics like this. Someone always posts with an attitude and they have had their balls snipped by wifey or something else. Then they expect you to agree with them.
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Wow. I actually agree with you on something.
 
Originally posted by: Kiyup
Originally posted by: fastz28
Help her get off drugs.
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Yea, make this girls problem yours. It will be WELL worth it.
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se7enty7, you need to walk away and stop being a loser magnet
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What's so hard about talking to her into counseling? Getting into rehab? Maybe she's reaching out for help? You don't have to stay with her, just get her some help. What would you do if she's your friend. I guess you just leave your friends in their time of need.
 
hahaha, you worried about "not putting your foot down" with your ex, but you'll get together with someone dealing and accept it???

trust me, you DON'T want her "to be her", just like you didn't want your ex "to be her" and cheat on you.

go out with a dealer and she'll get you both spending time locked up. She quits dealing, or you leave imo. Its not about her, its about your conditions/criteria for her being with you. She meets them, cool, she doesn't want to meet them or can't, you're better off elsewhere.

You have know idea how little the cops or da's will care about you when she gets busted and they take you both in because you were with her at the time.
 
/dips toe into thread and snatches it out a split second before the sharks bite it off

OK, I'm not even going to throw more fuel on the fire. BUT, I will say this:

Her dealing isn't necessarily a bad thing (i.e. you have a hook-up). 😀.

But, I'd steer clear of being involved with her other than as a co-worker/friend/occasional customer. If you hooked up with her, that would probably be an incredible can of worms, since she's a co-worker and she might try to set you up for a fall if she gets the heat on her for dealing. If you find a new job or something, I'd still keep her at arm's length until you know her a LOT better.

If you do get involved with her as a friend/customer, KEEP IT OUT OF THE WORKPLACE. I can't stress this enough. The last thing you need to do is get nailed for buying/selling at work or coming to work high.

This whole thing about her saying she'd change for you sounds like BS. You don't know her that well, so I would just back off on that.

In any case, good luck with her and I hope you play it safe. 😀


 
In my experience in life, women who do drugs will screw try to screw up your life something awful.

Get away from her, now.

And go get checked for VD, no telling where that druggie girl's been.
 
Originally posted by: se7enty7
Okay..

I was going out with this fine ass chick. She was fvcking hot.

She cheated on me twice. I was ALWAYS the best b/f she could have..
I really think I was too nice. I think if I put my foot down more often, and did not -act-
like I liked her so much (not so much attention) it might not have happened..

anywho..
she cheated on me, twice.. (long long story) ended up breaking up about 3 or 4 weeks afterwards (about 2 wks ago..)

SO. I work 40-50 hrs a week as a systems tech at a company in atlanta. I work 6 hours a week at best buy (1/2 for the social life, 1/2 for the discount..) as a tech.

So there's this girl that works in customer service at best buy.. 'Rebecca'.. and she has flirted with me here and there for about 5 or 6 months (since I started there..) So now that 'Melissa' (ex gf that cheated on me) are not going out, 'Rebecca' and I have been getting really super close really quickly.

I ended up finding she is HEAVY into drugs. not just using them, but dealing them as well. I, have not done anything past weed (and that only once or twice).. She has done 'everything that doesn't need to be injected'

I'm not sure.. where I stand.. I'm somewhat against heavy drugs, but she's a really.. nice.. person. We've actually been really close .. we've had sex twice. From what we've talked about I don't need to worry about std's, nor pregnancy.


Any suggestions? She's not really super good looking.. she's okay.. probably a 6 or 7 out of 10.. which I don't really judge people on too well (but I think I've been spoiled by 'Melissa') But 'Rebecca' has the BEST personality of any girl I've met. I talked to her a bit about drug use, etc. and she offered to back off of it, but I told her I wanted her to be her. She said she could be her without doing that stuff. I just don't know. Is it wrong to ask that of her?

Pursue a relationship or back off a bit?
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Let me help you here: It's ok to judge people, ok? The reason why you feel you don't want to be pushing the issue is because you don't want to come across like you're judging her. That's just the PC world we live in now. But you know what, you need to judge her by her actions, you need to decide what's important in your life and then act on it - even if that means mandating she gets off drugs for you guys to get serious.

I know a lot of people on this board would say "don't cast stones" and "let her be herself" (you included), but that's horse-pockey if it is an issue that's important to you and you want it resolved before taking the next step. Now if you truly don't care that she's snorting, then be prepared for the dark side of her use, you won't be able to escape it, unless you totally break off from her.
 
Your rating of her as a 6 or 7, plus your rebound situation, makes it pretty clear this relationship isn't going to go anywhere. Lots of the previous posters make a huge thing about her drug usage/dealing, reading between the lines I'm guessing she's a recreational pot user who buys in bulk. If so, I wouldn't necessarily hold it against her-but if the situation makes either of you uncomfortable, then its time to end it. I certainly wouldn't ask her to change for you-its pretty clear the relationship isn't going to go anywhere, no reason to pull that powerplay. If she wants to change, it should be her decision based on her life. If you are meant to be together, people do change.

I think you should really have a heart to heart with her. I mean you had sex twice together, can't you share your thoughts and feelings together?
 
hmmm let's see all the mistakes....

1) working 40-50hours a week and saying you want to work another 6 at Best Buy for the Social Life and Discount...yet you had a g/f that was totally hot?!? hmmm sounds like just a matter of them not paying you well at your real job. WTF is the long story, it's a short one, you ignored your girl, she got action elsewhere. case closed
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2) we had sex twice, she is a user/dealer: hmmm so soon into your relationship she is willing to turn her life around?!? sounds like you are pressuring her and she is feeding you what you need to get by. also it's not your call to 'change' her, accept her or move on.

Most of the drug chicks I have met/dated/whatever are pretty quick to the bedroom and sort of stay there using the drugs to make the sex more intense...chances are she has other b/f's that you don't know about.

Chances are anyone who's taking a job at a Best Buy for the social life/discount is going to have a hard time finding a girlfriend...are you sure Melissa wasn't hit with the runt puppy syndrome?
 
I think you should stay with the druggie girl.
You will make an excellent co-dependant! You are off to a good start .
 
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