Moral Dilemma

[Krazy4Real]

I hope your wife doesn't consider her a friend anymore after screwing you guys over like that.

 

[CPA]

Originally posted by: Krazy4Real
I hope your wife doesn't consider her a friend anymore after screwing you guys over like that.

My wife has pretty much cut ties with her. However, my wife only show's her disgust and anger when I do something wrong. She doesn't usually show it to other people.

 

[T9D]

She knew she had a court date. She ran. She thinks it will all go away if she buries her head in the sand.

The government will get her and find her. Tell them that she took off and doesn't live there. Eventually she will have a mailing address again. When you get it, take her to court and make her pay. For now I'd just stop all the hassle and move on. She'll get whats coming to her.

 

[nakedfrog]

I'd probably just call the court.
We actually had a similar situation, but I drew the line at ever letting her borrow one of our cars.

 

[PingSpike]

When you send that pile of mail in the manilla envelope to her, make sure you fart in the envelope before you close it up.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: CPA

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2

Originally posted by: edro
So is your insurance co going to charge you the full cost of repair to your truck?

No, his deductible is what it is. However his insurance policy will be paying for everyone else's car repairs too and his rates will probably skyrocket.

What a pain.

so far, they haven't. Allstate has "Accident Forgiveness", so i'm keeping my fingers crossed they won't. My agent has stated they won't, but I'm not 100% convinced yet.

Huh, I'm with Allstate too, but I was told you had to actually enroll in accident forgiveness...I didn't think it was automatic. That's pretty awesome if you get saved by that...but then it sucks because you won't have it for the next five or-so years probably.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

okay, now my dilemma: My nice guy persona is having a battle with my bad dude persona. I'm not exactly sure where she lives, and I don't believe I have any legal obligation to get it to her, but should I try to contact her and let her know of the warrant? Should I call the court to let them know she doesn't live here any longer? Should I not do anything and keep my fingers crossed that she gets arrested?

This is a bit counter intuitive, but if you are accepting her mail, rather than marking it 'wrong address' then I'd say you've got some obligation to let her know that she has mail piling up at your house. If I were in your shoes, I would do two things:
1) start refusing her mail immediately
2) call this woman and ask her what her address is

If you can't reach her, then I would return the mail to the post office and be done with it.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: CPA
...should I try to contact her and let her know of the warrant? Should I call the court to let them know she doesn't live here any longer? Should I not do anything and keep my fingers crossed that she gets arrested?

1. no - she crossed the line from friend to 'loser' when she took advantage of your generosity

2. either way - not sure which way helps her, so i dunno. not sure this one matters other than they might stop bugging you and they might send a deputy/officer to your house looking for her

3. i would do the thing of least effort, she made her bed, now she can sleep in it.

 

[sixone]

There is no moral dilemma here. You are not obligated to let her lie, cheat, and steal from you. You take all available steps allowed to you by law, including notifying the court where she's likely to be found. The more certainty of her whereabouts, the better, so do your homework first.

 

[Joemonkey]

Originally posted by: CPA

Originally posted by: Krazy4Real
I hope your wife doesn't consider her a friend anymore after screwing you guys over like that.

My wife has pretty much cut ties with her. However, my wife only show's her disgust and anger when I do something wrong. She doesn't usually show it to other people.

I bet you'll get more responses if you post pics of your wife showing her "disgust and anger"

that is your nickname for "the twins" right?

 

[EKKC]

find out where she lives. call the local cops there and have her arrested.

unless she's a real good friend of the family. then i would find another way to resolve this.

sorry about the crap you had to go through when you could've avoided it all by not being nice in the first place. i hate that.

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: Joemonkey

Originally posted by: CPA

Originally posted by: Krazy4Real
I hope your wife doesn't consider her a friend anymore after screwing you guys over like that.

My wife has pretty much cut ties with her. However, my wife only show's her disgust and anger when I do something wrong. She doesn't usually show it to other people.

I bet you'll get more responses if you post pics of your wife showing her "disgust and anger"

that is your nickname for "the twins" right?

can I see the twins? i've never seen twins before, are they identical or fraternal?

 

[Mo0o]

Always tricky when deadbeat friends need money

 

[alkemyst]

damn, man that really sucks.

I thought this was going to be a funny thread at first....hopefully it works out in the end for you.

I don't know how these kinds of people make it through life. Dude at work is going through a tax issue because he paid alimony and his wife didn't report it. Luckily it was all by checks so he should come out ok.

 

[NikolaeVarius]

The fastest way to lose a friend is to live with one for a extended period of time

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: SpunkyJones
I would tell the court where she lives and to stop sending crap to me, but not tell her about the warrant. But thats just the dick head in me.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: CPA
Reader's Digest Version:

- Last August, we took in my wife's best friend and her two kids when she abruptly left her husband. They had just moved to Chicago (from Houston) for his new job. She came back with the kids and moved in with us.

- Until December, we did not charge her any rent, utilities or groceries.

- December, we charged her $100 every two weeks.

- December 18th, she is involved in a serious accident while using our truck. Two others are involved. She insists it is not her fault and tells me she has a witness to support her. However, she gets a ticket [for no insurance (I have it, it just wasn't in the car) and having our truck in a lane while she was stopped to the side of the road), as well as one of the other drivers. She pays $100 for our rental (covers the cost). Following week, she sends her kids to Chicago to be with their dad. The hassle of all this pisses me off, but I realize it's not the end of the world.

- January - Truck gets fixed, but we have to fork over $1000 for our deductible. Truck is not the same, of course. My wife tells her she expects her to pick up the cost. She agrees.

- Her court date for her ticket rolls around. She previously tells us that she will being going to court to fight the ticket. Instead, she packs up her stuff and moves back to Chicago. Idiot does NOT give Post Office a forwarding address. We start receiving all kinds of mail for her and her husband. It's currently in a manilla envelope.

- Find out from the insurance company that what she told them and what she told me are quit different. In fact, she ADMITS that she believes SHE WAS AT FAULT for the accident! Insurance agency informs me that my policy will be found at fault (no final verdict has been rendered yet). I am beyond pissed!

- Couple weeks later, court sends her a notice that she missed her court date and requests her to call to reschedule. We received the notice at our house.

- Wife texts her about her about the $1000 deductible. The bitch tells her "Fine, I will pay $100 a month starting this month, I didn't think I would have to pay it all." WTF?

- As of today - We haven't received a dime (and I don't expect to). We DID, however, recieve in the mail a notice from the court telling her a warrant has been issued for her arrest. hahahahaha......

okay, now my dilemma: My nice guy persona is having a battle with my bad dude persona. I'm not exactly sure where she lives, and I don't believe I have any legal obligation to get it to her, but should I try to contact her and let her know of the warrant? Should I call the court to let them know she doesn't live here any longer? Should I not do anything and keep my fingers crossed that she gets arrested?

this was your wife's best friend?

jesus.. you seem like a guy w/good sense. i bet your wife does too since u chose her.

so how does your wife pick such a flake as a best friend?

and no, dont tell her. let them arrest the bitch

 

[olds]

Someone's got to ask it:
Were you tapping it?
:laugh:

 

[sonambulo]

Originally posted by: SpunkyJones
I would tell the court where she lives and to stop sending crap to me, but not tell her about the warrant. But thats just the dick head in me.

Right answer. I'd also notify the post office and local police department that she has moved and give them the most recent contact info she gave you as well as all of her mail. You're never going to see any of your money so make sure she gets her just desserts.

 

[CPA]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Someone's got to ask it:
Were you tapping it?
:laugh:

Oh, God no, and only because it wasn't something I would tap. But........someone else did, because she also got pregnant in December. That's right, while she was working to get back with her husband (ie, sending the kids up to Chicago, discussing the situation with us, visiting with him and her parents around Christmas), she informs everyone that she is pregnant with some other dudes baby! She ended up getting it aborted a couple weeks later. Not to make this an abortion thread, but that didn't sit with me well either.


Oh, and UPDATE: Wife left a message with the courts that she no longer lives at our address. The other mail we will probably drop back to the PO next week. We're not exactly sure of her new address, though.

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: SpunkyJones
I would tell the court where she lives and to stop sending crap to me, but not tell her about the warrant. But thats just the dick head in me.

Might wanna rephrase that :laugh: