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[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: OrByte
sounds like you need to talk to someone about that guilt you have.

If you feel like it was a mistake then nothing anyone here is going to change that. Let this guy know and stop doing something that you feel is destructive.

then get some help. You shouldnt be feeling so guilty over somethng like secs.

I feel bad because I don't want to hurt him. Feelings change, but that does not make it fair to him. Perhaps I should just stop caring how other people feel.

 

[MainFramed]

Originally posted by: PimpJuice

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Now I am having second thoughts. I think I ruined the possible relationship by allowing us to move so fast. It's only been a week though. But I am starting to feel like it's probably not gonna work. Should I just end it, or ignore those feelings and see where things go?

make your own damn decision. You havent given enough information for anybody to help you out. The only advice I can give from the above is stop being a slut.

well spokeen from mr. pimp juice lol

 

[Quasmo]

Originally posted by: DainBramaged

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

Well that cleared things up.

My current gf and I had sexual relations on our first date, we've been together 3 months now.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Quasmo

Originally posted by: DainBramaged

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

Well that cleared things up.

My current gf and I had sexual relations on our first date, we've been together 3 months now.

Yes, and my ex and I, who dated for 3 years, had three orgasms a piece the first day I went to meet him at his house.
I dont understand why it matters now, but it does.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Quasmo

Originally posted by: DainBramaged

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Ryan
Moved too fast...how?

We had sexual relations without really getting to know each other first.

Well that cleared things up.

My current gf and I had sexual relations on our first date, we've been together 3 months now.

Yes, and my ex and I, who dated for 3 years, had three orgasms a piece the first day I went to meet him at his house.
I dont understand why it matters now, but it does.

stop being such a drama queen about it will ya?

 

[DaShen]

We all know you are gay... we don't care. Stop posting about how you are gay and you have these relationship questions. It is just as bad as the kids continually posting YAGT and asking advice when they dont need it.

It isn't like we can give any advice you will listen to. Stop attention whoring.

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: OrByte
sounds like you need to talk to someone about that guilt you have.

If you feel like it was a mistake then nothing anyone here is going to change that. Let this guy know and stop doing something that you feel is destructive.

then get some help. You shouldnt be feeling so guilty over somethng like secs.

I feel bad because I don't want to hurt him. Feelings change, but that does not make it fair to him. Perhaps I should just stop caring how other people feel.

Bullsh1t. If you didn't want to hurt him, you wouldn't get it on with him in the first place. Sounds to me like you're pitying yourself for being "stuck" with another person who you have no desire to be with, yet had no problem using them when an opportunity presented itself.

Stop being a drama queen and get over yourself.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: DaShen
We all know you are gay... we don't care. Stop posting about how you are gay and you have these relationship questions. It is just as bad as the kids continually posting YAGT and asking advice when they dont need it.

It isn't like we can give any advice you will listen to. Stop attention whoring.

In all actuality, I have listened to alot of advice people have given me on AT.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Now I am having second thoughts. I think I ruined the possible relationship by allowing us to move so fast. It's only been a week though. But I am starting to feel like it's probably not gonna work. Should I just end it, or ignore those feelings and see where things go?

Well, if you were smoking after sex, you were definitely moving too fast...

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: AnyMal

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: OrByte
sounds like you need to talk to someone about that guilt you have.

If you feel like it was a mistake then nothing anyone here is going to change that. Let this guy know and stop doing something that you feel is destructive.

then get some help. You shouldnt be feeling so guilty over somethng like secs.

I feel bad because I don't want to hurt him. Feelings change, but that does not make it fair to him. Perhaps I should just stop caring how other people feel.

Bullsh1t. If you didn't want to hurt him, you wouldn't get it on with him in the first place. Sounds to me like you're pitying yourself for being "stuck" with another person who you have no desire to be with, yet had no problem using them when an opportunity presented itself.

Stop being a drama queen and get over yourself.

That makes no sense. I am not stuck, nor do I pity myself.
I decided, with advice from a few people here through posts and PMs, what I should do not too long after I posted this thread. Everything else so far has just been replies to things people have posted.
You upped your post count, now you can leave.

 

[HBalzer]

Zysoclaplem have you ever been with a woman?

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: HBalzer
Zysoclaplem have you ever been with a woman?

If you mean sexually, no I have not.

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: AnyMal

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: OrByte
sounds like you need to talk to someone about that guilt you have.

If you feel like it was a mistake then nothing anyone here is going to change that. Let this guy know and stop doing something that you feel is destructive.

then get some help. You shouldnt be feeling so guilty over somethng like secs.

I feel bad because I don't want to hurt him. Feelings change, but that does not make it fair to him. Perhaps I should just stop caring how other people feel.

Bullsh1t. If you didn't want to hurt him, you wouldn't get it on with him in the first place. Sounds to me like you're pitying yourself for being "stuck" with another person who you have no desire to be with, yet had no problem using them when an opportunity presented itself.

Stop being a drama queen and get over yourself.

That makes no sense. I am not stuck, nor do I pity myself.
I decided, with advice from a few people here through posts and PMs, what I should do not too long after I posted this thread. Everything else so far has just been replies to things people have posted.
You upped your post count, now you can leave.

If you require advice from strangers for every move you make, perhaps you should reconsider getting into relationships in the first place.

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: HBalzer
Zysoclaplem have you ever been with a woman?

If you mean sexually, no I have not.

Few questions if you don't mind.

So were you always just attracted to men? What age did you realize it? and Women never do anything for you?

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: AnyMal

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: AnyMal

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: OrByte
sounds like you need to talk to someone about that guilt you have.

If you feel like it was a mistake then nothing anyone here is going to change that. Let this guy know and stop doing something that you feel is destructive.

then get some help. You shouldnt be feeling so guilty over somethng like secs.

I feel bad because I don't want to hurt him. Feelings change, but that does not make it fair to him. Perhaps I should just stop caring how other people feel.

Bullsh1t. If you didn't want to hurt him, you wouldn't get it on with him in the first place. Sounds to me like you're pitying yourself for being "stuck" with another person who you have no desire to be with, yet had no problem using them when an opportunity presented itself.

Stop being a drama queen and get over yourself.

That makes no sense. I am not stuck, nor do I pity myself.
I decided, with advice from a few people here through posts and PMs, what I should do not too long after I posted this thread. Everything else so far has just been replies to things people have posted.
You upped your post count, now you can leave.

If you require advice from strangers for every move you make, perhaps you should reconsider getting into relationships in the first place.

Strangers are more likely to tell you exactly how they feel than those that who do not want to hurt your feelings with the truth. I have found that many people here have alot of wisdom to share. Similiar situations, if not the same. I do not post about every move I make. In fact, I have been posting less and less as of lately.

 

[OrByte]

so you feel bad that you used the guy? I am curious because you mentioned before that you are afraid of how he is going to feel.

so what are you going to do?

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: DaShen
We all know you are gay... we don't care. Stop posting about how you are gay and you have these relationship questions. It is just as bad as the kids continually posting YAGT and asking advice when they dont need it.

It isn't like we can give any advice you will listen to. Stop attention whoring.

In all actuality, I have listened to alot of advice people have given me on AT.

Errrgg, now that is awkward. Nevermind, I am just in a bad mood. I had to work this weekend and now there is a lot of stuff I am backed up on.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: HBalzer
Zysoclaplem have you ever been with a woman?

If you mean sexually, no I have not.

Few questions if you don't mind.

So were you always just attracted to men? What age did you realize it? and Women never do anything for you?

I became attracted to men when I was about 12 or so. Of course then I did not realize that it was any different that what other boys felt and so I accepted it as who I was. That has never changed as I have never attempted to hide who I am to please others. Nor do I really care when other call me names or generally dislike me due to my sexual orientation. It is, after all, such a small part of who I am.
And I have never been sexually attracted to females. I have 0 desire to have sex with them.

 

[Xylitol]

If you already slept with him - he's just a booty call

 

[Accipiter22]

are all these guilt threads you start about guys part of some underlying issue? A lot of homosexuals in American society are confronted with incredible feelings of guilt and have trouble maintaining relationships because of the guilt they feel for being 'outsiders' so to speak.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Xylitol
If you already slept with him - he's just a booty call

No, because I care about him. Or else I would not have any issues with leaving.
I talked to him, and we are gonna slow it down.
Just hang out for now. More than friends, less than dating. If there is an in between.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Accipiter22
are all these guilt threads you start about guys part of some underlying issue? A lot of homosexuals in American society are confronted with incredible feelings of guilt and have trouble maintaining relationships because of the guilt they feel for being 'outsiders' so to speak.

No, I have a problem with hurting people. I don't like to do it. I feel bad for people. And I do not want to be the cause of it. Perhaps I am just a nice guy?