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PCResources

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I would take it as an invitation to give her a big kiss... but hey, i would take anything as an invitation...

If she wants him, take him to the hotel and give him... champagne and strawberries...

No, wait, that is for the girls... give him tequila and hot sex... works every time...

Patrick
 

Stallion

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If they already have some plans worked out it may look like she is a little to eager to see him. He also might be embaresed as he might like to fly in some baggy sweats or scrubs and he then might feel like he hasn't had the time to freshen up.

How about she find out what hotel he is staying at and have a bottle of wine/beer and some food/snacks/fruit dilivered to his room when he gets there. He might be tired and hungry and want to freshen up before he meets her.
 

HansHurt

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I agree w/ Stallion. I know I wouldn't want to be surprised; what if I had a bad outfit on or the hair was messed. Personally, I have always been turned off by a woman that pursues me; it give the impression of being desperate. As they say it's the "thrill of the hunt, not the kill"..same is true in courtship IMO. What's the fun in having the hunted simply surrender before the hunt even begins? The game is important, even though it may have been played in online converstaions, it has not been practiced in person. At least give the illusion of this, even if it is compressed into a very short period of time. Recieving gifts is also a little strange for a man, it has a feeling of role reversal about it, and may be slightly emasculating in a way. He is then forced to provide an "appropriate" emotional response to the gift, which may be uncomfortable. I think just having the opportunity to engage in potential romance w/ a female is good enough for the man in most cases. Allow for the traditional approach of the male pursuing the female scenario, even if it is somewhat staged.

Of course this is just my opinion based on my own experience. It all depends on the guy, and the nature of the online relationship they have created.
 

gittyup

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Guys, would you want to be surprised? If you were surprised, would you care if she brought flowers or something?

I wouldn't mind being surprised at the airport by a female friend. But no flowers, please. Also, is there any chance that this guy may have some other female freind meeting him at the airport? Now, that would be a surprise..:D
 

yasha

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My girlfriend of 5 years ago, gave me flowers one time. They came in handy when I went to see my mistress later that night :p
 

metallibloke

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If this guy was a decent man, then he wouldnt mind getting a single flower. Ok he might say to himself "gees, i hate flowers, now i gotta water the damn thing", but to her he should say "hey great, thanks a lot!!". At least thats what I would do.

If they like each other enough (i dont mean in a lovey-dovey sort of way) to meet each other, then she could give him sh!t surprise and he should still smile and say thankyou.
 

kami

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Surprise is okay, but no flowers! As someone else said, bring a stick of RAM or something instead. Or maybe an AXIA T-Bird...he'd probably get on one knee and propose on the spot. I know I would. ;)

Surprising is only okay if they are really comfortable with each other...oh yeah, and please tell me they have seen pics of each other?! If the guy is the nervous type and she does this, he might seem like a different person when they first meet. He might need some time to grow some balls if you know what I mean. It all depends on the relationship...need more details. :p
 

Urinal Mint

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I wouldn't see a problem with getting a single flower... a whole bouquet might make me feel a little squirrelly, though. If a chick gave me a rose or some cool flower, I wouldn't have any issues with it.

No, I'm not gay either. Just willing to roll with the punches a little, that's all :D
 

WordSmith2000

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There are two sides to this situation:

The man: I would want her to meet me at the airport?if she looked like a complete loser, I could ditch her before I got to my hotel. If we met at the hotel, then I would have to change hotels after ditching her.

The woman: I would want to meet him at the airport?if he looked like a complete loser, I could ditch him before he got to his hotel. If I met him at the hotel and he is a complete loser, he may spike my drink or something and I will do something that I?ll regret later. I am also not partial to having a psycho take me up to his room and dismembering me.
 

tigerwannabe

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well, i think the surprise thing is nice. and if they do kinda like each other, a flower or flowers is fine. if they've been talking that long, then they know each other fairly well. tell your buddy to go with her gut feeling & be confident. everything will turn out fine :)
 

raven82

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<< She would get a better &quot;response&quot; from him if she wore a trenchcoat w/ nothing underneath. :D >>



unless he's gay.
 

Tauren

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My mother brought over flowers for my last birthday and I thought it was nice. They add a nice touch to any room.
 

tkdkid

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I'd have to say for the first meeting definitely do not surprise him at the airport.

He most likely has his own plans to get ready for the dinner and at least attempt to make a good impression. Meeting at the airport would be a little weird.

Not only because of the surprise, but also, he's going to be busy at the airport. Moving through the crowded halls to get luggage...etc. you get the idea.
 

obiwaynekenobi

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I wouldn't mind it most of the time. unless I had other ultior motives. like stopping to Get The Other persona a little something etc.
 

Barrak

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Is she interested with him romaticly or is he just a friend? If she gives a flower he will think she wants him. Make sure she just gives a single flower, dont go get a dozen.