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I'm engaged to a beautiful Indian woman, but I'm American (German descent). Many of my friends are Indian, and many are from different Indian states, so I might have a little insight.

All of my Indian friends had an "arranged" marriage. Most people think it just means that the parents choose, but this isn't the case. The parents might present a man based on caste, education, etc. If the daughter finds him agreeable, they'll "date." That dating might consist of a few conversations on the phone or a few in-person conversations. Sometimes the entire family meets the family of the man. If all is well, they announce the engagement and go on witih the formal process. That could happen in as little as a few days.

So, for the women that remain in India, I don't believe there is a lot of casual dating involved, especially not among certain castes (most notably Brahmin). Indians born in America (sometimes called ABCD -- American Born Confused Desi) typically date without issue in my experience, but you still experience the family opposition if you choose to take it to the next step.

In summary, I wouldn't look forward to much dating unless you find some really liberal Indians. I don't know of any; however, Indian women are a great catch as far as I'm concerned. They tend to be intelligent, loyal, caring, gentle, etc. people. You simply don't have the drama and immature nonsense that you get with so many younger American women.

IMO.
 
Originally posted by: Robor
Parminder Nagra is a goddess. I know that has nothing to do with this thread but she's just gorgeous.
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She's cute, but there are far more beautiful Indian women. I think Asin is very pretty, but if you go through that list you'll find a lot more.
 
I agree with Descartes. In India, in most parts, "liberal" arranged marriage is how its done. Parents introduce, they date, and they go further if they like each other. If they don't, onto the next man/woman.
 
I found myself an indian girl here in the good ol USA. And yes her parents are incredibly liberal and I respect them for that. Whats funny is her parents aren't college educated but they have the brains to understand their daughter is going to be with who she loves no matter what color their skin is. While most well educated indian families are the least tolerant. Kinda ironic.
 
Originally posted by: Descartes
I'm engaged to a beautiful Indian woman, but I'm American (German descent). Many of my friends are Indian, and many are from different Indian states, so I might have a little insight.

All of my Indian friends had an "arranged" marriage. Most people think it just means that the parents choose, but this isn't the case. The parents might present a man based on caste, education, etc. If the daughter finds him agreeable, they'll "date." That dating might consist of a few conversations on the phone or a few in-person conversations. Sometimes the entire family meets the family of the man. If all is well, they announce the engagement and go on witih the formal process. That could happen in as little as a few days.

So, for the women that remain in India, I don't believe there is a lot of casual dating involved, especially not among certain castes (most notably Brahmin). Indians born in America (sometimes called ABCD -- American Born Confused Desi) typically date without issue in my experience, but you still experience the family opposition if you choose to take it to the next step.

In summary, I wouldn't look forward to much dating unless you find some really liberal Indians. I don't know of any; however, Indian women are a great catch as far as I'm concerned. They tend to be intelligent, loyal, caring, gentle, etc. people. You simply don't have the drama and immature nonsense that you get with so many younger American women.

IMO.
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all I have to say is that that sounds exactly like my Orthodox Jewish cousins. Although we in the US tend to look down on such a thing for the most part, it really isn't all that bad of a way to go. Get married fairly young to someone where both the families approve, lots of sex, faithful wives who want to be mothers/housewives and not independent career women..it could be a lot worse

 
Originally posted by: SagaLore
Is there such a thing as "dating" in India? Or are they all arranged marriages? It would be nice to have a relationship here but I'm afraid it would become permanent if I'm not careful. :Q

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How do you tell if they're already married?
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I have not been there, and I am not Indian, but my understanding is that it totally varies. Some people are still 100% traditional, and others are 100% Western/modern.
 
Originally posted by: zoiks
For some reason, I really don't find most Indian girls sexy at all.
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Depends where you live. If you live in the city (NY, PA, Cali, TX, etc), there are very good looking Indian girls. The small towns don't have that many as most of the Indians who live there are recent immigrants not 1st/2nd generation.

Just look at some of the past Miss Universes/World and there are a few Indians girls representing 🙂
 
Originally posted by: Koing
Originally posted by: SagaLore
Originally posted by: Koing
Indian girls are ridiculously fit.

Good luck!

Koing
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Actually, they really aren't. Lots of women here chubby and overweight too.
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Well you always have chuffy and overweight from every country.

I just think Indian women just look ridiculously fit! Something extra about that...

Koing
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I thought where youre from fit = hot, not neccessarily "in shape".
 
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