Meeting up with an ex for dinner tonight

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GrantMeThePower

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Hi guys....sorry about the lack of update. It was for three reasons: 1. She ended up bailing that night (it was last friday. We had plans to meet at about 7:30....on my way home from work at 5 she called and said that she had an emergency at work (that she later explained) and said that she had to do a meeting that got pushed back because of the work emergency and that she could cancel the meeting if I wasn't going to be available at a different time, but i said Sunday would be fine) 2. After the dinner on Sunday, nothing really exciting and worth posting happened (but since you all seem interested, I'll tell the story here in a sec) and to be honest-I wussed out...big time (but with reason!) and 3. Really didn't think anyone would care! lol

Ok, to get the obvious ATOT questions out the way first: Yes, she is still smoking hot. Call shens, call me a liar, promise to stop reading my threads-I don't ****** care...but she's 5'9", 24" waist and 34D chest. She looks just as hot as she ever did. And NO i'm not posting pics (and yes, i have heard of a scanner). If she was my girlfriend, I'd tell her "Hey some friends online (i'm gonna go ahead and call you guys friends even though we dont know each other lol) want to see you. Do you mind?" BUT since she isn't my gf and I dont feel comfortable telling her about it, i'm not going to just post pictures....it feels creepy. So-sorry. There are plenty of hot girls' pics u can see...my suggestion is to try google.

Ok, so dinner- we met at a sushi restaurant and the first thing I noticed was that she was at least as nervous as I was, if not more so. That seemed a bit strange to me, cuz, as I said, she's really hot. In fact, I'd say she's out of my league now. But I was her "first" and I guess you feel a sense of attachment to your first always, so maybe those feelings she had for me never got all the way out or something (or maybe, like most women, she has a lack of self confidence and doesn't quite realize how hot she is...beats me...whatever). Anyway, dinner was a bit awkward...strange silences, odd conversation. I dunno....i guess it was cool, but it was kind of strange.

Really, though, i wussed out- We talked about why don't we hang out more often and I said it was because she was always so busy and not great at returning calls, and she said, "Well, what are you up to tonight?!?" and it was already almost 9 oclock. I said I was going to watch entourage and go to bed, then changed the subject to TV shows.

BUT i had a reason for pussin out....see, my best friend just returned this past week from Japan and he's living with me. He was at home. She and he were friends when I dated her and they get along really well (in fact it was him that introduced me to her). I knew that if we went back to my place that it would have ended up them talking and chatting and catching up for the next couple hours and would have been pointless.

She paid for dinner since I was helping her with her stuff.

We are going to see each other soon. Really doubt any "stuff" will go down.

 

MichaelD

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She paid for dinner. :thumbsup:

Good call on not bringing her back to your house where that guy was staying; how horrible would it have been to be 20-feet from the bed and get c0ckbl0cked?

Eh...but...

Question: What was wrong with going back to HER place?

Now, I've had the Intermediary Instantaneously Combustible Intercourse with exes' before. Quite honestly, most of the time it didn't live up to the memory...b/c of nervousness, still-not-dead-hatred-for-you or whatever. Once in a while it can be all that and a bag of chips though.

That's all from me. Thanks for the update. :beer:
 

GrantMeThePower

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Originally posted by: MichaelD
She paid for dinner. :thumbsup:

Question: What was wrong with going back to HER place?

Ah! Good question...should have mentioned that.

She and I live about 30 minutes apart now. She drove up close to where I live for dinner, in fact, it was maybe another 5-10 minutes further than her place...wouldn't have made much sense to drive all the way down there on a sunday night.
 

crt1530

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Cheers for the update, but seriously...when she said "Well, what are you up to tonight?" she gave you an all access pass. That is your cue to invite yourself back to her place.
 

zinfamous

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I think her nervousness can be explained by her hoping that you would be her "first" again...except this time, her first in the butt :D

anyhoo, ya, I wouldn't pot pics of my GF either. I just like to play along sometimes with the ridiculous pic requests on these forums. I know she doesn't want her picture posted for internet dudes to see, so I ain't gonna do it. Plus, I wouldn't post pics of anyone whether or not I knew if they cared about it.
 

Leros

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Originally posted by: crt1530
Cheers for the update, but seriously...when she said "Well, what are you up to tonight?" she gave you an all access pass. That is your cue to invite yourself back to her place.

He already admitted that he wussed out.
 

MichaelD

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Originally posted by: crt1530
Cheers for the update, but seriously...when she said "Well, what are you up to tonight?" she gave you an all access pass. That is your cue to invite yourself back to her place.

Yup...was gonna mention that but didn't want to make him feel bad.

Now I want to make him feel bad. :p

/throws rotten tomatoes at OP

What the heck's wrong w/you, man? :Q

When she said "that" you should've just given her the look and said "Well, me and you, shake vigorously, guaranteed results!" Or something else corny but obvious like that.
 

CKent

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When updating, copy & paste the update to the OP. Most people here don't use the default posts per page setting and don't want to hunt it down regardless.
 

GrantMeThePower

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Originally posted by: zinfamous
her first in the butt :D

Already was...a long time ago.

Anyway, yeah, i wussed out on Sunday. But I'm not stressing. Big deal. There were reasons why we broke up, and though she's older and grown up a bit, the same things that were messed up about her 7 years ago are still there. Some nookie would be fun (and if it was going to happen, there's no reason it cant happen later) but not the end of the world it didn't happen.
 

GrantMeThePower

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Originally posted by: CKent
When updating, copy & paste the update to the OP. Most people here don't use the default posts per page setting and don't want to hunt it down regardless.

My bad....will do now.
 

DougK62

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Originally posted by: GrantMeThePower
Originally posted by: MichaelD
She paid for dinner. :thumbsup:

Question: What was wrong with going back to HER place?

Ah! Good question...should have mentioned that.

She and I live about 30 minutes apart now. She drove up close to where I live for dinner, in fact, it was maybe another 5-10 minutes further than her place...wouldn't have made much sense to drive all the way down there on a sunday night.

Dude. That's a pathetic excuse.

 

OneOfTheseDays

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well your chances of banging this girl are probably diminished after a lackluster dinner. you had a shot to completely change what she remembers of you and well you blew it.

and stop with your self-defeating attitude....."she's way too hot for me now". that's your ego making excuses so you don't have to feel bad about not taking a chance here.