Marrying adopted daughter

[CDC Mail Guy]

A VERY odd question to be sure...but...

A room-mate of a very close friend of mine wants him to marry her because she has end stage pancreatic cancer. She also wants him to adopt her 10 year old son and 17 year old daughter, because otherwise they would go into the "system". However...he thinks he is in love with her almost 18 year old daughter, and the feeling is mutual.

If he marries this woman now, and she leaves everything to him, and he does wind up adopting her children, would he be able to marry the adopted daughter after his "wife" dies, and the girl turns 18?

If so...would the younger sibling be able to live with them?

 

[Wreckem]

A VERY odd question to be sure...but...

A room-mate of a very close friend of mine wants him to marry her because she has end stage pancreatic cancer. She also wants him to adopt her 10 year old son and 17 year old daughter, because otherwise they would go into the "system". However...he thinks he is in love with her almost 18 year old daughter, and the feeling is mutual.

If he marries this woman now, and she leaves everything to him, and he does wind up adopting her children, would he be able to marry the adopted daughter after his "wife" dies, and the girl turns 18?

If so...would the younger sibling be able to live with them?

If he adopted her? Depends on state law, but I seriously doubt it.

Heck in some states(not sure how many) they don't allow you to marry former step children.

 

[HeXen]

A VERY odd question to be sure...but...

A room-mate of a very close friend of mine wants him to marry her because she has end stage pancreatic cancer. She also wants him to adopt her 10 year old son and 17 year old daughter, because otherwise they would go into the "system". However...he thinks he is in love with her almost 18 year old daughter, and the feeling is mutual.

If he marries this woman now, and she leaves everything to him, and he does wind up adopting her children, would he be able to marry the adopted daughter after his "wife" dies, and the girl turns 18?

If so...would the younger sibling be able to live with them?

immediately suspicious, you can tell us if it's you.:sneaky:
But I'm sure it's possible to legally emancipate her, then she's no longer adopted and could then probably marry her.

 

[Newbian]

First off marrying her would sound like a financial risk as I would have to assume the medical bills would be up there even with insurance and he could be responsible for some even if he signs nothing if she has a will.

Secondly what are the age issues here of the mom and the friend?

If it's something like the guy is 30+ and he likes the 17 year old that is something the mother needs to know as it sounds creepy.

Otherwise I would assume you could easily take care of the 10 year old after marrying the 17 year old as she is close enough to probably be a guardian of her brother at that age.

 

[CDC Mail Guy]

First off, thank you for the replies

Secondly, no...it is NOT me. If it WAS me, I would have registered a throwaway account

YES, he IS over 30, and the mother is as well...not sure her age. She DOES know about his feelings for the daughter, and she knows her daughter is in love with him as well. She is 4 months away from 18.

The mother would put him in the will...she has been given about a month by her doctors.

 

[highland145]

We got any pics yet?

 

[CDC Mail Guy]

We got any pics yet?

okay.

The mom. Not sure if I am allowed to post a pic of the daughter due to her age...

 

[HeXen]

okay.


The mom. Not sure if I am allowed to post a pic of the daughter due to her age...

But I assume that's her under gallery. If so then yeah, it's creepy but whatever. Like I said, he should look into emancipation, probably have to ask a lawyer about such possibilities. Sad that her mom knows and still has to deal with a month's life expectancy too, what is terrible is made even more so



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[sdifox]

Err, there are legal recourses for this kind of situation. A will giving him power of attorney should suffice. No marriage necessary.

 

[CDC Mail Guy]

But I assume that's her under gallery. If so then yeah, it's creepy but whatever. Like I said, he should look into emancipation, probably have to ask a lawyer about such possibilities. Sad that her mom knows and still has to deal with a month's life expectancy too, what is terrible is made even more so.

Oops...forgot about the gallery view...so yeah, she is in the gallery. Those picures are like 4 years old.

I will tell him his best route would be emancipation, and to marry the daughter ASAP...but to also talk to a lawyer.

It's a F'd up situation all around, and sucks that I know her as well.

She just doesn't want her daughter and son to go into the system, and foster care. The state is California by the way...

 

[Gooberlx2]

I will tell him his best route would be emancipation, and to marry the daughter ASAP...

How about you just tell them about the emancipation and/or power of attorney, and let them figure out if they want to marry.

Aside from the creepy factor of the whole situation, marrying the mother is a terrible idea, for the financial risk alone, as mentioned before. Kids don't inherit debt, but husbands do.

 

[Brainonska511]

Err, there are legal recourses for this kind of situation. A will giving him power of attorney should suffice. No marriage necessary.

You could probably get a form that determines guardianship too which would also keep someone out of the foster-care system. Best advice would be to talk to a lawyer. And at this point, she really needs to talk to an estate attorney to make sure her affairs are in order, both to protect her assets and make sure her children will be provided for.

 

[CDC Mail Guy]

Thanks guys...I will direct THEM here, and let them decide their best course of action. I again thank you all for your answers.

It is not my decision, but theirs...so with that said..."Peace Out!!!"

 

[cyclohexane]

Wth? Weird shit. Dude is a creep.

 

[Brainonska511]

Thanks guys...I will direct THEM here, and let them decide their best course of action. I again thank you all for your answers.

It is not my decision, but theirs...so with that said..."Peace Out!!!"

Maybe you want to remove the picture links then? Just give them the advice of seek out an estate attorney. That's all that really needs to be said.

 

[CDC Mail Guy]

Maybe you want to remove the picture links then? Just give them the advice of seek out an estate attorney. That's all that really needs to be said.

Removed link, but is still in HeXen's quote. Awaiting for him to remove, per PM to him.

 

[SheHateMe]

You guys are weird.

 

[mmntech]

Well, this is a weird thread that probably belongs in L&R. Almost sounds like a setup for a sitcom.

Admittedly, and thankfully, I have no experience with a situation like this. First of all, the friend sounds like he needs to grow the hell up. 30+ and chasing around a 17 year old. For starters, I'm pretty sure there's laws against that. Second of all, while it may seem awesome nailing a hot, young piece of ass, relationships like that rarely last. When there's a big age gap like that, you quickly realize that you're at vastly different stages of life that aren't mutually compatible. Especially in that age group. She's probably just looking for some quick cash and it's not in the friend's best interests either to be tied down to that. Oh yeah, and when she eventually divorces him, she gets half his stuff.

Marrying the mom too would seem dishonest if he doesn't love her.

As for this lady, she needs to get a lawyer and have her last will and testament sorted out. Does she not have any living relatives who would be better caregivers to these children?

 

[CZroe]

When I was a kid I knew of a church deacon who married his adopted daughter shortly after his wife overdosed on prescription meds. He may have done nothing wrong (authorities said circumstances weren't suspicious) but he left the church anyway due to appearances.

I recall hearing something similar more recently.

 

[Hugo Drax]

Sounds like a jerry springer episode.

 

[cyclohexane]

Well, this is a weird thread that probably belongs in L&R. Almost sounds like a setup for a sitcom.

Admittedly, and thankfully, I have no experience with a situation like this. First of all, the friend sounds like he needs to grow the hell up. 30+ and chasing around a 17 year old. For starters, I'm pretty sure there's laws against that. Second of all, while it may seem awesome nailing a hot, young piece of ass, relationships like that rarely last. When there's a big age gap like that, you quickly realize that you're at vastly different stages of life that aren't mutually compatible. Especially in that age group. She's probably just looking for some quick cash and it's not in the friend's best interests either to be tied down to that. Oh yeah, and when she eventually divorces him, she gets half his stuff.

Marrying the mom too would seem dishonest if he doesn't love her.

As for this lady, she needs to get a lawyer and have her last will and testament sorted out. Does she not have any living relatives who would be better caregivers to these children?

op, what is the deal with this friend of yours? why/how did he get with the daughter of his room mate?

 

[drebo]

Where's the banjo music?

 

[surfsatwerk]

gross

 

[zinfamous]

OP, we need pics of your adopted daughter.

damnit I was too late!

and lol--the gallery contained porn?!

 

[sourn]

"For starters, I'm pretty sure there's laws against that."

In some states maybe, not mine though. Anybody 16+ can consent to sex no matter of other person's age.

As far as marriage goes, not sure on that one. Best advise I can give you to give to him (lol) is to stay the fuck away from arm chair lawyers and go talk to a real lawyer to see what can be done.