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Married Men teh hotness myth?

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Originally posted by: MaxDepth
To the married men and women in here:
I've heard from friends that they or their spouse had more flirting contact with women since they had gotten married. But was it that way, too, being engaged?

I'm not married yet (April 19!) but I seem to be experiencing the same thing lately. My fiance is very open minded so I'd rather these obsequious insinuations happen when she is around, instead of them waiting for my fiance to be out of town.

I've had it happen a couple of times. One happened to happen with my wife right next to me. Boy did she give that girl an earful lol 😱
 
Originally posted by: rasczak
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
To the married men and women in here:
I've heard from friends that they or their spouse had more flirting contact with women since they had gotten married. But was it that way, too, being engaged?

I'm not married yet (April 19!) but I seem to be experiencing the same thing lately. My fiance is very open minded so I'd rather these obsequious insinuations happen when she is around, instead of them waiting for my fiance to be out of town.

I've had it happen a couple of times. One happened to happen with my wife right next to me. Boy did she give that girl an earful lol 😱

like this? :Q

nsfw

http://www.tmz.com/2007/07/31/...nds-off-my-mans-balls/
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: meltdown75
in all seriousness

commitment is sexy to women IMO. women are more attracted to men that are taken. questioning the how or the why would be trying to figure out women though.. which is folly. so that's my 0.02

in all seriousness.... it seems men who are taken are more attracted to me.
they're not of the intelligent variety then. you have nothing to lose, and they have everything. :shocked:
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: meltdown75
in all seriousness

commitment is sexy to women IMO. women are more attracted to men that are taken. questioning the how or the why would be trying to figure out women though.. which is folly. so that's my 0.02

in all seriousness.... it seems men who are taken are more attracted to me.
they're not of the intelligent variety then. you have nothing to lose, and they have everything. :shocked:

speak for yourself... oh... you were. 😱
 
Yeah, I know a couple of guys who fit that "everyone wants me because I'm the hot married guy" profile. But I think they acted the same way before they got married.

The reason I brought this up is because of two girls I've know for the past 5 years made some comments to me yesterday and this morning. (They never flirted with me before.) Yesterday, my fiance went to New Orleans for the weekend to work on some final wedding prep so I am home alone for five days.

Last night one girl asks me if I would like to have brunch with her Sunday morning. Before I can say yes, she tells me it would be better if we had it at her place instead of probably waiting in line at a restaurant. And then she says, well, the best option would be if I just stayed over Saturday night so I wouldn't have to drive through Church traffic.

This morning the other girl asks me to help her with a science experiment this weekend. She wants to try a before and after marriage hook-up. Will being married change how hot the sex is?

The thing is both girls knew my girl was going to be gone this weekend. Like I said before, if these offers happen when she is around, there is a chance, however slim, I might get to do something. But if they try to go behind her back, it will never happen because I will not do that to myself or my fiance. <sigh>
 
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Yeah, I know a couple of guys who fit that "everyone wants me because I'm the hot married guy" profile. But I think they acted the same way before they got married.

The reason I brought this up is because of two girls I've know for the past 5 years made some comments to me yesterday and this morning. (They never flirted with me before.) Yesterday, my fiance went to New Orleans for the weekend to work on some final wedding prep so I am home alone for five days.

Last night one girl asks me if I would like to have brunch with her Sunday morning. Before I can say yes, she tells me it would be better if we had it at her place instead of probably waiting in line at a restaurant. And then she says, well, the best option would be if I just stayed over Saturday night so I wouldn't have to drive through Church traffic.

This morning the other girl asks me to help her with a science experiment this weekend. She wants to try a before and after marriage hook-up. Will being married change how hot the sex is?

The thing is both girls knew my girl was going to be gone this weekend. Like I said before, if these offers happen when she is around, there is a chance, however slim, I might get to do something. But if they try to go behind her back, it will never happen because I will not do that to myself or my fiance. <sigh>

4some ftw
 
Flirting is like dancing in a club. It's a form of sexual expression that females in particular seem to crave, given that it is free and easy with no direct consequences. Flirting with a married man is even more free and easy, as it is a complete freebie. So for the vast majority of it, don't kid yourself - all they're interested in is some banter. For those who will actually take a married guy home, then I think that's the whole 'commitment is sexy' and 'fling with no strings' thing.
 
Originally posted by: ades
Originally posted by: Xavier434
I don't think this is true. I have always gotten hit on more when I was single.

Before you gained 30lbs. and the thinning hair?!?! 😉

Hehe I pretty much look the same. That is destined to change soon though I am sure. 😉
 
It is the very nature of women to want to, *fix, or change*, men, so when they see a married man,------------.
Have you ever noticed, that when you go out on the lake, and do some serious trolling, using all the recommended baits for fish, you hardly ever get a bite? However, go out with a 6 pack, not caring whether you catch anything at all, and the fish will jump into your boat.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: rasczak
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
To the married men and women in here:
I've heard from friends that they or their spouse had more flirting contact with women since they had gotten married. But was it that way, too, being engaged?

I'm not married yet (April 19!) but I seem to be experiencing the same thing lately. My fiance is very open minded so I'd rather these obsequious insinuations happen when she is around, instead of them waiting for my fiance to be out of town.

I've had it happen a couple of times. One happened to happen with my wife right next to me. Boy did she give that girl an earful lol 😱

like this? :Q

nsfw

http://www.tmz.com/2007/07/31/...nds-off-my-mans-balls/

that's a little calmer than how my wife said it. actually, my wife was quite vulgar that day. never had i been so turned on 😱
 
I find it easier to flirt harmlessly with women because I'm married. There is no pressure there for me to pick them up or get a number/date so maybe that accounts for some of this. When you come off as nervous women sense that and it's unattractive. Women love guys who are confident...what's more confidence inspiring than zero pressure when talking to women? 😛
 
Originally posted by: MaxDepth
Yeah, I know a couple of guys who fit that "everyone wants me because I'm the hot married guy" profile. But I think they acted the same way before they got married.

The reason I brought this up is because of two girls I've know for the past 5 years made some comments to me yesterday and this morning. (They never flirted with me before.) Yesterday, my fiance went to New Orleans for the weekend to work on some final wedding prep so I am home alone for five days.

Last night one girl asks me if I would like to have brunch with her Sunday morning. Before I can say yes, she tells me it would be better if we had it at her place instead of probably waiting in line at a restaurant. And then she says, well, the best option would be if I just stayed over Saturday night so I wouldn't have to drive through Church traffic.

This morning the other girl asks me to help her with a science experiment this weekend. She wants to try a before and after marriage hook-up. Will being married change how hot the sex is?

The thing is both girls knew my girl was going to be gone this weekend. Like I said before, if these offers happen when she is around, there is a chance, however slim, I might get to do something. But if they try to go behind her back, it will never happen because I will not do that to myself or my fiance. <sigh>

they have probably been waiting for the last 5 years for your girl to go out of town
 
married men appear to be more confident and more settled in their lives, and that's sexyyy. 🙂. i can totally see how women hit on married fellas, especially if they're hottttttttt.

a hottie i worked with openly shared that compared to when he was single, women flirt with him significantly more since becoming a husband and father.

as a woman, i'm always surprised when married men (who have kids) have flirted with me. it has made me wonder why they even bothered because nothing would come from it.
 
Like Xstatic said. Married guys finally get it usually.

This is also what leads them and their wives to cheat and do stupid things.

If people dated correctly there wouldn't be these issues.

 
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