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Man problems...

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Zysoclaplem

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Well this guy and I have been dating for about a month now. And he lives about 45minutes to an hour away.
He makes 15k more than me a year, but never has any money because he spends everything he comes in contact with. So I have probably driven to see him 80% of the time that we see each other.
But he so often seems to have money to go out to eat with his friends, and drink at the club he goes to. But when it comes to me he just doesn't have the money to drive to Tyler.
So when I see him I end up paying for everything we do.
He gave me a watch for Valentine's Day, which was sweet. He told me it was $100, and he got it from Dillards. Well naturally I was upset he spent so much money on me.
Turns out Dillards has never sold this watch and it's retail price has never been above $50.
Don't get me wrong, I don't care how much he spent. He could have gotten me a card and that would be fine.
So there are lots of little lies.
And the last straw was last night.
Last night was our "Valentine's Night."
We could not see each other Tuesday, so he was gonna come down Wednesday night and see me. For sure. We planned on it for a week.
So I got the candles out, and the flowers, and what not. It was going to be a great valentine's night.
And he never shows.
I called him several times, and I guess he got tired of me calling and decided to answer.
He told me he decided to stay home and pack some stuff instead.
Well that just hurt my feelings, and I told him.
I talked to him and he doesn't know what he wants right now. But he doesn't know if he wants to break it off. I told him to think about it last night, and call me last night and let me know.
He never did call. And he said he would.
I think I am going to break it off. Too bad, he seemed like such a sweet guy.


CLIFFS:
-Meet guy, date for a month
-Guy tells lots of little lies, gets on my nerves
-Guys stays home and packs instead of coming over for planned valentine's date
-Guy never calls me back when he said he would last night
-Might just end it now
 
Waitwaitwait, you're a guy, and yet you're dating another gu . . ..

*head explodes*

Oh wait, I get it now. 🙂 Just kick his ass to the curb and get on with it, man!
 
Why was he packing stuff when he had already decided to stay home?

Anyway, the guy sounds immature. I wouldn't pursue the relationship, if I were you; I think you can do a lot better.

EDIT: Also, is there anything tackier than telling someone how much their gift cost? Yeesh.
 
Well, if the relationship progresses then we know who the b1tch is going to be. Seriously, kick his ass to the curb.


*Two snaps and a twist*
 
Get real. You don't have a relationship.

If you get pleasure from what you're doing, then continue it. But remember that it's a fantasy on your part - this guy isn't even remotely interested in you.

Good luck, and I hope you find someone much nicer soon.
 
Originally posted by: hjo3
Why was he packing stuff when he had already decided to stay home?
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I think the more appropriate question is: why was he packing stuff would he could be packing you? I say dump him.

 
Originally posted by: badmouse
Get real. You don't have a relationship.

If you get pleasure from what you're doing, then continue it. But remember that it's a fantasy on your part - this guy isn't even remotely interested in you.

Good luck, and I hope you find someone much nicer soon.
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I think he is interested, but I also feel he is stuck in the past. He was with someone for 7 years, and the break up was fairly recent, about 6-7 months ago. And I know he likes me. He is just confused. He wants me, but at the same time he wants to have fun and party. I dont mind him partying. I do my thing, and he does his. But he doesn't know what he wants.
I need him to know what he wants because if he doesnt, I am just slipping in the mud here.
I feel like everything comes before me.
 
Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
You're being/were played.
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No, it's not like that. He just doesnt know for sure. And thats fine. But I do know. And I need someone else who has direction. I am mature, stable, and responsible, and I am looking for someone who is the same. I figured dating someone older would fix my relationship problems, as I usually date much younger, but I just encounter different problems.
 
Originally posted by: pinion9
Originally posted by: hjo3
Why was he packing stuff when he had already decided to stay home?
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I think the more appropriate question is: why was he packing stuff would he could be packing you? I say dump him.
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Well we haven't packed anything. We are actually kind of waiting, making sure things go well before we take that step.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: badmouse
Get real. You don't have a relationship.

If you get pleasure from what you're doing, then continue it. But remember that it's a fantasy on your part - this guy isn't even remotely interested in you.

Good luck, and I hope you find someone much nicer soon.
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I think he is interested, but I also feel he is stuck in the past. He was with someone for 7 years, and the break up was fairly recent, about 6-7 months ago. And I know he likes me. He is just confused. He wants me, but at the same time he wants to have fun and party. I dont mind him partying. I do my thing, and he does his. But he doesn't know what he wants.
I need him to know what he wants because if he doesnt, I am just slipping in the mud here.
I feel like everything comes before me.
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The first new relationship after a hard break up hardly ever works. There are just too many conflicting interests and emotions to build the foundation required for a stable relationship. It's unfortunate for you, but you've become a stepping stone on his road to recovery.

You can sit around and wait for him to decide what he really wants, but you might be waiting a long time.
 
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