Making eye contact when talking to someone

[dighn]

Originally posted by: Baked
For guys, I stare them right in the eyes and see who blinks first. For chicks, I stare them right in the boobs until they slap me.

roflmao

anyway, I don't like staring people in the eyes even though this culture demands it. I find it very distracting. I can force myself to do it but damn is it unnerving. It feels like they can see into me. Actually on second thought it's not so bad now. Prolonged, close range eye contact still feels a little strange

 

[vital]

Originally posted by: bleeb
I get pissed off if they people don't make eye contact with me.... it means they aren't listening and we're not engaging each others attention.

It's not about just making eye contact. It's about stareing at each other's eyes for a long period while talking without breaking eye contact for a second or two. Perhaps it could also have to do with culture. In some asian cultures, it is not polite to stare for a long time.

 

[Babbles]

I usually make eye contact with my boss when we are talking, but with most of my coworkers I usually don't. I get along with all of them so I put them in a sort of friend category and I don't feel the need to make constant eye contact with my friends. Yeah, sure I do that thing where I look them in the eyes for a moment then turn around and look at other things. Also as somebody stated, when talking amongst friends we are usually situated where we are not facing directly at each other and as such to make constant eye contact would be somewhat unnatural looking.

 

[spidey07]

bah...

You look away means you aren't a leader/alpha male. That unconfortable feeling you get by NOT looking another in the eye means you're owned - literally. No respect for you.

It's ok. Some are owners....others are ownees.

 

[fitzov]

What makes you look away? Fear? If so then I suggest looking men in the eye so you can get used to it. It's the only way to defeat cowardice.

 

[CarlKillerMiller]

I'm slightly bothered when people don't make eye contact when I talk to them, although they usually do.

 

[Sluggo]

You know, you really dont have to look at their eyes for people to think you are making eye contact. You can just as easily watch the tip of their nose, mouth or chin.

Those are less intense areas of the face for some people to focus on, and to the other person it looks like you are looking them right in the eyes.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: spidey07
bah...

You look away means you aren't a leader/alpha male. That unconfortable feeling you get by NOT looking another in the eye means you're owned - literally. No respect for you.

It's ok. Some are owners....others are ownees.

You read into eye contact WAY too much. I have a feeling having a conversation with you in real life would be one HELL of an annoying experience. Glad you're on the internet

 

[fitzov]

just point your Glock at him sideways and say, "You eyeballin' me boy?"

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: spidey07
bah...

You look away means you aren't a leader/alpha male. That unconfortable feeling you get by NOT looking another in the eye means you're owned - literally. No respect for you.

It's ok. Some are owners....others are ownees.

You read into eye contact WAY too much. I have a feeling having a conversation with you in real life would be one HELL of an annoying experience. Glad you're on the internet

Not really.

I need these skills in my job and being able to read body language can be very helpful - you can influence people and their mood/decisions with your own body language. You can also convey power and authority to get them to submit to your will. It's especially helpful at reading women and using it to your advantage. Plus it helps in social situations as well.

-edit-
For a fun trick - mirroring.

One person will normally mimic the other person's stance/demeanor (for example - arms or legs crossed). Try paying attention to it to get them to mirror you instead of you mirroring them.

For a power position, sit back a little bit with your hands in front of you in a triangle.

 

[tjaisv]

Originally posted by: spidey07

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: spidey07
bah...

You look away means you aren't a leader/alpha male. That unconfortable feeling you get by NOT looking another in the eye means you're owned - literally. No respect for you.

It's ok. Some are owners....others are ownees.

You read into eye contact WAY too much. I have a feeling having a conversation with you in real life would be one HELL of an annoying experience. Glad you're on the internet

Not really.

I need these skills in my job and being able to read body language can be very helpful - you can influence people and their mood/decisions with your own body language. You can also convey power and authority to get them to submit to your will. It's especially helpful at reading women and using it to your advantage. Plus it helps in social situations as well.

Yep.

You know it would be nice if elementary and middle/high schools had a curriculum that involved social etiquette, where they taught the fundaments all the way up to advanced body language skills and whatnot. I remember growing up always wondering how i should act in various social situations and what's considered good social protocol and stuff. I had to learn this all on my own, and i'm still learning! They really need to make this as fundamental as the 3 Rs (reading, writing, arithmetic).

 

[Azndude2190]

You know the saying is:"The eyes are the keys to your soul"

 

[tjaisv]

Nobody's asked this related question: When you're close up to a person in a casual situation talking face to face, do u look into only 1 eye at a time, toggling back and forth, and if so then how often do u switch? Or do u just stare at one eyeball?

 

[Jeff7]

Originally posted by: tjaisv
Nobody's asked this related question: When you're close up to a person in a casual situation talking face to face, do u look into only 1 eye at a time, toggling back and forth, and if so then how often do u switch? Or do u just stare at one eyeball?

Adjust the focus of your eyes as though you were looking at a far-away object. The person's eyes will eventually appear to merge. When this happens, you are looking into both of their eyes at the same time. Problem solved.