Logging facebook chat in internet explorer? Worried about little sis

[AreaCode707]

I'm a bit concerned about my younger sister (15) who seems to be in the early stages of developing an eating disorder. My parents have observed she's usually ok eating when she come home from school but later in the afternoon, after she's been chatting with folks on Facebook, she's much more withdrawn and refuses to eat much. Speculation is that she has a friend encouraging this, possibly feeding into some of her insecurities. They'd like to figure out who so they can manage the situation a bit better.

Little sis uses IE almost exclusively, despite my efforts to shift her to Firefox. I know there are FF add-ons to track Facebook logs but does anyone know of a way to do this in IE?

 

[gimmewhitecastles]

i didnt even know such things existed. couldnt you just friend her and see what goes on?

 

[phoenix79]

get a keylogger

 

[Rubycon]

Right click iexplore.exe select properties. Go to security tab. Remove all entries and hit apply. :biggrin:

Best bet is to put this in your hosts file:

127.0.0.1 facebook.com
127.0.0.1 www.facebook.com

 

[mizzou]

Ban her from the social websites and monitor her behavioral chanflges

 

[MotF Bane]

To force her to Firefox, just delete IE, and restrict her computer account to no-installation.
To observe what she says, get a key logger. To see what is said to her, no idea.
To not encourage invasive helicopter parents, do nothing.

I'd vote for the first and third options.

 

[darkxshade]

meh, that's 3 more years until I can do anything about it. :ninja:

 

[MotF Bane]

Also, AreaCode, do your parents have any conclusive proof Facebook chat is where the problem is stemming from? She might be looking at pictures of models instead, or even pictures of others in her peer group, and that could be the problem.

 

[fire400]

that's the dumbest thing i've ever heard.

she's 15 and probably knows more about internet browsers than you did at 15.

i.e. can go on inPrivate browsing.

quit being stupid and do a 1on1 talk with her. as long as you remember the power of influence, whatever stupid choices are her own.

nature vs. nurture. let her die in a hospital if that's what she wants.

inform her about the media and the way happiness works. how can she listen to an idiot that tries to ghost everything she's doing? she will get defensive and be like "get the fvck out of my life stalker". or what you can do is take the fvcken computer away from her? nobody needs a damn computer in their house to live a decent American life. do all the hw at a local library in timely fassion.

she's a minor anyway, everything falls on the parents. help her graduate early, have her enlist in the Army @ 16, so she leaves right away on her 17th birtday.
You got two years to do this, don't mess up.

 

[MotF Bane]

she's 15 and probably knows more about internet browsers than you did at 15.

Internet Explorer. Enough said.

 

[Crono]

I'd just use remote monitoring, like VNC running in the background.

 

[Rubycon]

If you want to have fun try this!

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[Krazy4Real]

If you want to have fun try this!

http://www.spectorsoft.com/

We use that at work and it is awesome.

 

[blackdogdeek]

it's also possible that she's being bullied online and that's what gets her depressed.

but, imo, the best way to find out is to talk to her.

 

[Powermoloch]

just talk dude, no need spy crap lol. Get up front and find out what is up.

 

[Platypus]

Or you could just respect her and have a real conversation about it instead of trying to violate her privacy and spy on her?

 

[Crono]

just talk dude, no need spy crap lol. Get up front and find out what is up.

That is the best and first option.

 

[AreaCode707]

i didnt even know such things existed. couldnt you just friend her and see what goes on?

Oh I'm friended to her, but that doesn't do anything as far as facebook chat goes. That's all private conversation.

Right click iexplore.exe select properties. Go to security tab. Remove all entries and hit apply. :biggrin:

Best bet is to put this in your hosts file:

127.0.0.1 facebook.com
127.0.0.1 www.facebook.com

Heheh. 🙂

Ban her from the social websites and monitor her behavioral chanflges

Could do that, but seems like it would be better to know for sure if this is contributing to the problem before doing that. She's got a lot of good friends and good influences she stays in touch with via Facebook. If it's a single person encouraging her towards this, it would be preferable to have her remove that person from her friend list and let her keep using Facebook otherwise.

To force her to Firefox, just delete IE, and restrict her computer account to no-installation.
To observe what she says, get a key logger. To see what is said to her, no idea.
To not encourage invasive helicopter parents, do nothing.

I'd vote for the first and third options.

A parent's job is to take care of the well-being of their child and encourage them to grow and become more independent. Making sure they don't suffer from malnutrition or a body image disorder is not helicoptering.

Also, AreaCode, do your parents have any conclusive proof Facebook chat is where the problem is stemming from? She might be looking at pictures of models instead, or even pictures of others in her peer group, and that could be the problem.

The computer is usually in a public area and from walking around and seeing her screen, she's on Facebook most of the time. Haven't seen pictures of models, though there are pictures of people in her peer group on FB obviously. Good thought. 🙂

that's the dumbest thing i've ever heard.

she's 15 and probably knows more about internet browsers than you did at 15.

i.e. can go on inPrivate browsing.

quit being stupid and do a 1on1 talk with her. as long as you remember the power of influence, whatever stupid choices are her own.

nature vs. nurture. let her die in a hospital if that's what she wants.

inform her about the media and the way happiness works. how can she listen to an idiot that tries to ghost everything she's doing? she will get defensive and be like "get the fvck out of my life stalker". or what you can do is take the fvcken computer away from her? nobody needs a damn computer in their house to live a decent American life. do all the hw at a local library in timely fassion.

she's a minor anyway, everything falls on the parents. help her graduate early, have her enlist in the Army @ 16, so she leaves right away on her 17th birtday.
You got two years to do this, don't mess up.

You're a retard. Your suggestion is to talk to my sister (which I already do, but teenagers are *gasp* not always forthcoming with their inner thoughts and problems) and if that doesn't fix the problem then let her die if it comes to that because she deserves it?

Thanks to all the folks offering legit suggestions. 🙂

 

[JohnOfSheffield]

I'm a bit concerned about my younger sister (15) who seems to be in the early stages of developing an eating disorder. My parents have observed she's usually ok eating when she come home from school but later in the afternoon, after she's been chatting with folks on Facebook, she's much more withdrawn and refuses to eat much. Speculation is that she has a friend encouraging this, possibly feeding into some of her insecurities. They'd like to figure out who so they can manage the situation a bit better.

Little sis uses IE almost exclusively, despite my efforts to shift her to Firefox. I know there are FF add-ons to track Facebook logs but does anyone know of a way to do this in IE?

Don't you have ANYTHING to worry about in your own life? Weren't you complaining about your other sister living her life in a way you didn't approve of just the other week and wondering how you could fix that?

There is this old school method known as talking, it works better than any eavesdropping software, why don't you try that first.

 

[NikolaeVarius]

Maybe you can install Logmein Hamachi and observe her screen from another computer?

I'm not sure if just observing has any noticeable effects on the computer being spyed upon.

 

[AreaCode707]

Or you could just respect her and have a real conversation about it instead of trying to violate her privacy and spy on her?

I talk to both my sisters all the time, and my parents do too. One of them is very forthcoming, the other is much more reticent. It's simply her personality. The more something tends to be wrong, the less she wants to talk. Normally we let stuff work itself out until she's ready to talk but at this point she's starting to actively avoid food and we're worried about her. Talking doesn't get calories in her, and hasn't to date helped us pinpoint which influences are contributing to the problem.

 

[AreaCode707]

Don't you have ANYTHING to worry about in your own life? Weren't you complaining about your other sister living her life in a way you didn't approve of just the other week and wondering how you could fix that?

Nope, I was wondering how to stay in touch with her and prevent her from winding up isolated in a potentially abusive situation. She's an adult and her decisions are her own.

There is this old school method known as talking, it works better than any eavesdropping software, why don't you try that first.

 

[Platypus]

I talk to both my sisters all the time, and my parents do too. One of them is very forthcoming, the other is much more reticent. It's simply her personality. The more something tends to be wrong, the less she wants to talk. Normally we let stuff work itself out until she's ready to talk but at this point she's starting to actively avoid food and we're worried about her. Talking doesn't get calories in her, and hasn't to date helped us pinpoint which influences are contributing to the problem.

I'll just say this, if someone in my family spied on my personal conversations at that age, I would never be able to trust that person with anything ever again. If that's the kind of relationship you want, keep on this trajectory. What are you hoping to do with this information? Stop her from chatting with said friend? If anything, it will make her want to talk with her MORE and give her MORE of an influence over her life (if that is indeed what's happening) and LESS likely to ever trust or talk with you again.

 

[vshah]

this might be too complicated, but since facebook chats aren't encrypted you could run a packet capture program like wireshark on the computer, and access the chats this way.

you could run it under another user account, so when she logs on she won't know it's running.

 

[JohnOfSheffield]

No, you are the retard, it IS ok for a 15 year old to have secrets from her sister, what's next, are you going to pick the lock on her diary?

Keylogging is illegal, there is a reason why it is illegal, snooping on someone online like that is WRONG no matter how dysfunctional your family is (and if you wonder WHY it's so very dysfunctional you already have your answer).

She has a family to turn to and you can choose to drive her away by being stupid and disrespecting a teenage girls privacy or you can talk to her directly instead.