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Here's my opinion: You are mistakenly taking this relationship way deeper than she perceives it. It seems to me she has you more as just soemthing normal to do and expected of her. Kinda like having a car or something not 'cuz you need and really want it, but because that's part of a perceived symbol of success in life.

So, you're taking it way deeper. She's not that into you from what I've read in your post.

Additionally, what's with you and your statement that she's perfect, yet you complain? Is not part of perfection possessing that quality that sees the essence of spending quality time with a significant other?

All right, I get it: She's perfect as a single lady. Listen to rationalism, my friend. Rationalism tells you your relationship is not at the level you think it. And she is perfect single, so let her be single or simply stop thinking she has that obligations toward you if you're too afraid to let her go. You can't have your cake and eat it too here, my dear.

Also, if you're really thinking this relationship will last past high school, you're kidding yourself. Chances are it will not last at all. You will mature in what you want and so will she in and what she wants. Don't take things that deep at the moment, for she certainly isn't taking it that deep.

Again, that is my opinion and perspective. 🙂
 


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Sure you will....high school "romance" is a joke......in fact high school is not the time for romance at all....it's the time to be hitting as much tail as you can....... >>



Well, I was in love in high school, and I thought it was going to last forever. So I don't think it's a joke (although I'm not with the guy anymore).

I don't think you're being a doormat. She's just a very busy girl. She might have forgotten or something. I think you definately need to sit down with her and say you want more of her time, etc. And see what you two can work out. Stand up to her and tell her what you want....then you can make sure you aren't being a doormat.

--Sarah
 
thanks, Sarah, that is encouraging to me. 🙂 Before we started going out, she told me how independent she was, and that no one could have 100% of her attention, but I guess I didn't really think about that until now.
 


<< She's just the greatest thing to ever happen to me. We have some differences though, the main one being she is one of the most outgoing people in the school, and I'm the biggest computer nerd in school. >>


tick.........................tick..................tick.............tick..........tick....tick..tick.tick...BOOM.

she may be perfect, you may be too, but not perfect for each other and these social differences will increasingly undermine things. But this is the last thing you need to hear from me so I didn't say nothin...but you're welcome to prove me wrong in case I did. 😉
 
there's two options:

you are a doormat
she is just a flake

either way, GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT.

i was in a relationship just like what you described, and to this day i still don't know if she was using me or if she was just really really really stupid. but i decided either way, that isn't somebody i want to even associate with.

you can't change people, if she's like this now, she'll always be like this. doesn't even matter why she's being like this. just get out!
 
self-imposed doormat. not her fault; this is all your own making. btw, you better fall out of love pretty quick because this isn't going to last past the summer, if that, and then you're going to be a self-imposed wretch.
 
Doormat, definitely.

So what if she is busy and "good-hearted"?? If she cares about you more than as just friends, then she will make time for you no matter what. And putting all her friends ahead of you? That sounds more like excuses and just conveys how unimportant you are in her life, more evidence that she is walking all over you. I also imagine that the fact that you felt so uncomfortable around her friends would be a major turn-off for her.

You shouldn't take that crap ever, but it doesn't matter because you have her so high on a pedestal that she can do no wrong at this point.🙁 Grow a spine and for godsake don't call her perfect, noone is.
 


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<< Sure you will....high school "romance" is a joke......in fact high school is not the time for romance at all....it's the time to be hitting as much tail as you can...... >>




<< it's okay .... college and beer will open your eyes >>



I'm 18 and have never been into the beer/sex scene, and I don't plan to get into that in college. It's just not my thing. >>



Good for you! That group is known as "the losers" in college. The secret is, they don't know it! :disgust:
 


<< Good for you! That group is known as "the losers" in college. The secret is, they don't know it! >>


...okay. This is some world we live in. The people who try to do the RIGHT things are considered the losers.
 


<< Dood, if she wanted to be with you today she'd call you. That's harsh, but it is as simple as that. If she doesn't call today, you better start falling out of love.....quickly. >>



I have to agree with you on that one.

You say you may not forget her... you have no idea how your life will change in the next three to four years. In five years, you may still remember her, but your view will be different.
 
well

i'll never forget my first high school crush. i got suspended from boarding school cause of her (missed night curfew). I think that girls age are just testing tho. their not really looking for a serious relationship and they arent driven by hormones the way guys are so their desire to be with someone of the opposite sex is not nearly as strong as that of a guy.

basically chill out. understand that she isn't going to take you as seriously as you do her. don't be desparate just go out and have fun. don't limit yourself to JUST HER.
 
teenybooper 😉

sounds like she wants the best of every world ... spend some time with you when she wants, drag you along with her friends (that you are uncomfortable with), spend more time with her friends, etc ...

anyways, realize that most high school relationships is just fun love .. not most of them last but some do. Don't try to take it too seriously and make it something that it's not, you are just going bring yourself nothing but pain if you do.
 
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