Little kids and manners - Who's right?

[Nemesis77]

Originally posted by: Mwilding
It's like my Pappy used to say, "Spare the ron, spoil the child"

Rod, my friend, rod.

 

[Murphyrulez]

My son is 3 1/2 years old, and he says Please can I have a snack, thank you, and may I be excused from the table. He never yells or screams if he wants something, he asks for it, and if we tell him no, he might go off and sulk for 10 seconds. He is the greatest little buddy in the world!Here he is!

But now, my sister-in-laws two boys, they are 7 and 10. The 7 years old weighs 105 pounds, and is eating NONSTOP. He wants to be eating something all the time, and his parents let him eat as much as he wants. We were eating breakfast one day, and the boy put away like 5 sausage links and 3 pancakes, then asked for more, and his mom gave it to him. They both eat with the fingers all the time, picking at their food. They burp and fart at the table... Ugh...

 

[skace]

2 Things spring to mind first off:

1. If shes "a keeper", ask her if this is how you would want your kids to turn out / act. And if not, why does she let it go now?
2. If you want to make an impression on children, you do so through your actions. You call them fat yet you seem to bring home mcdonalds a lot. Why do you even eat at mcdonalds? Show them how to cook real food that will actually fill them up instead of just ruining their entire body. Kids today have 0 concept of a complete meal.

...and may I be excused from the table.

Murphy, I never understood asking if you could be excused from the table. Mainly because my parents never taught me to do that, but why would I want to ask if I could be excused?

 

[Scouzer]

The kids sound like little sh!ts but I was like that when I was younger. Don't worry, once they goto school and made total idiots of themselves around their friends they'll straighten up quick. Worked for me! Probably won't in every case...the fat part especially. The obesity needs to be dealt with immediately....too bad you just can't send them to Afganistan. They'd value each peso worth of food quickly..

Oh, and I agree with Skace, why the hell do I need to be excused??? I need to piss, I'm going to leave unless its a formal setting! When its a formal setting I suppose...

 

[RSMemphis]

You are right of course. My parents would have never tolerated that. A strong no is a good idea.
My gf would never allow their little scheme.

 

[Michael1897]

went through the same thing with my gf's niece. she'd cry for food and did whatever the hell she wanted. she tried it with me and i'd just look at her. she was 2 at the time and she quickly learned that it wasn't going to work. I'd sit there and eat while she cried or i'd pick her up and take her to the couch sit her down and then go back and eat. i say slap the parents tell the dad to get off of his lazy ass and discipline those kids

 

[BD2003]

Those kids shouldnt be acting like that. But you are absolutely not right in disciplining them yourself. Theyre NOT your kids! You dont have to like it, and you might feel morally obligated to want to do something, but if I ever caught my future daughter's boyfriend disciplining my kid, I'd discipline him.

What you should do is ignore the little sh*ts. Pretend like theyre not there. Let your GF know you dont want to have to deal with her little siblings when you come over to see HER.