Life is not fair...and then it gets worse...

Rufio

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My friend, Snoopy, was a great person.

I met her years ago. We started our first year of camp together. We were both young counselors ready to take these kids up to camp for a week. These kids were underpriveledged children, and we were non-paid volunteers. We devoted our time, money, and heart into giving these kids a positive experience at camp. We went through over 10 weeks of training for this.

When camp came up, we were scared. But we stuck by one another, the counselors helped one another out, and in the end, we survived. We also did a great job with the kids.

That week was one of the hardest weeks of my life. But my friend Snoopy helped me get through it. She would give me advice and a shoulder to cry on if I needed it....pretty funny since I'm a big guy, and she's a fragile, smaller, angelic lady. But it worked wonders on me.

Then as the years passed, we became better friends. I would see her on campus, and she would stop to eat with me. She would stop to talk to me. She would help me and give me any advice that I needed. She was never too busy for her friends or for her school. She devoted her heart and soul into helping people. Her smile truly made everyone feel the best about themselves. Yeah, she was not a big person, but her hugs made you feel important and made everything seem alright.

Then this happened.

I am not very good at expressing how I feel in words. I am so upset and angry, but so sad and dejected. This is my first experience w/a true friend passing away.

Man, I don't know what to do....
 

agnitrate

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Broken link but I think we get the idea of what happened.

Sorry to hear that. :(

-silver
 

Cuda1447

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Links not working.



However I know how you feel. I just recently had a friend in highschool die in a tragic accident. Its going to be hard to deal with but it'll be ok. Don't be sad for her being gone, but be happy that you once knew her.


Sorry for your loss.
 

Looney

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Rabuy remembered for service to UCLA


UCLA suffered a tragic loss with the death of Cynthia Rabuy, a highly respected and revered student leader who was killed Wednesday night in a traffic collision. She was 23.

Rabuy served as both chair and vice-chair on the board of directors for the Associated Students of UCLA for the last two years. She was also the financial supports commissioner on the Undergraduate Students Association Council during the 2000-2001 term.

According to the California Highway Patrol, Rabuy's car was struck by another vehicle on the southbound 405 Freeway near the Washington Boulevard off-ramp just before midnight Wednesday.

The CHP also reported that the driver who collided with Rabuy's car was driving while intoxicated and did not make any evasive action to avoid her car. This driver, who survived the incident, was treated for his injuries and booked by the Los Angeles Police Department for vehicular manslaughter. An investigation is currently pending.

Relatives emphasized UCLA's influence on Rabuy's life, where she devoted countless hours of her time serving students.

"We want to thank everyone at UCLA for touching her life and allowing her to be in their's," said Andrew Beall, Rabuy's brother-in-law with whom she lived.

Several teary-eyed students, Rabuy's peers and colleagues, collected in front of Kerckhoff Hall around noon to inform each other of the their friend's death and to console one another.

Evan Okamura served on USAC with Rabuy in 2000-2001 as external vice president, and wanted students who did not know her to realize how important she was to campus.

"She worked her whole career helping the UCLA community on USAC and on the board of directors," he said. "She was definitely one who gave her all for UCLA and students."

Rabuy was in her fifth-year, having entered UCLA during winter 1999. She was expected to graduate at the end of this quarter after completing education and public policy minors. She already completed the coursework for her English degree last quarter.

"She was a brilliant person; she will be missed terribly," said Marlo Beall, Rabuy's sister.

Rabuy was also involved in Samahang Pilipino, with which she was practicing Wednesday night for the group's annual Pilipino Culture Night.

Berky Nelson, director for the Center for Student Programming who served as an administrative representative on USAC during Rabuy's term, described her ability to keep calm during what were often contentious council meetings.

"I can recall sitting next to her ... and admiring her even temper, listening ability and respect for her thought process once she spoke," Nelson said. "She was always dedicated to the welfare of others; she cannot be replaced."

Rabuy's ASUCLA colleagues asserted that she did the right thing, "even in difficult circumstances. Her desire to include all voices in discussion was a character trademark, said ASUCLA executive director Patricia Eastman.

"Whether she was chairing a meeting or talking one-on-one, Cindy went out of her way to be sure that all perspectives were heard and respected," she said.

Randy Hall ? Rabuy's successor as board chairman ? said her work was always selfless.

"She was a true leader in every sense of the word," Hall said. "Not because of any prestige she got from her work, but because she honestly enjoyed helping people."

Rabuy was supposed to attend a board of directors meeting today, and for many members her absence will set the tone for it.

"It's a wake-up call," said Reem Salahi, a student member of the board.

Rabuy was the fourth member of her family to attend UCLA. She followed sisters Marlo, a 1997 undergraduate and 2000 graduate alumna, and Carla, a 1999 undergraduate alumna.

Her campus involvement closely followed that of her aunt, Maria Rabuy Inciong, who served as USAC executive vice president in 1989-1990 and also served on the ASUCLA board of directors the following year.

Beall said the family plans on holding a memorial service for Rabuy at UCLA in the near future. In the meantime, he asked students and those who knew her to "keep her in (their) prayers and thoughts."
 

imported_Tomato

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That's so sad... sometimes things happen that just don't make any sense, and this is one of those times. She sounded like a sweet person, I'm sorry for your loss. :(

If you want to talk, feel free to call me...
 

melly

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Life is not fair...and then it gets worse...

i feel your pain, and i'm sorry for your loss.
 

hdeck

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i know how you feel man. i recently lost a close friend. it's tough. use those around you for strength to make it through the day. there are no words that can give you real comfort during your time of mourning. just take things one day at a time.
 

Anubis

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Originally posted by: caramel
Life is not fair...and then it gets worse...

i feel your pain, and i'm sorry for your loss.

me to dude. im sorry to hear that. i didnt even know her but after reading that i feel sad now :(
 

illusion88

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Thats terrible. Just last week I responded to a college bound girl who was killed by a drunk driver. When we got on scene her car was flipped upside down and she was trapped unconcious in it. I reached in a felt her pulse on her neck. It was going slow but strong, after 15 seconds it started to drop rapidly. It got weeker and weeker until it stopped. My partner was on the driver of the other car. I really understand whats its like to lose someone to drunk driving. Man. Thats tragic. I really understand what you are going though. Best of luck with getting through this hard time in your life.

EDIT: added more about the call
 

Rufio

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thanks guys.

i am rreally mad right now.

just awhile, i lost ANOTHER friend from camp to a drunk driver. he was driving home for the summer vacation from school, and he got hit and passed away.

LIFE IS SO DAMN UNFAIR. I F*CKGING HATE drunk drivers.

 

Aceshigh

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God that's so terrible. It always seem like the drunk driver lives and the innocent person dies. This is very tragic.

This makes me so mad.:|

I'm very sorry about the loss of your friend.
 

halik

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i cant stand drunk drivers, those F*cking assholes should be put to death...if you kill someone like that you better off yourself in the process. No way in hell should that guy stay alive, no way
 

Anubis

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Originally posted by: halik
i cant stand drunk drivers, those F*cking assholes should be put to death...if you kill someone like that you better off yourself in the process. No way in hell should that guy stay alive, no way

i dont think i could possibily agree any more with you then i do
 

Rufio

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Originally posted by: TheEvil1
Originally posted by: halik
i cant stand drunk drivers, those F*cking assholes should be put to death...if you kill someone like that you better off yourself in the process. No way in hell should that guy stay alive, no way

i dont think i could possibily agree any more with you then i do

i sure agree on that. i want to go find that F&CKER and kill him.
 

Demosthenes

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intoxicated drivers....... worthless motherf*ckers. The guy that hit me and my friends got 10 years, I sure hope the courts can hand this one a sentence just as stiff...
 

crumpet19

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oh man, I'm sorry. I've lost friends in car accidents before and its no good at all. She seemed like a great person.
Just remember the times that you spent with her, the way that she touched you, and all of those other lives that she touched.

-christopher
 

AlienCraft

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I am very sorry for your loss. Take some comfort in knowing the many people she helped are better today for having known her.
You too.